Unusual/Embarassing Prob... Need guidance!

[silverwex]

Hey all,

Right, ill keep this short. I find this hard to write as its been the case with me so long and ive had to put up with it every day for an age.

When I was 11 i hit my head and a bump formed on the left side of my forehead. Normal enogh you say but the prob is the bump NEVER went away.

This has caused me great distress and has been eating away at me for several years (i was about 16 when someone first noticed it - i felt like a freak).

Now i can never wear my hair the way i like it, i always have to have a fringe (uggh!) and can never spike it up out of fear that someone will notice it (and yes it is VERY noticable in certain lights).

I went to the doc about it about 2 years ago. he tried to warn me off getting anything done about it (costs, you dont need to do this etc...) but Ill never stop worrting about it til i get it off me!

I recenly came into a bit of money and i wanna get it worked on, removed... whetever.

I have two courses:

1) Ask doc to refer me to a private hospital/plastic surgeon.

2) Do it myself and write to the individual companies.

Im thinking 1 is the best way to start.

Please help me here guys!

I reckon my anxiety and paranoia stems from this prob.

Thanks

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by silverwex
I have two courses:

1) Ask doc to refer me to a private hospital/plastic surgeon.

2) Do it myself and write to the individual companies.

Im thinking 1 is the best way to start.


I reckon my anxiety and paranoia stems from this prob.

1) Yes. Have the doctor recommend what you should do - if you tell him you're serious about having it taken care of, he'll stop telling you that you don't need to do it and instead refer you to a specialist.

2) I'd recommend against trying plastic surgery at home. However, if you feel you're up to it then take a drimmel, a pair of pliers, and a scalpel and give me a call on my cell phone. I'll be glad to guide you through the process step by step.

As for having it fixed being a instant cure for your anxiety and paranoia, it won't be. It might help slightly, but it's part of your nature now - instead of focusing on the bump you'll find something else... ask any girl who's gotten a nose job. Learning to like yourself for who you are is something that has to be worked at over time - even I haven't managed to accomplish that yet.

 

[bangoker]

so.... in 5 years (since you were 11 till you were 16) only 1 guy saw it?




o guess its not that bad...

why dont you put up some pics?

 

[AverageFC]

can we see a picture?

 

[MrFitness880]

go to a doctor

 

[silverwex]

Thanks guys.

Will ask the doc for a referral.

 

[Jariel]

I think Diablo is right in that having this removed won't cure your insecurity. I would guess that this lump is a symptom of your insecurity, not the cause.

It probably looks 10 times bigger and 10 times worse to you than it would to anybody else. And from what I've seen, women are rarely bothered by little things like this. I used to have a friend with a huge mole on his face and he had women flocking around him.

Sure, get the lump removed, but try to work on your self-esteem from a mental angle.

 

[Alpine]

If you read Psycho Cybernetics a book everyone here bangs on about, this is very relevant to you.

You see it works both ways. It's the meaning you attach to it.

A girl has a slightly big nose, has a nose job. She thinks it's still big and is still unhappy. In reality no one sees a difference.

A girl has a perfect nose, has a change and it spoils the perfection yet she thinks it's perfect, she's very happy.

The germans purposly scared a cheek with a sabre, the perception was of galantry and added to your attraction. Today it would be a bloke with a scare on his cheek.

If I was you I'd get in touch with Changing faces. They are a charity and deal with the psychological aspects of disfigurement.

Another one is Let's face it.

If you go to a surgeon's private consultation if it's not bad he will do it and you spend £6k or whatever. If it really is bad then you won't be able to afford it anyway and the NHS may help, but you will be too old to bother by the time the waiting list goes down.

Let's see a pic we can give you some honest feedback.

 

[silverwex]

I love you guys! never seem to let me down.

I know it wont cure all my insecurities but im sure itll help me more than just a bit.

Those help groups you meantioned alpine are not available here in ireland.

Ive also read Psycho-Cybernetics (sp?) and its a great book but no amount of telling myself its ok will make me feel better, i just want it gone.

(cant believe im discussing this... feels weird!).

Thanks again guys

PS - Im not really comfortable in posting a pic.

 

[smooth666]

Post a pic! How big is it? Be very,very careful with plastic surgery (never change a running system...). There can be complications with EVERY surgery and depending on what tissue it is it might come back after removal+ you will/might have a scar.

 

[Alpine]

OK, seems like your set on trying to get rid.

Either ask GP for an approved private consultant, but whatever you do make sure they are BAPS members and do work on the health service there.

Let us know how you get on I'd be interested to know.

 

[silverwex]

Alpine: cheers man.

Ill write to my doc and ask him for a letter of referral (over here each visit is at least 40 euro!).

Its not massive but is noticable in certain lights.

Imagine not being able to do your hair?

Imagine being paranid about it being seen/people commenting on it?

Imagine bringing a mirror out with ya when u socialise so that u can check it in the bathroom...

Yes i sound weird but hey, hoefully itll be gone within the year.

PS - I dont mind having a scar, actually i think a scar would look kinda cool on me! Anyway theres loads of new ways to reduce them if they look bad.

 

[Alpine]

Yeah,

I had a nasty 4" gash on my forehead (don't ask) they said it would scar badly because in wasn't a clean cut, but I got that silicone sheeting and in a year it was hardly noticable.

 

[Ice Cold]

What you have is called a hematoma, it is basically a blod clot formed under your skin or other tissue.

From what I've seen, it's not just the blood... it's clotted blood mixed with some living tissue... So you'll have to remove some of the epithelium or fat with the blood clot, and this can lead to serious problems.

No decent doctor will agree to operate on it.

Listen to smooth666... your body is fragile and delicate... Don't fix if it ain't broke.

Cheers

 

[silverwex]

Ice Cold, so what you mean is that ill never be able to get rid of this?

Yeah heard that word hematoma before alright. Gonna look into that more.

How do you know about this?

****, ice colds post has got me down now.

 

[silverwex]

An intracranial hematoma can be life-threatening. Emergency medical treatment often is necessary.

Um this sounds bad.

As more and more blood flows into the narrow space between your brain and skull, other signs and symptoms may become apparent, such asrogressive Lethargy

Im always kinda tired...

Epidural Hematoma: This occurs when a blood vessel — usually an artery — ruptures between the outer surface of the dura mater and the skull. The blood vessel usually is damaged by a skull fracture. Blood then leaks between the dura mater and the skull to form a mass that compresses the brain tissue.

Although only a small percentage of head injuries result in acute hemorrhage outside the dura mater, the risk of dying is substantial unless prompt treatment occurs. Some people with this type of injury may remain conscious, but most become drowsy or comatose from the moment of trauma.

Sounds like me

Intracranial bleeding (hemorrhage) is caused by an injury to the head, often as a result of automobile or motorcycle accidents or a seemingly trivial event, such as bumping your head.

Bumping of head... yes i think this is what i have.

**** guys!

 

[smooth666]

Do not get paranoid doing self diagnosis.
Either get
a) x-rays done (to see if is excessive skull-bone production as a result of your injury).
b) Ultrasound of the swelling done (to see if it is "soft" connective tissue).

If your injury is 11 years ago every hematoma will be gone by now and be replaced by connective tissue.

In both cases do not f++ck around with your body.

As long as you do not look like "hellboy" it is not worth the risk.

JMO!

 

[silverwex]

So smooth, you saying that i cant get it removed?

 

[smooth666]

Originally posted by silverwex
So smooth, you saying that i cant get it removed?

You can remove everything.

But:

The swelling came as a reaction to a trauma of this area of your head. Surgery to remove it will lead to a trauma of the tissue (you have to cut it) no matter if it is bony or soft tissue. As a result it might very likely respond with excessive tissue production AGAIN. You can TRY to inhibit this with prednisone (etc) but the long term results are ????? (plus prednisone inhibits your skin healing as well).

Considering it is your head and not your pinky toe that is affected, I would not do it.

JMO!

 

[Alpine]

Silverwex,

Stop fretting and get down the Docs, with respect, none of us are experts and even if we were we haven't seen it.

Do yourself a favour and don't look to a DJ forum for medical diagnosis.

I know your dead set on this op, you need valid info including success rates, possible complications etc.

There's little point in getting down, it serves you no purpose.