This is my first time here. I'm working hard at overcoming an avoidant personality to get out and meet people, and especially women. I've always had very poor success in the past with women, and it's contributed a lot to my avoidant personality.
This Friday I made myself go out, and it was a great success. Went out to a bar with a couple guys I work with, got a little drunk, lowered my inhibitions, and had fun.
But it was better than that, even, or so I thought. When we got there, we met with a couple other people one of my workmates knew. After a while, a friend of theirs showed up. She was a very attractive, though somewhat goofy/nerdy girl in an unflattering halloween costume, but you could tell that she had a nice figure underneath. Completely my type, let me tell you. I could tell immediately she was intimidated by me, because after introductions, she wouldn't even look at me for a good 5 minutes, even though there were just maybe five of us standing in a group talking (she was making eye contact with everyone else).
Well, a few minutes later I took my chance to get her talking. From there, things went great. She responded very positively for the rest of the night, we talked and played pool for the next hour or so until the bar closed. She stood very close to me and gave me all sorts of positive signals, and there's no question she was attracted and interested. Both of the guys I was with took the opportunity to pull me aside and say something like "she's totally into you, you'd better get her number." In fact, even HER friend indicated this to me.
And I did, as the bar was closing up. She even reminded me to call her as she left. So of course I was feeling great about this, because I never go out, and here I forced myself to go out and enjoy myself and it couldn't have gone better.
So I called her the next afternoon. I saw no reason to wait a couple of days. She had clearly been interested the night before, and like I said, she was a little goofy/nerdy and intimidated by me. I wanted her to know I was interested and serious about it. I got voicemail and I left a brief message saying I'd like to take her to dinner.
Now it's been almost 24 hours (made the call around 5:30 yesterday) and I haven't heard back. What should I make of this? Is it possible she's changed her mind about me that quickly? More importantly, what should I do if she never calls back? I'm certainly not hung up on this girl, since I barely know her. But still, we had a good connection and opportunities like this are few and far between for me. Plus it would be yet another in a long string of blows to my ego, and it's really starting to get to me.
It's still possible she'll call back later today, but I'm not optimistic about it. I was thinking I could give one more shot with a text if I don't hear from her by tomorrow evening. After all, I really don't have anything to lose. But can anyone give me insight into why she wouldn't call back? It really doesn't make sense to me. She wasn't drunk, I didn't do anything to offend her, and there was a clear attraction.
This Friday I made myself go out, and it was a great success. Went out to a bar with a couple guys I work with, got a little drunk, lowered my inhibitions, and had fun.
But it was better than that, even, or so I thought. When we got there, we met with a couple other people one of my workmates knew. After a while, a friend of theirs showed up. She was a very attractive, though somewhat goofy/nerdy girl in an unflattering halloween costume, but you could tell that she had a nice figure underneath. Completely my type, let me tell you. I could tell immediately she was intimidated by me, because after introductions, she wouldn't even look at me for a good 5 minutes, even though there were just maybe five of us standing in a group talking (she was making eye contact with everyone else).
Well, a few minutes later I took my chance to get her talking. From there, things went great. She responded very positively for the rest of the night, we talked and played pool for the next hour or so until the bar closed. She stood very close to me and gave me all sorts of positive signals, and there's no question she was attracted and interested. Both of the guys I was with took the opportunity to pull me aside and say something like "she's totally into you, you'd better get her number." In fact, even HER friend indicated this to me.
And I did, as the bar was closing up. She even reminded me to call her as she left. So of course I was feeling great about this, because I never go out, and here I forced myself to go out and enjoy myself and it couldn't have gone better.
So I called her the next afternoon. I saw no reason to wait a couple of days. She had clearly been interested the night before, and like I said, she was a little goofy/nerdy and intimidated by me. I wanted her to know I was interested and serious about it. I got voicemail and I left a brief message saying I'd like to take her to dinner.
Now it's been almost 24 hours (made the call around 5:30 yesterday) and I haven't heard back. What should I make of this? Is it possible she's changed her mind about me that quickly? More importantly, what should I do if she never calls back? I'm certainly not hung up on this girl, since I barely know her. But still, we had a good connection and opportunities like this are few and far between for me. Plus it would be yet another in a long string of blows to my ego, and it's really starting to get to me.
It's still possible she'll call back later today, but I'm not optimistic about it. I was thinking I could give one more shot with a text if I don't hear from her by tomorrow evening. After all, I really don't have anything to lose. But can anyone give me insight into why she wouldn't call back? It really doesn't make sense to me. She wasn't drunk, I didn't do anything to offend her, and there was a clear attraction.
