Unprovoked "I love you" text

[AmenBreak]

There's a housemate I am trying get out of the friend zone with. Have been escalating kino, hinting at my desires with giving mixed signals.

Recently she has been touching me a lot more, resting her head on my shoulder when we watch TV, I rested my head on her ass the other day when she was curled up on the couch and she started stroking my sideburns.

She is very hot but never makes out with guys, has never been in a LTR but sees lots of guys for coffee and **** in the day but as far as I know they all get LJBF.

She went out the other night after we had a conversation during the day about stuff she wants to do before she graduates. She has got this list, one of the things she wants to do is make out with a guy and another is sleep on the roof of our house among other stuff. So I told her I could help out with some of those things and she suggested we get drunk and stay out on the roof next week. So she goes out that night and at 12:30 I get "I love you AmenBreak x x x" completely out of the blue.

I totally lose my bottle and end up sending back "I love you, you having a good night? See you havn't dropped your phone down the toilet this time!" to which I get "Not yet, just hanging out with randoms, having a crazy night, ticking stuff off my list!. X x x"

Get the impression she probably made out with someone unless she was talking about something else on the list, can't think what it would be though. Just trying to work out if I am fully cemented in the friend zone now and what my plan should be for when we stay out on the roof, I guess whether or not she invites anyone else up there with us is a good indication.

Cheers.

 

[Captain]

It seemed like things were possibly going OK, then you messed it all up by saying "i love you". In a text message, no less. If you were joking, she didn't see it that way, because you can't get tone or emotion across in a text message.

You should have escalated things when you were watching TV on the couch, and either kissed or, or got yourself rejected. A rejection is not a failure, the only failure is wimping out and not making a move.

 

[RandallLambert]

Girls say "I love you" to anything and anybody nowadays. "I love you" is completely different from "I love you (so much)" . If she love loves you, she would make it very clear and you would know by now. If she isn't interested, then she isn't interested. But things like this really ought to be handled face to face! That way you can lean in and kiss her smoothly if needs be ;-)

 

[countermart]

The best reply to "I love you" was used by Han Solo of Star Wars fame.

PL: "I love you".
HS: "I know".

Or you could use something like,

"Of course you do."

or

"I love me too".

Anyway for next time.

Countermart.

 

[Willis]

Chicks Say I Love U To Everything That Walks Nowadays...she Might Love U But Is She In Love With U And Does She Wanna **** U

-those The Only 2 Things That Matter

 

[46and2aheadofme]

I think you need to pay more attention to the fact that she wants to get drunk with you on a roof/ sharing one of the important things on her "list" with you.

From my perspective, a girl who wants to get drunk with just you is a girl begging to hook up (unless getting drunk alone with guy friends is a regular occurrence for her).

When she was telling you about "making out" and "spending a night on a rooftop" you should have said "well maybe we can kill two birds with one stone".

And btw, that was an awful reply on the text message. I bet not replying to it, or waiting till morning and replying to it with a ****y/ funny would have been way more effective IMO.

Good luck.

 

[countermart]

Actually, you are on real dangerous ground! Seriously, the last girl that said she wanted to go up on the roof with me I ended up getting married to,... and look how that turned out after more than a decade!

This should be an iron rule! Never go up on the roof with a girl, or should it be never marry them...no, no, never go up on the roof with them, that’s where the whole bloody problem started, LOL.

OK know this. It’s darn dangerous on a roof with a girl when you are sober, let alone when you are drunk. Not only could you end up married, but you may also end up falling off. Either way you hit the ground hard.

The next girl that says she wants to go up on the roof with me, I’m going to push off and save myself plus three million bucks and an all expenses paid by me trip through the law courts.

So you are darn lucky you’re an incompetent ba*tard and mucked up on the whole “I love you thing”. I did not, and look where it got me!

Avoid those roof girls, they're bad news.

Countermart

 

[AmenBreak]

Well, she's going out again tonight, looking phenomenal. She made a point of coming in my room to say goodnight and to say that she missed me this weekend while she was away to which I responded "yeah i know".

She sort of jokily stormed off spun round and said "That's not the answer I wanted! I take that back!".

I wasn't the smoothest and not a particularly promising reaction but I feel a lot better than I did after the emasculating "I love you" incident.

 

[secks]

Usually, "I love you" means you're well into the friend zone and now a pretty good friend.

That's what the interactions sound like. However, she does seem kind of desperate.

Talk to her, and next time she goes out, tell her you want to come. Go out, have fun, don't hang around her the whole time. When you take her back to your apartment, hang out some, make a move.

The love talk, and friendly petting sounds like friend zone type of stuff, but you never know if you don't make a move. Things could get awkward if it doesn't work though.