Eph said:
That doesn't mean you spend all your time talking to and texting her.
Where have I ever mentioned that you should spend all your time talking to/texting chicks?
Read my thread again...It specifically says....that your objective is to spend the least amount of TIME, EFFORT, and money on chicks.....so, where are you getting this from? You just assume things without even understanding the entire subject....that is wrong!!
Eph said:
Texting on its own doesn't kill relationships, bad texting kills them.
Texting/calling measures IL...if the chick doesn't respond well to ONE of your calls/texts...the chances of you going out with her or getting laid is slim to none....that means there is low/no IL on her part....you would then know, that asking her out on a date is a waste of time!!
Texting measures interest level.....it screens out flakes.....it shows you which chicks are really interested in you or not.
If the chick is highly into the guy, then any extra texts he sends won't matter.....chicks always respond well to guys they like!!
They don't respond well to guys they are losing and have low interest in....again, the text isn't the problem here...it's her lack of interest that is....in which you don't seem you understand.
It is all about having interest and attraction
You and a couple of others, like to use "texting" as the excuse for the dead interest/relationship.... just because a text happened to be used....that is not the problem... the chick who has zero interest is the problem...you could use any form of communication and she still would have the same lack of interest
The celebrity remark is an example of interest....if the chick has high IL, then any text or call you make to her won't "kill" any interest at all...even if you send more texts to her ....which I never stated that you should.
Eph said:
Nothing wrong with answering a text or two that she's sent you, but again you shouldn't be spending all your time talking to and texting her.
Well, I suggest that you re-read my thread all over again....because nowhere in this thread do I endorse "spending all your time talking to and texting her"...I have no idea where you got that from...you are making up your own false assumptions!!
Guys who are afraid to call/text/initiate kino are weak men.....because they are always worried about what a chick may/may not think of them....that is why they fail with most women!!
Frayzer said:
This is ironic because the poster Jariel posted a thread about this site making you paranoid.
WTF are you talking about? So what? What he posted does not pertain to what I am saying here...this is common sense sh!t here dude...wake up!!
The only thing I see, is naivety from you and Jariel making these comments
Aren't you supposed to be "the prize" that women want?
So, if you are "the prize", then why should you have to settle for a chick who flaked on you?
If you were "the prize", wouldn't the chick make sure that she could actually be with you? Wouldn't she want another opportunity to see you if her excuse was legit?
This is how women behave around men who they view as "the prize"...they go out with the men they like, without making any excuses...they also make damn sure that there is always another time to hang out if they really can't.
Women ditch the guys they don't want to be with......they make time for the guys they want to be with!!
What do you do when you don't want to do something? You make up an excuse so you don't have to do it
Same thing as with these chicks....they make up an excuse so they don't have to go out with you.....And you want to waste your time by asking out an uninterested chick over and over again?..you will get the same results every time....a FAIL.
I responded to several guys who had chicks flaking on them.....other guys (like you) wanted them to keep trying to ask these chicks out.....I said that is a waste of time because the chicks are not interested....so, the guys wasted their time asking them out over and over again...each time they got a new excuse....finally they reported back that the chicks had no interest in them after all...if they listened to me the first time, they wouldn't have wasted their time on them in the first place!!
Frayzer said:
Sometimes theres an actual reason for a cancel/flake. The point is to be persistant but not obsessive. If you get flaked on, ask someone else and maybe a week or two later schedule with her again in a way that she cant really "avoid" to see if shes really interested.
What you are saying (along with the guys that give out bad advice, that you listen to) is a waste of time!!
"maybe a week or two later schedule with her again" you say? What good is that going to do when she doesn't even give a sh!t to hang out with you? Is she magically going to regain interest just because she hasn't heard from you in two weeks? C'mon man....get with it!!
Interested chicks make sure they are free on the day of your date...why? because they want to see you!!
Interested chicks will cancel plans and put you above their other interests so that they can see you!!
Uninterested chicks will find any excuse to flake on you....they don't want to go out with you....they are avoiding you!!
If there is a legitimate reason to cancel, the interested chick will make sure that another date will happen because she wants to see you...she will ask you to hang out!!
Why the hell would you keep being "persistent" with a chick who has no interest in hanging out with you?
If she had interest.....she would already be hanging out with you....if she had to cancel, she would be asking you to hang out...you wouldn't have to ask her again two weeks later while you hear nothing from her!!
Interested chicks want to be heard.......uninterested chicks don't give a sh!t...that's why you never hear from them...take the hint dude!!
So, you waited two weeks....you got two excuses... to finally find out that she wasn't interested in you....Like I said, that is a waste of time!!
With my way, you would know right away not to waste your time on a time waster...because she never showed any interest in hanging out with you right off the bat....that is how you can tell if she is interested or not!!
Frayzer said:
E.g: Im free x day(s) at x time(s) pick whats best for you.
What good is doing this, when the chick has no intentions of ever hanging out with you?...you will get another excuse from her... a waste of time!!
Uninterested chicks will always tell you they have something to do when you ask them out....or you might finally get a date, then you will be stupid enough to pay their way, in which you will get nothing in return.
Frayzer said:
Point is if she flakes dont go all AFC. Just find another girl who wont flake and after sometime ask the girl previous again. If you spin plates, none of this paranoia/oneitis will happen.
Sounds like you have "oneitis" because you advise us to keep asking the same flake out over and over again...why would you do that?
How the hell would you have "oneitis" when you put the flake at the bottom of your list until she shows interest in you?.....you aren't even talking to her!!
What you are saying (along with the other guys that you listen to) is "oneitis"....you have no other options, so you feel the need to keep asking the same flake out over and over again....you just contradicted yourself pretty badly dude...you don't even know what you are saying here!!
And why the hell would you ask out a flake again if you are chilling with other girls?....you shouldn't even give that flake a thought!!
When a chick flakes on you, there is a good chance that she has no interest....make her show you that she has interest in you before you ask her out again....so you are not wasting your time....How hard is that to understand? Paranoia? no dude....that is just common sense!!
Chances are, you won't ever hear from that chick again......so you would know there is no reason to even contact her at all.
You should have other chicks that you can go out with anyway...so why would you waste your time on a flake who has already turned you down?....doesn't make any sense to me!!
You should be busy fvcking the chicks who have interest in you.......instead of wasting time on a time waster who is stringing you along!!
Chicks flake on guys who they don't want to go out with.....they also flake because they get a better offer from another guy
I know chicks who do this sh!t ....they lie to guys so they don't have to go out with them....then they laugh about it behind their back...I had chicks cancel dates so they could chill with me instead, while the other guys thought they were at work or home sick in bed....this happens all the time dude....wake up!!
Frayzer said:
And the texting/phone call should only be used to setup dates.
So, a chick is magically going to have higher interest in you if you just call/text to set up a date? LOL
If a chick has no interest in you.....the text/phone call to set up the date won't work out too well.
If a chick is not receptive to any calls or texts...she has low IL....then you know that the date is not going to happen...you won't be getting laid!!
Chicks will not lose interest in a guy they like, just because he calls or texts them....that is ridiculous!!
Interest is what counts......either the chick has it or doesn't....if she has high IL, you have to fvck it up to lose that high interest....calling/texting won't lose that interest!!
Grab some experience dude....you're still in High School...you have a lot to learn.....and don't believe everything you read from these unknowledgeable posters!!