Pretty much says it all.Francisco d'Anconia said:Insanity loves company.
Pretty much says it all.Francisco d'Anconia said:Insanity loves company.
Non Juan said:These girls (and boys) all relate to the world differently to the majority of the population. Everyones different sure, but these people are eccentric in their ways. That isn't to say that they are perceived as being strange by people. But that they have some negative or warped core beliefs, that when the surface of their persona is peeled away a bit, start to show through in their actions.
Non Juan - this is the best description I've ever seen of how hot borderlines lead on guys building "illusion of bond" for their own brief emotional validation and then discarding all to friend zone, which most dudes happily accept.Ok i'm getting a strong feeling here, that in the past, quite a lot of you guys have had your hearts 'home runned' out of the stadium of love by this sort of woman.
Well, me too. I thought i'd found my 'soul mate' and all that. Turns out that while she probably really did like me, she has armies of wet, soppy lovestruck suitors that she rejects all the time. The funny thing is, even after rejection, they all believe her to be an amazingly beautiful person, who is afflicted with beauty of mind and body and cannot help but have men throw themselves at her, at which time she must re-frame the relationship back into 'just friends'. None of them though, seem to ask the question;
'why are literally hundreds of fully functioning men, declaring a deep love for her, when nothing solid has happened between them? When there are plenty of other attractive women out there who obviously get hit on, but there is much less of this infatuation, and love proclaiming drama happening around them'.
The reason is exactly whats been said in this thread - she creates the illusion of bond and attraction, draws the poor fools in with subtle suggestion and reflection of love and desire, before casting them off at the first hint of real-world romantic interaction. Why does she do this? because she doesn't like herself (in my case), and she creates these intense feelings in the boys so that they tell her they are in love with her, and boom! A small piece of much needed self validation. All this is pointless though, because she knows that she is creating the love vibe herself, therefore the validation has no substance. But she still keeps doing it, and as soon as a guy takes the first step into the maze of confusion, she loses all respect for him, but will carry the game on until the end. It's a vicious cycle where she puts men through the meat grinder for a slither of short-lived ego boosting validation. However she gets nowhere in her quest to improve her self-esteem, the guys get their hearts broken, and her disdain for men in general probably increases due to their gullible nature and so the cycle continues.
But about this girl i'm interested in. I'm not infatuated with her in the slightest . Sure, i'd give her a chance, but while staying emotionally detached.
So, can anyone give me some practical advice on how to get in with this girl? I mean someone is going to be getting jiggy with her, and they will be doing something that she finds attractive. I'm interested as to what that is!
Someone wrote a list of tips on what to do once i'm involved with her, but what do I do to actually get involved with her in the first place?!
Cheers!
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Another great post!Well the BPD/HPD co-woker girl (whatever she was) I was involved with. She had just gotten dumped by her boyfriend (surprise!) and started taking an interest in me. Gorgeous girl, before this I never imagined a girl like this could be attracted to me.
I became the center of her universe for a few months there and it was like being on drugs. She was affectionate, etc.
At some point I knew something was off... she acted like we had known each other forever and were perfect for each other, and I couldn't believe that I actually wanted space from HER, but I did. She did lots of things that were mean and cruel, then the next day would act like nothing ever happened--- I started becoming obsessed with her.
The next few months were the worst of my life. This girl did everything in her power to make me feel like crap.
It's just a constant game of pulling you close, smacking you around, then ignoring you.... over and over. I couldn't sleep for months. It's called "Walking on eggshells" for a reason. For a few months there I don't think I got more than a couple hours of sleep a night. I was basically dead, couldn't enjoy time with friends, couldn't concentrate at work, I just withdrew into a shell. All the joy of life, gone. And the whole time I wanted to be with her. I'm seriously lucky to even be here talking about this, because I didn't think I'd make it.
I finally discovered what BPD was and learned to ignore her for GOOD, she kept trying to get my attention but after a few months of this she got a new job and split. It's been about a year now and it still gives me the chills, but there was something in me that allowed a girl like this into my life. I guess posting this helps to give me some closure.
I guess the point I'm making is, these gorgeous girls can make you feel like a million dollars, but you have no clue what you're getting involved with. And if you think you're strong enough to take it, you really should look in the mirror and ask why you would want to go down this road.
For me it was actually good, because it got to show me all the things in myself that had to change.
Yeah, and tell them not to eat the same food everyday + give them some roids.Put them on a diet...clean foods,no junk food and take their ass to the gym...
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Sounds good...just make sure it's something non-virilizing like Anavar tho...don't want their cl!t growing into a d!ck...they might end up more hung than you...lmao!Yeah, and tell them not to eat the same food everyday + give them some roids.
They call women like her "black widows", they suck the juice out of you till your depleted of life. She will be trading pain for any pleasure she allows you to feel, and in the end it's definately not worth it. They really get a kick when the figure out they can hurt you alot more from not helping you, not being sexual with you and cheating on you ontop of it.You really want to know what fooling around with a bpd women will get you? Here you go, I've always been good with women, got laid all the time. I had no idea bpd even existed and then I married her! I kicked her out and will be filing for divorce but you know what? She's still in my ****ing head. I still want her, even though she's threatening to kill me. This is mental and emotional hell, I'm defeated mentally, and I can't seem to get away from her. Run like bloody hell and please don't mess around with her! It's going to take years for me to get my mojo back, at this point it's a daily struggle. Her claws are in me, in my soul, I'm ****ed.
That knife wound below was caused during crazy sex, she had it hidden under the blanket, and pulled it out while she was riding and started slicing. Claiming i deserved it because I had did something to piss her off.
Her dad's a traditional Mexican, boss of the house, his way or the highway type. She was kept in the house locked up and only allowed to go to school and one hour outside a day. Not sure if that means anything. Relationship was very hot and furious, there was plenty of red flags but like i said I didn't even know what bpd was so I got hit full force.yikes!
Did she have daddy/mommy issues?
Did relationship start fast with idealization, then push/pull?
Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.