Unfortunately i´m not blessed

[FabioM]

It´s another day i´m down and frustrated with my sexual and social life (or lack of it) that i needed to wright about it and ask for help and experience from you guys in here.

Throughout my life i´ve never been loved by women and now i´m already used to being rejected by them but still i insist in improving myself and i have the faith to someday get alot of action or at least some action.

I watch those guys that women think they are cute and i think "why am i not blessed with a gorgeous eyes or a pretty face?" or "why wasn´t i blessed with good athletic skills and have to hang on to this skinny body and legs?"

I begin to make improvements in myself some 5 years ago and begin bodybuilding which is my favourite hobbie and i can´t stand being out of the gym for much longer but to my incosistence i only improved a little.

I remeber when i was beefing up girls started noticing me and i got some looks at school and even got some girls think i was cute but since i hadn´t game for them i was stuck and never got any action. Gone away from school and since we move on in life things change.

In the present day i work in the airport and i see alot of hot babes and i work with HB too,but what i get is lack of attetion from them,as they don´t care about me,and don´t show a single bit of interest.

SOmetimes i think it´s because i have skinny legs (yes i train them in the gym ) and i´m not hot but i watch my friend who´s also skinny but he still get looks from women,which makes me think i´m ugly or have an unhappy face which make women not like me.

I even notice when i´m walking in the airport,some girls turn their faces



If i´ve got looks from girls and they said i was cute in the past i get confused about this...does my unhappiness appear in my face making them not shoing interest?

Is it because being skinny is really a turn off for them?

I see so many hot and cute girls everyday and i don´t get even one.

How´s this possible with average looks?

Well hopefully i hope bodybuilding help me improve my body alot but if women don´t look at me now,how are they going to show interest even if i get a great body?

Is your body a usefull tool for you?

Do you think you are ugly and fit but you see interest from girls?

I´m losing my faith here and makes me think i´m going to marry an ugly gal avoiding getting alone in life but i hope someday this will improve.


P.S: Sorry about my english as i´m not english

 

[Ars Amoris]

Hi Fabio, stop worring about how girls think you look its what you think about yourself thats important here and that will be obvious to you when you read all the posts and articles on this site. Its not just about training your body its also about training your mind, self improvement mentally as well as physically. You need to learn to relax, from that comes confidence and self assurance. Girls have the worlds best radar when it comes to detecting lack of self confidence in a guy. Learn to chill out. Here's an exercise that might help you to loosen up a bit. Sit in a chair and try to relax starting from your fit and working your way up your body (I know this sounds a little flaky but bear with me. As you relax the muscles in your body try to feel where your muscles are tensing. You'll probably find that one of the places that you have the most probs is in your face. Right where chicks can see it. Try to do this while remaining as still as possible for about 5 minutes and then move your body just a little bit so that you can get a better feeling of whether you still have some tensed muscles. Do this for 15 minutes every day. Okay the payoff of this method is that you learn to be able to feel if your muscles are starting to tense at a very early stage. Because you have practised doing this while sitting still it means that you can learn to relax your muscles while being still and therefore can do it anywhere without anyone(especially chicks) noticing. This should help to give you the appearance of being relaxed and confident in their company. In the forum you will find many exercises to help build your confidence with girls and your self esteem but this exercise (from Stanislavsky method acting) will help give you the appearance of being relaxed which sometimes is half the battle. Keep reading the advice here and good luck my friend.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Looks do matter. I dont care what these ppl say it matters. For every 1 ugly fat guy with a hb. there r a million fat uglies that are lonely and dpressed.

Your bad attitude comes through. You are not approachable and u lack the social skills to make up for your flaws. Meditate and find away to pump YOURSELF UP, as the ugly guy your body and personality are your #1 tools, work on them.

stop feeling sorry for yourself. Work that sh.it out on your own time. Reading this shiit gets everyone one else down.

 

[libre]

Bom dia

Bom dia Fabio

Remember that you must find happyness in yourself. Sure having a girlfriend can do wonders for you, however, having a girlfriend is not essential for your happyness.

I suggest that you concentrate yourself in activities that will make you happy. How about learning to play a musical instrument, or joining groups that visit museums, or any other social groups? You will have fun in the activities and you will get to meet people. You never know what life will bring you if you take other constructive steps.

How about using your familly or your friends to introduce you to girls?

I visited part your country with my soon spouse to be about 20 years ago. We stayed in Sao Pedro de Moel, Porto, ... I loved this trip. You have a very beautifull and extremely interesting country.

Adeus.

 

[joekerr31]

if you aren't happy with yourself and you get a girl you'll only develop a neurotic codependent relationship.

even once you get her you'll be thinking about when she will wake up and see that she's with a loser and will leave you.

think of it like sports man.
if i throw you the ball and all you're thinking about is "oh my god what if i dont catch it. or what if i catch it and the corner back is right there and knocks the living **** out of me with a tackle. or what if i catch it, avoid the tackle, but trip and fumble the ball." then when I DO throw you the ball it bounces off your head and you look like a chump.

don't think, just DO. focus on catching that ball and believe that THIS TIME you are going to avoid the tackle and run for hte touch down and be hte hero of the game.

YOU GOTTA BELIEVE you can do it. and even if you drop the pass, get back in the game and believe that next time is going to be YOUR TIME TO SHINE. you WILL eventually catch the ball and run for the touch down.

that's all there is to life man. you just gotta believe it's possible.

and even if its not possible, who cares, your life will have been no worse off for having tried.

trust me, you can learn how to game but it wont help you find what you're looking for until you learn to believe that you are a good person and that some chic is LUCKY to have you - not the other way around.

J

 

[Bible_Belt]

And stop defining your success with your luck in the airport. Travelers are busy and stressed, as you know. Try to find somewhere that women are enjoying themselves, and they will be more friendly toward you.

 

[Soprano]

Meet girls when they are having fun... travelling aint fun lol, especially in airports these days

don't worry about your looks, they aint goin away.

check this out

1. i'm fairly ugly
2. i'm overweight

BUT

Despite those two things working against me (the two things i can admit, god knows what else is working against me), I can still get girls numbers and emails...

you just gotta work on your game

 

[al77]

Originally posted by FabioM

..."why wasn´t i blessed with good athletic skills and have to hang on to this skinny body and legs?"

...but to my incosistence i only improved a little.

I remeber when i was beefing up girls started noticing me and i got some looks at school and even got some girls think i was cute but since i hadn´t game for them i was stuck and never got any action.

...but what i get is lack of attetion from them,as they don´t care about me,and don´t show a single bit of interest.

...does my unhappiness appear in my face making them not shoing interest?

Fabio,
I want to cry with you.
Man, you have to sort it out first and then got all frustrated.
Why do you think about your skinny legs? You dont wear anything but shorts all year around? Wear cool jeans or decent pants and forget about skinny legs. Women cannot see through your pants

If you improved a little, well what do you do about it? Did you figure out what was wrong? Chnage your routine? Did you know what to do to really improve? First figure out what to do.

When you were beefing up, I can assure you, girls were not noticing you. YOU started noticing them - you got more confidence and more testosterone. So? Keep it up - go hit the gym, and get that confidence and "girls' looks". Whats teh problem? Even if you don't bulk up much, you still gain those two things.

You want girls to pay attention to you? Man.. you seem got it all wrong. It is you, man who hunt women, not the other way around. It is you who go to the gym, elevate you testosterone, go out , notice girls, approach, talk etc... Girl will not approach you. You have to change you concept here.

Of course it matter when you shine with ahppiness, but t answer you question - it doesn't realy matter for you. Girl do not approach us: average looking guys. You have to start approach them.
If you are skinny like me, just wear pants (hide, hide your skinny legs ok), wear a good shirt and go sarge. The problem is to get out and approach women, it is not about being skinny or average looking.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by FabioM
It´s another day i´m down and frustrated with my sexual and social life (or lack of it) that i needed to wright about it and ask for help and experience from you guys in here.

Throughout my life i´ve never been loved by women and now i´m already used to being rejected by them but still i insist in improving myself and i have the faith to someday get alot of action or at least some action.

I watch those guys that women think they are cute and i think "why am i not blessed with a gorgeous eyes or a pretty face?" or "why wasn´t i blessed with good athletic skills and have to hang on to this skinny body and legs?"

I begin to make improvements in myself some 5 years ago and begin bodybuilding which is my favourite hobbie and i can´t stand being out of the gym for much longer but to my incosistence i only improved a little.

I remeber when i was beefing up girls started noticing me and i got some looks at school and even got some girls think i was cute but since i hadn´t game for them i was stuck and never got any action. Gone away from school and since we move on in life things change.

In the present day i work in the airport and i see alot of hot babes and i work with HB too,but what i get is lack of attetion from them,as they don´t care about me,and don´t show a single bit of interest.

SOmetimes i think it´s because i have skinny legs (yes i train them in the gym ) and i´m not hot but i watch my friend who´s also skinny but he still get looks from women,which makes me think i´m ugly or have an unhappy face which make women not like me.

I even notice when i´m walking in the airport,some girls turn their faces



If i´ve got looks from girls and they said i was cute in the past i get confused about this...does my unhappiness appear in my face making them not shoing interest?

Is it because being skinny is really a turn off for them?

I see so many hot and cute girls everyday and i don´t get even one.

How´s this possible with average looks?

Well hopefully i hope bodybuilding help me improve my body alot but if women don´t look at me now,how are they going to show interest even if i get a great body?

Is your body a usefull tool for you?

Do you think you are ugly and fit but you see interest from girls?

I´m losing my faith here and makes me think i´m going to marry an ugly gal avoiding getting alone in life but i hope someday this will improve.


P.S: Sorry about my english as i´m not english

Well, your post sounds like somebody begging for pitty, so here it goes:

"Poor me! Poor me! Why me? Why me? Why do bad things always happen to good people? Poor me!"


Ok, now onto the help. Fist of all, you need to stop it with that whole "Pitty Party" you got going. You got that victim mentality going and it seems to be working for you, yet it is not yielding the results you want. Women can see, hear, smell, feel that insecurity, therefore it becomes your reality, as in Self Fulfilling Profecy. Get to work on your inner game.

Are you an "Arms Only Bodybuilder"? Start working out your legs and you will grow more.

Do you have a very serious look on your face, specially when you make eye contact with women? ( I have this, so women have gotten intimidated in the past, working on it) Do you make and keep eye contact? Do you smile?

Do you walk like a monkey? You know, with protracted shoulder and round back, like some of those gym guys. Make sure you have very good posture.

There is also a very good chance that you are already getting a lot of looks from women, yet you don't notice it. Isn't it funny how you notice it easy when it is your friend who gets the looks, yet you are not sure when women are checking you out.