UNDERSTANDING womens MOOD SWINDS, LTR

[pipe007]

It just amazes me how women can QUICKLY go from being totally into you, to dropping interest level to 0!!

I mean seriously, this game is not fair, we men , are very emotionally stable, if we like a girl today or find her attractive today, chances are that we still are going to find that girl attractive months from now... we know what we want.

women can tell you they love you, they want you, sex you, give you what you want one day, and the next you can slowly watch how it all disapears, now i know how to act in these situations, but if your new to this; then watching how a women slowly backs away from you feels like hell, and THAT will make you more needy and clingy which ultimately gives her an instant "eww" feeling for you. And then she won't even give you a friendship, she will be annoyed by your phone calls.... and you are left clueless...

so is that pretty much the nature of most women??? i need some enlightment, is any woman im with will go through periods of high and low interest? ive learned not to react at all when women display low interest and just ignore it or give low interest myself, is that the way to deal with that?

is spinning various plates at the same time, the only way to not get sucked into those mood swings???

I mean if you are in a LTR, and you are happy with it, you are probably not spinning other plates, so how do you deal as a man with interest level swings, without becoming needy at the sign that her interest level is droping??... do you guys just next at the first signs of Low interest? or have I not met yet the right type of women? women who will maitain high interest level all the time in a relationship?

getting the girl is sure easy, keeping interest level, and keeping the girl seems to be the real challenge....
there is not a lot of advice around on how to maintain solid long term relationships AND THAT IS WHY WE ARE HERE FOR AT THE END

can you guys give your very best expert advice on long term relationships?
HOW DID THE BEST OF YOU, LEARNED TO MAINTAIN A STRONG FRAME THAT YOU WONT GET SUCKED INTO NEEDINESS WHEN A WOMAN STARTS TO SHOW SIGNS OF LOW INTEREST,,,, and keep your strong frame as a man?? if you have invested a lot in a LTR, its easy to get sucked into their mood swings....

all i read around here is
BE WILLING TO WALK AWAY at any second, and NEXT, but I need a deeper understanding of why women can be all over you one day, and drop that to the point where you are so confused, maybe clueless where you end up LJBFded..... THE GAME IS NOT FAIR!!!!!... how can we make it fair ???

 

[pipe007]

sorry about the tittle, i meant to say mood swings lol

 

[Bible_Belt]

fwiw, I doubt that even women understand their emotions that well. They often could not explain themselves even if they really tried.

It sounds like you are more concerned with bridging the gap between dating and the LTR. You have identified your own problem here:

then watching how a women slowly backs away from you feels like hell, and THAT will make you more needy and clingy which ultimately gives her an instant "eww" feeling for you. And then she won't even give you a friendship, she will be annoyed by your phone calls.... and you are left clueless...

That's all on *you* - not her. You have to learn to manage your own emotions or every women will eventually destroy you. You can control yourself a hundred times more easily than you will control or even predict her emotions.

When you have these great first dates or first few dates, walk away from each one satisfied, and not planning your future with the girl. You are creating expectations in your head - when they shatter is when you feel upset. Try to do the opposite - do not create expectations beyond tonight. Get the most that you can out of the girl tonight, because regardless of how she acts now, you know that all of that changes quickly.

 

[Sir_Turtle]

Besides, this forum is probably the worst possible place to ask about oong term relationships.

The ONLY way a relationship can be stable is for a girl and a guy to both commit themselves to unconditionally love and serve the other's intrests regardless of their own.

What you're talkin about is a relationship based on attraction. These types of relationships inevitably fail. attraction is nothing more than a chemical high that makes sure we reproduce.

In order for a relationship to be long term it has to be based on somethign that isn't short term. such as commitment,children,religious values...

If its based on attraction its gonna crap out. you need to go for different girls than the Hoes most of the guys here go for.

 

[pipe007]

yea, that is true, relationships fail because men fail to choose the right women to have a relationship with in the first place....

if you choose a girl for LTR based on attraction alone, then when it is gone after a few months, then it would make sense that interest level starts to drop... so maybe the only solution is to find a woman who is at the level where she feels ready to be committed and loyal to potential long term relationship...

i plan on eventually marrying one girl, my dream girl, and to make it last till the day i want to... my parents are still together, they been married for 30 years, and he tells me that, he just knew things were going to work out with her, and she knew too... and they took it from there... I mean i dont want to sound AFC, but wouldnt most of you guys just want to have the skill to attract that perfect girl and keep her for the long run?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Alright PIPE, I'm going to let you in on a secret to unlocking one of the deepest cosmic mysteries that plagues men - women's menstrual cycle.

After almost 13 years of marriage I've learned that the best way to deal with mood swings and PMS is to expect it. That might sound stupid-simple, but it works. I have my wife's menstrual cycle down to a science, I know exactly where she is right now with regards to her upswing and drop off. The menstrual cycle is exactly that - a cycle. Begining from her "rag week" (lowest end) she progressively becomes more normalized into week 1. By the end of week 1 she's downright amorous and I adjust my attituded to accommodate her. Into week 2 she gets horny and sex is usually best in this window. She's touchy-feely and affectionate, and gets upset if I have to be away from her for some reason. Mid to end week 2 and it's ON. Into week three, and we're on the down side of the bell curve. Sex is "OK, I'll-do-it-for-my-husband" and by the end of the week it's b!tch-mode engage. By end week 3 into her menstruation week I know sex is out of the question (well, I do get hummers during her down cycle) and I have to put my head into hybernation until the following week.

This is one of the most valuable things I've ever learned about women. Anticipating her moods with regards to her cycle and adjusting my considerations accordingly. I NEVER make, or allow her to influence, any decisions of any gravity during her down cycle. I've also learned to apply this to the women I work with and use it to my advantage once I have their schedule somewhat pegged (women dont like you to know when their periods are because they KNOW that they're subject to more emotionalism that affects their judgement). Most women living and working in close proximity have a tendency to synchronize their cycles too, so this makes dealing with them in a work environment that much easier. My old friend and work associate and I used to actually track the ladies in our office cycles' on a dry-erase calender since we were the only men in the office. If it was a "red week" we knew it was pointless to argue anything relating to our work projects, whereas if it were a "peak week" we could get things done efficiently. This schedule was predictable like clockwork.

Also, the majority of sh!t tests a woman will deliver occur during the downside of the cycle. Expect them and pass them, and on the upcycle you will reap the rewards. This sh!t is gold, I don't know why I'm not charging for this information,..

I should also ad that, once a guy is able to read the signs of a woman's cyclic point, he can also apply this to his sarge. The single DJ can use this handily to his own advantage if he knows how to accurately read a woman at the peak of her cycle. Women in their ovulatory peak are far more sexually accessible than women on the downcycle of the bell curve and a DJ can adjust technique in a sarge if he can figure this out. This may not be possible with a random woman in the clubs, but if there is a woman you are familiar with and PAY ATTENTION well enough to observe her moods over a couple of weeks you can better plan a sarge (assuming there's IL of course). This isn't a magic bullet, but it is a useful tool for the DJ tool box.

Also, tt should go without saying, but I'll add the warning, that if you do indeed F-close during this peak, be sure you wear a condom. You're essential knocking it out with a woman at the top of her fertility window, so buyer beware.