So as some of you may know I've met this girl, she's great. She has a BF, and is confused as to who she wants.
I have gotten to know this girl more intimately than any girl before in my life. She has actually made me more aware of what I want in a woman. Ok, she has a good body (she's a swimmer) and she's pretty. But she's not beautiful. I'd say a 6.5 on looks. Guess what?
My rating of her shot up to an 8 as soon as I started talking to her. She's really intelligent and can talk to me about all the stuff I'm interested in, we talk for hours. She's creative, I've always admired people who can write well. She wrote this really beautiful poem the other day. It's awsome how a personality can shoot up someones "rating", I never thought this was possible before. (How shallow was I! )
After our first date, I was like "I'm not really sure about her." But once I got to know her I knew I could be with this woman. Now I might be LJBF'd depending on if she still wants her BF. I actually felt like crying at the thought of "losing" her (AFC). Dreaded ONE-ITIS.
It's a different kind of one-itis, in that I KNOW she isn't the only one, but I just really want her.
So I got to thinking, what causes one-itis? EVERY woman you meet will be different in both looks and personality. They will have different tastes, hobbies, and opinions. I guess the thought that I will NEVER meet another woman EXACTLY the same as her isn't very nice.
She IS special, and unique. But then what I realised is although she's unique - she has TRAITS that a lot of women have. She can write, which I love. But it's not actually the writing I like, it's that she's CREATIVE.
Then I got to thinking how I've always liked the idea of dating a singer/artist/sculptor/writer.
Also, I will never meet a woman that knows the same stuff she knows. But it's not WHAT she knows that attracts me to her, it's just that she's INTELLIGENT and has a wide general knowledge.
So in order to help me get rid of the one-itis feelings, I write down what TRAITS she has that I like (and these are me being totally honest):
- Creative/artistic
- Intelligent
- Sense of humour
- Easy to talk to (People person)
- Great ass
- Great body
- Not fat
Then I realised that, although she is a great person. Being upset about "losing" her makes as much sense as if I walk up to a girl with a nice pair of tits and say "Can I have your number?", then she replies "Piss off you freak!" and I go home and cry about it because I will never find another girl with great tits again! LOL!
Because just as everyone's body is unique, so is their personality.
I have always thought about who I thought the sexiest "famous" woman in the world was. But I always change my mind, why? Cos' they all have something appealing about them.
The fact is I can easily find another woman with those traits I listed, maybe not all of them. But then again she might have traits my one-itis does not. So if you're suffering from one-itis, make a list like I did. A list of TRAITS you like in your one-itis. Don't be too specific (e.g. blonde, 5 foot 2, blue eyes, freckle on left cheek ).
You will soon realise that, although your oneitis is great. She actually has traits that PLENTY of other woman will share, in their own unique way!
Well I hope this helps someone out there. All I know is this idea helped me feel A LOT better.
Regards
Santos
I have gotten to know this girl more intimately than any girl before in my life. She has actually made me more aware of what I want in a woman. Ok, she has a good body (she's a swimmer) and she's pretty. But she's not beautiful. I'd say a 6.5 on looks. Guess what?
My rating of her shot up to an 8 as soon as I started talking to her. She's really intelligent and can talk to me about all the stuff I'm interested in, we talk for hours. She's creative, I've always admired people who can write well. She wrote this really beautiful poem the other day. It's awsome how a personality can shoot up someones "rating", I never thought this was possible before. (How shallow was I! )
After our first date, I was like "I'm not really sure about her." But once I got to know her I knew I could be with this woman. Now I might be LJBF'd depending on if she still wants her BF. I actually felt like crying at the thought of "losing" her (AFC). Dreaded ONE-ITIS.
It's a different kind of one-itis, in that I KNOW she isn't the only one, but I just really want her.
So I got to thinking, what causes one-itis? EVERY woman you meet will be different in both looks and personality. They will have different tastes, hobbies, and opinions. I guess the thought that I will NEVER meet another woman EXACTLY the same as her isn't very nice.
She IS special, and unique. But then what I realised is although she's unique - she has TRAITS that a lot of women have. She can write, which I love. But it's not actually the writing I like, it's that she's CREATIVE.
Then I got to thinking how I've always liked the idea of dating a singer/artist/sculptor/writer.
Also, I will never meet a woman that knows the same stuff she knows. But it's not WHAT she knows that attracts me to her, it's just that she's INTELLIGENT and has a wide general knowledge.
So in order to help me get rid of the one-itis feelings, I write down what TRAITS she has that I like (and these are me being totally honest):
- Creative/artistic
- Intelligent
- Sense of humour
- Easy to talk to (People person)
- Great ass
- Great body
- Not fat
Then I realised that, although she is a great person. Being upset about "losing" her makes as much sense as if I walk up to a girl with a nice pair of tits and say "Can I have your number?", then she replies "Piss off you freak!" and I go home and cry about it because I will never find another girl with great tits again! LOL!
Because just as everyone's body is unique, so is their personality.
I have always thought about who I thought the sexiest "famous" woman in the world was. But I always change my mind, why? Cos' they all have something appealing about them.
The fact is I can easily find another woman with those traits I listed, maybe not all of them. But then again she might have traits my one-itis does not. So if you're suffering from one-itis, make a list like I did. A list of TRAITS you like in your one-itis. Don't be too specific (e.g. blonde, 5 foot 2, blue eyes, freckle on left cheek ).
You will soon realise that, although your oneitis is great. She actually has traits that PLENTY of other woman will share, in their own unique way!
Well I hope this helps someone out there. All I know is this idea helped me feel A LOT better.
Regards
Santos