Unbalanced relationships

The Duke

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My most successful relationships have always been with women that were into me more than I was into them. I had all the power, they were chasing me, and it was really easy for me to stay "alpha". I'd always get called out for being a "dihk", but it never seemed to hurt their attraction to me. In fact I think it helped most of the time. I ended up leaving these women.

I've been in 2 relationships that were closer to being 50/50 in terms of how much each other cared. Over time, I started to lose power/control and her attraction dropped. Its always with the ones that I am highly attracted to personality AND looks wise that end up not lasting. Its not that I put them on a pedestal, more like I think very highly of them because they had everything I wanted and I verbalized this. This is likely where I've gone wrong? The more I did it, the more I gave my power/control away and the more her attraction for me dropped.
 

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Makes sense. You lose power when you lose options (plates). Subconsciously they're aware of this and will downshift IL in respect to your present SMV.
 

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Now your getting how the game works.

I say this all the time: The minute you care MORE about the relationship than the women does is the minute you LOSE the game.

Every relationship is a power struggle on some level. Sentimental blue pill betas refuse to accept this reality, preferring instead to live in Disney delusion chasing unicorns that don't exist. They can keep doing this at their own peril.

It should be obvious to most men paying attention that women DON'T commit. What they do is use sex, emotional manipulation and psychological fear to get MEN to commit to them. Men believe a woman's thirst for his devotion means that SHE has already committed to him. FALSE. She will never commit. Her only commitment is to her agenda. Not to any other human being.

Spin plates until the day you die. There is no better way to keep your leverage and perspective. Bottom line.. commitment to women overvalues them. They are not worthy of 100% commitment. This is why historically, high level men and kings always had harems. Even low level men had multiple women. Marriage was to keep women in check NOT men. Today's men have become too sappy and co-dependent.

MEN: There is no benefit to being a sap. ZERO.
 
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