Um what?

[aec2016]

So I've been hooking up with this guy for about a month. I was cool with this at first because I had just gotten out of a 4 year long relationship but as time progressed I realized this just "hooking up" isn't for me. He asked if he could come hold me and so I told him I didn't want to become someone who just stays in the house and that we needed to explore beyond his room.

His response was, "I understand what you're saying. Well said"

Uhhh what?

 

[MrWood]

cute hamster you have
troll bait, next

 

[mojones1990]

If he just wants a sex I think he would've given you a no, definitely not "i understand what you're saying. Well said". Now, if he's a jerk who doesn't want to be upfront I think he would've just ignored OP or it would have been something "oh ok".

Matter of fact to me him saying "well said" seems like he's sort of agreeing. I don't think it's a brush off.

 

[RangerMIke]

Don't worry about what he says... see what he does. If nothing changes it's a brush off and if you don't like it just dump him. If he starts making some changes, then you have someone willing to communicate and you can work with this.

Just don't torture the guy, if he's not giving you what, just cut him loose, don't be a b!tch and hope to drive him off, or try to 'change' him. If you were a guy you would get the same advice from me. Dating is supposed to be fun. The minute it stops being less fun and more work is time to move on.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Lol I read this posts title in a woman's voice.

 

[Desdinova]

as time progressed I realized this just "hooking up" isn't for me. He asked if he could come hold me and so I told him I didn't want to become someone who just stays in the house and that we needed to explore beyond his room.

In other words, you want a relationship with him, correct?

 

[Desdinova]

He then asked to see me 4 days in a row recently and asked for me to skip work so that we could spend the day together.

Did you do nothing but fvck for those four days? Did you do nothing but fvck on the day you skipped work?

 

[Desdinova]

No not even that. I'm not there yet lol.

Then I don't see the reason why you're giving him an ultimatum. You want more than just sex with him, but you don't want a relationship. WTF are you aiming for?

You obviously have no clue what you want out of him because your emotions are bouncing all over the place. He was smart to just brush off your ultimatum.

Until you decide you want a relationship with him, you're bound to just having sex. Either fvck him like a rabbit or move on.

 

[Desdinova]

Am I ready to be his gf as of today after only a month? No. I think that's more than reasonable. Would i like for things to progress in hopes that it leads to something more? Yes.

Then I'm going to say it again... Until you decide you want a relationship with him, you're bound to just having sex. Either fvck him like a rabbit or move on.

 

[Desdinova]

We've only had sex twice

....and you're complaining that all he wants is sex???

You need a reality check or a kick in the arse.

 

[mojones1990]

Then I'm going to say it again... Until you decide you want a relationship with him, you're bound to just having sex. Either fvck him like a rabbit or move on.

I wish you would stop trying to shove this relationship thing down her throat. Based on your logic that means if a woman isn't ready to be in a relationship she shouldn't be courted just sexed until if and when he's ready to make it official.

 

[mojones1990]

Sorry to say AEC, but I think he stopped taking you seriously after the first night together.

His intentionally ambiguous response tells the tale here.

Please, that's so archaic. My ex fiance slept together the first time we hung out, the next week he took me out for vday and the rest was history.

This man is doing things for her birthday and giving her roses for goodness sakes that's taking her seriously. Asking to see her and skip work to spend the day together after she didn't see him the other times he'd asked not only sounds needy but a guy who would like more than casual.

 

[Desdinova]

I wish you would stop trying to shove this relationship thing down her throat.

I'm not trying to shove anything down her throat. I'm trying to figure out WTF she wants out of this guy who's obviously not in it just for the sex. She's complaining to him about the two times they had sex, but they've been seeing each other for a month. To say it's a booty call relationship is a joke. I've lost count of how many times I'd fvck a new prospect over the course of a month.

The guy would be smart to find someone else.

 

[mojones1990]

I'm not trying to shove anything down her throat. I'm trying to figure out WTF she wants out of this guy who's obviously not in it just for the sex. She's complaining to him about the two times they had sex, but they've been seeing each other for a month. To say it's a booty call relationship is a joke. I've lost count of how many times I'd fvck a new prospect over the course of a month.

The guy would be smart to find someone else.

Let me tell you something about women we were taught that if a man keeps trying to keep you in house more than likely he just wants sex. You and I can both agree that OP's guy doesn't want just sex but it doesn't mean he wants things to progress since he's asking her to his room often. You can't blame her for questioning his motives especially given his non comittal response. If he doesn't want just sex, two times or not, then he should be courting. If a man isn't courting it makes us skeptical.

 

[CMNILS87]

Why are you all helping a woman with her boy troubles? You're giving her attention and solving her problems for her which is exactly what she wants and goes against everything on this forum basically. Why isn't she on a girl forum for relationships and dating?

 

[CMNILS87]

I don't know why you're saying sure. I'm clearly not thirsty for his penis if I've only had sex with him twice and he's the one that keeps asking to see me and I've been the one to say no. There's this thing called *gasp* self control.

Go away troll and don't come back. Go find some guy friends to complain to

 

[CMNILS87]

haha yes your self control is so strong yet here you are hooking up with a guy that you're not in a relationship with and yet you're wondering why he's not taking you anywhere.

So you're right clearly you're not thirsty for penis

Speaking of penis. She sure talks about penis a lot. Leads me to believe she's a sex starved crazy

 

[rickyricardo]

Why don't you and AEC go braid each other's hair?

AEC has p*ssed me off. I was very kind and gave her Good advice and she didn't thank me for it.

This is why I prefer to have sex with women to giving them advice.

Who gives a crap she didn't say thank you.