ultimatum for sex

[honi1]

I told my girlfriend as of late that i would not stay in a sexless relationship for more the 4 months. Now the 4th month is coming up pretty soon (April 1st) and we've done everything except ****. Now we talked about it and we agreed to doing it up next Saturday but now she texts me up saying she needs more time.

Now i don't want to lie to myself but would i don't know if it would be worth it to break up with her over this. Anyone have any advice or has been in a similar situation

 

[Maxtro]

You can not talk to girls about sex like that. You can't give them ultimatums or give them a logical argument. No amount of reason will work. Their brains just don't work that way. I've actually tired that method with three girls and it's failed every time. And each time it resulted in an end of the friendship.

All you can do is try to have sex with her when the opportunity prevents itself. If you don't say anything stupid in the near future you should be fine.

 

[Captain]

Create an opportunity for sex. Like Maxtro said, girls don't think about sex logically, they don't respond to ultimatums.

Create the opportunity, if that doesn't work, and you can't turn her on, leave.

 

[magickarl]

It can work, but just not like that.

For example, if you were with a girl that you were already having sex with and she was being stingy with the vag because she was mad at you over something minor, you could pull the "well if we aren't going to do anything I'm going home card." and that can work.

The reason it can work is because you aren't really giving her a threat that she feels like/feels comfortable making a HUGE deal of. If you said some **** like "give it up, or we are over", chances are she will call you an ******* and probably break up with you. At the same time, the idea of you being angry with her is generally enough to convince her that the situation isn't worth throwing a fit over.

HOWEVER

It will not work with a girl who hasn't given it to you yet because she knows that she is still holding all of the cards. No matter how she plays herself off to you, she knows that you want the vag. In fact, in your case she knows that you want the vag bad enough that you were willing to go through four months without it.

That is, unless she is still a virgin. Thats a whole new can of worms. With that, pressure will get you nowhere but nexted.

In either case, if you haven't had it yet, you need to romance the ***** a little bit. Set the mood, and just let the time feel "right" like she wanted. Think of it as like convincing somebody to tell you a big secret. She has to feel comfortable.

That means taking her to the backseat of your car and putting some slow jamz on after everybody has passed out at your buddy's kegger will not work.

Be inventive.

Good luck

 

[frisco]

obligation is the number one killer of attraction in a relationship. When related to sex its a destroyer, whats up with guys making girls there girlfriend before they have sex its completley dumb, and kills your chances with every other attractive girl. When you are making a girl your girlfriend before sex your saying this " I LIKE YOU FOR YOUR PERSONALITY, IM NOT GETTING ANY ***** ANYWAYS SO IM MAKING YOU MY GIRLFRIEND" after you have sex "OUR SEX IS GREAT AND WE LIKE EACHOTHER" this sets up the base of a relationship with lots of sex and other good ****

 

[honi1]

Alright so now i understand that ultimatums are mostly bad but i've already given her the ultimatum. I can't take it back without appearing weak so what are my options?

 

[KontrollerX]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3
Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

This also applies to women's "sexual filibustering".

When a woman makes you wait for sex you are not her highest priority. Sexuality is spontaneous, chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation. It's sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to ƒuck you will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, ƒuck you like a porn star and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife/GF comes home early from work - women who want to ƒuck will find a way to ƒuck. The girl who tells you she wants a relationship first or "just isn't comfortable with you yet" is the same girl who ƒucked the "totally hot guy" in the foam cannon party in Cancun with her girlfriends on spring break half an hour after meeting him.

If a girl is that into you she'll ƒuck regardless of ASD or having her friends in the room videotaping it at a frat party. All women can be sexual, you just have to be the right guy to bring it out in them, and this happens before you go back to her place. If you have to plead your case cuddling and spooning on the bed or getting the occasional peck on the cheek, you need to go back to square one and start fresh. You cannot negotiate genuine desire.

This is exactly why you spin plates.

 

[shaunuk]

Mate, have you ever had sex with her? How old are you both? Is she a virgin?

Ultimatums are generally bad things but if you've been with her for 4 months, and there's been no sex, you do begin to wonder what the fvck is going on. You shouldn't be getting into relationships before sex has ever happened. Sample the beer before you buy the whole barrel.