Txt back

[Dude_man123]

So this chick I am talking to will tell me to txt her back sometimes near the end of a conversation.

Like, we'll be txting (we are young, i prefer phone calls, but screw it, i dont mind txting) and when one of us has to split, for whatever reason, she might say something like "ok, well, text me back later" or "hey, i g2g, txt me back after work" or "text me back in the morning"

something like that... you get the point.

So should I just do it? Latley I have been, but I've been noticing our txt conversations have been bland on her part. While she used to txt a lot, now shes texting less, but still... she is texting me so she has to be somewhat interested. Shes out of state till ... tomorrow actually. The bland conversations started when she left the state. I think that might be why, but I am worried.

I need to appear to be unavailable, more attractive and whatnot.. idk. Attraction seems to be up and down, and as unpredictable as the wind.

 

[IceCream]

Stop texting, call her to set something up instead.

 

[Adrian]

Don't waste your time on ONE chick dude. You can obviously sense the decline of interest on her behalf.

 

[Heart Break Kid]

If you're out of highschool don't text, especially regularly with the same girl. It's an attention game for her. Find some other woman to talk to in your new found time.

 

[Cremasta]

Personally I think that text messages should be limited to two things...
"Call me when you're free", or if you're sending someone info like an address so they can refer back to it.

Stay away from the texts if you can, especially long conversations, it shoots down a lot of the reasons for you to meet in person... which is the whole point isn't it?

 

[Dude_man123]

Don't waste your time on ONE chick dude. You can obviously sense the decline of interest on her behalf.

So, is it possible to rebuild interest? Man, it happened so quick... so anyway, we havn't texted for 2 days, and I figure I'll ignore her till she texts me. When she does text me, I just won't respond. I'll see what happens after that. She should be home today anyway...

The thing is, if she is losing interest then she probably won't want to take me up on an offer to do something. I guess I can try and see.

 

[Dude_man123]

just think about it....while you're sitting here worried about texting her, I bet there is some guy banging her brains out. man up boy.

Actually, your wrong here, there isn't some dude banging her brains out... shes 16 and a virgin, supposed to be driving/riding back into the state today. So how exactly do I man up like you say? What do you mean?

Anyway, like I said, im not gonna text her like before. If/when she texts me I'll ignore it, when she asks I'll tell her I was busy, or something and if she wants to talk we should just go hang out. When I see her at work again Kino is on harder than ever... I hope, depends on work...

EDIT: Oh, and if she is at least asking me to text her back, which she did last time, then that must mean she at least wanted me to text her back... so she wanted to hear from me again. Although when I did text her back she was eating, went sorta like this:

Me: Hey [name]! Hows it going?
Her: Good, how are you?
Me: I'm alright, what ya up to?
Her: Eating
Me: Oh, haha, caught you at a bad time? I know how you like to eat
Her: Oh thanks...
Me:

And that was it, nothing since then.

 

[Social_disturbance]

LMAO - yeah you're right she probably isn't having some guy banging her brains out. Listen texting is FINE dude. There's nothing wrong with it to communicate. But you really have to go further if thats what you want. Go with her to a movie and initiate alot of kino, and hold her hand through it. Trust me, is she is interested that will work alot of the time.

 

[Dude_man123]

LMAO - yeah you're right she probably isn't having some guy banging her brains out. Listen texting is FINE dude. There's nothing wrong with it to communicate. But you really have to go further if thats what you want. Go with her to a movie and initiate alot of kino, and hold her hand through it. Trust me, is she is interested that will work alot of the time.

Thanks for the advice. I kinda was thinking it was weird to not text, cause then your not talking...

I think the trick is getting her to go right now. School starts soon, and I've got a six day work week. I feel pressured to take her out ASAP to try and recover the possible attraction i've lossed.

 

[Effington]

Ha, I like how you agree with the one person who supports your current action, while dismissing the rest...

The bland, boring conversations will decrease interest. I don't necessarily think texting is bad, but mess around, joke, flirt...don't be boring.

Personally, I only use text messaging when I can't talk, such as at a bar, at work (although I can talk at work, I try to cut it down), or if I'm sending addresses/directions/something worth keeping. However, I definitely recommend calling instead, because you actually get a real-time conversation (you can have an hour long text message convo done in 30 seconds over the phone!), and can gauge responses and get some laughs.

 

[Dude_man123]

Ha, I like how you agree with the one person who supports your current action, while dismissing the rest...

The bland, boring conversations will decrease interest. I don't necessarily think texting is bad, but mess around, joke, flirt...don't be boring.

Personally, I only use text messaging when I can't talk, such as at a bar, at work (although I can talk at work, I try to cut it down), or if I'm sending addresses/directions/something worth keeping. However, I definitely recommend calling instead, because you actually get a real-time conversation (you can have an hour long text message convo done in 30 seconds over the phone!), and can gauge responses and get some laughs.

Im not completley dismissing the rest, I am not planning to text her till she texts me, and then Im going to not reply and see what happens. I found out I work with her tuesday, but I won't really have any contact with her, but thursday I should. My schedule is really tight this week also.

 

[Ravish]

Wow, can you say needy and desperate all combined in one hella expensive phone bill?

Who gives a **** bro(no offense but thats the attitude you should have).

 

[Dude_man123]

Wow, can you say needy and desperate all combined in one hella expensive phone bill?

Who gives a **** bro(no offense but thats the attitude you should have).

Haha your right. The problem is I do... :-\ Is there anyway to just... not care? Idk... but if I act like I don't care while shes around she will think I don't. And if I don't text her she will, eventually think I don't. After all, she doesn't know how I feel when she isn't around.

The thing was in the beginning I didn't care, and I didn't want her texting me, and it got annoying!! Crap, how things change... she probably feels the same way I did before, enjoyed the company, but not too much. Oh well. Live and learn, just not sure how to prevent this one next time cause she was the one texting me and asking her to text me back!!

 

[PhatE1vis]

You just contradicted yourself and answered your own question about what to do.

"Idk... but if I act like I don't care while shes around she will think I don't."

Not true, because...

"The thing was in the beginning I didn't care, and I didn't want her texting me, and it got annoying!!"

Go back to how you were with her in the beginning.

 

[Dude_man123]

You just contradicted yourself and answered your own question about what to do.

"Idk... but if I act like I don't care while shes around she will think I don't."

Not true, because...

"The thing was in the beginning I didn't care, and I didn't want her texting me, and it got annoying!!"

Go back to how you were with her in the beginning.

Yeah, I think its all one of those, you want what you can't have. I had her, didn't care, but lost her, and now i do. Sorta. I went to work tonight and someone asked me if I had spoken to her and I said no, they asked why not and I said if she wants to speak to me, she'll speak to me. Then someone else was like, I knew she had feelings for you. Blah blah blah. I dont know, I've always wondered if she had a thing for me but wouldn't say. Im not sure.

Another thing is- A few days ago she called me while she was drunk. Out of nowhere she said "I was going to text you earlier but I thought if he wanted to talk to me he would text me" I figure since she was drunk, she most likely wouldn't be lying... Maybe thats whats up here? IDK. We work together tomorrow, but I am stuck in a different section so I won't see her much. Thursday and friday I work with her.

But after tonight- Im starting not to care. If she doesn't care about me, why should I about her? Im starting to feel normal again, like I don't care if she texts me. Its a good thing. Thats the way I am though, if I don't see or contact a girl for several days, I start to forget about her. I wish I didn't have to see her tomorrow...