Two HB's in the same location, what should I do?

[MotownMack]

My buddy has been dating this girl for a few months, and she has two friends that I can potentially go for.

Girl #1:

She has a cute friend, who I've been around a few times and spoken with. I worked a little game, but she is kind of a home body and doesn't come out a lot or stay out late.

No clue where I stand with her at this point, but I was definitely planning on working her more the next time she was supposed to be out. I think she's at least somewhat interested. She seems nice, she's really cute, and is what I would call g/f material (not to get ahead of the situation here, but just to paint the picture here).

Girl #2:

The other day I am chatting with my buddies gf via emails, discussing a charity function she was helping me with. I tease her a lot, and wrote an email giving her some c/f that I normally do (no, I am not gaming her).

Anyway, she emails me back saying she read my email to her co-worker (apparently, they both thought it was hilarious) and my buddies g/f says her friends response was "I have to meet this guy." and then tells me she will be out with them this Saturday (tonight).

A little back ground on the second chick. A hottie, but sounds like there may be some baggage there and possibly high maintenance. She's coming out of a divorce, BUT may be hot to trot from what it sounds like (in party mode).



HERE IS THE PROBLEM:

They are both her friends, and will BOTH be there tonight. Now my buddies gf, she knows I am a bit of a DJ, and I think is pretty much staying out of everything (kind of knowing I would game both chicks if I had the chance).

So what do I do with them both there? I don't see how I can work them both in the same location.

I honestly am thinking of not going, because I could blow it with both (I also am not fond of the bar they're going to). I will see both of them at a later date, preferably after I have eliminated one or found out where there respective interests are with me (i.e. after one has been ruled out/close upon).

Any thoughts guys?

 

[MotownMack]

Christ, come on guys.

Endless threads about philosophies and theories, and no solutions for a fellow DJ with a very practical problem.

Surely, some one must have idea what to do here:

2 potential plates, the next time I see them, they will be in the same location (a birthday party next Saturday).

I wanted to keep my options open, but it may not be possible in this case. I guess I will just have to pick one and see where it goes.

 

[DJDamage]

So what do I do with them both there? I don't see how I can work them both in the same location.

You don't need to work any of them.

Just be cool and stay aloof. Eventually if you play your cards right, one of the girls will give you strong IOI and all you got to do is isolate and close her.

Just go out, with the intention of having fun with everyone.

 

[potato]

I get this problem from time to time, usually though I don’t have foreknowledge of the situation as you do. More likely I’ll show up some place and there will be two women, both of whom I have a strong interest in. You can’t openly sidle up to one or the other without causing problems, or at least creating an uncomfortable situation.

So you have to go into friend mode with both of them. Be friendly but don’t try and get romantic. Being that it is a social situation it will be reasonable to the HB’s that you are friendly but not coming onto them. Be subtle, with eye play and little smiles.

I don’t know what setting you are in but there should be little opportunities to talk to one apart from the others, use these to your advantage. By being friendly with a bit of a flirty edge you are setting up these women for later encounters, when you can come on to them more freely.

By holding back not only are you setting them both up for future encounters, but you are showing manners and class, both things that quality women find attractive.

Now, of course, the situation can change. One of the girls could lose interest or you in her or with one of them something strong can develop. Sometimes dilemmas seem to just solve themselves.

 

[Mr. Me]

Ditto DJDamage - and if you do go for digits, do so inconspicuously, on the Q.T. so the other doesn't see. It's classier that way.

(And it's okay if they talk to each other later and compare notes. If they're interested in you, they'll compete with each other for you. Plus bonus then you can have a reality show like Brett Michaels. But if they're hard wired to be rigid and get put off, they'll drop interest and do you a big favor that way.)

 

[MotownMack]

Thanks for the responses.

Honestly, I don't know how well the two girls know each other, I just know they have the mutual friend (my buddy's gf).

I know I am over thinking it, just haven't had this problem before, not quite like this. I didn't end up going, but they will both be at a birthday part next week. The one twist I left out of the equation for the purposes of simplicity is that the girl I've met (Girl #1) has been around me like 2 different occasions, where I was really unable to develop a much attraction/flirting with her. One time she wasn't out very late, but we talked for about 25 minutes (I did do a little flirting), the other time was at a charity fund raiser I was hosting (I didn't even know she was coming, her friend invited her) and I had to talk to everyone and spent almost zero time talking to her, because there were 60 people all there for me.

I know will get a little more leeway with the "immediate develop attraction" thing because I am in the social circle, but I don't want to push it by being around her yet a 3rd time, and not being able to invest a little more time in her.

Yesterday's function was at bar that I don't really care for, which is no big deal, but they have bands on the weekends. I love music, but I hate live garage bands only because it's very difficult to carry on a conversation without screaming (whether your out DJing or just with friends), and I just figured it would be better to unavailable for evening, since I knew they would both be out the very next weekend.

Anyway, I guess I will do what you guys said. Just go there and be social, and not spend an overt amount of time with either one. As Potato said, this is a situation that could potentially work itself out in a matter of minutes- for example, I get there and immediately decide Girl #2 is an AW or one of us isn't interested in the other. So no point in giving it too much thought, I guess.

 

[jophil28]

HERE IS THE PROBLEM:

They are both her friends, and will BOTH be there tonight. Now my buddies gf, she knows I am a bit of a DJ, and I think is pretty much staying out of everything (kind of knowing I would game both chicks if I had the chance).


Any thoughts guys?

Like the Buddhists say,
" Problems are opportunities" or was that Tony Robbins - or Dr Phil ? Who cares.
The point is this - here is a GOLDEN opportunity for you to practise and develop the skills of gaming and balancing two women in the same room.
In our old Afc days,we would likely shy away from this scenario -but what a perfect chance to shoot two ducks on one hunt.
If it is true that women like men MORE who are liked by other women then you have the raw materials to make a great night.
We expect a field report too .

 

[guru1000]

Go after the one you are most attracted to.

This will REJECT the other one as well CREATE more attraction.

You are free to pursue the other at a later date.

It really is a Win-Win.

You are ATTRACTING one to ATTRACT the other.

Now you have two women who will compete for full disclosure exclusivity if you play your cards right. The fact that one knows her competitor works to your advantage and creates the competition dynamic.

 

[jophil28]

Go after the one you are most attracted to.

This will REJECT the other one as well CREATE more attraction.

You are free to pursue the other at a later date.

It really is a Win-Win.

You are ATTRACTING one to ATTRACT the other.

Now you have two women who will compete for full disclosure exclusivity if you play your cards right. The fact that one knows her competitor works to your advantage and creates the competition dynamic.

Damn I love this !

There was a time when I would have avoided letting any woman see that she had competition in case it annoyed her - Deep down I was assuming that women who became ANNOYED at me for MY having OPTIONs were going to be less attracted instead of MORE.

Talk about counter-intuitive ...