Turning a woman down -- can it backfire?

[dj-apprentice]

I read (with a lot of amusement, especially when I recounted some of my own stupid blunders and missed opportunities) the "missed come-ons" thread. We all realize that if a woman comes on to you and you blow it, she is probably going to completely lose interest in you -- at least that's been my experience.

With that in mind, has anyone ever tried turning a woman down for sex (especially the first time) in order to become more of a challenge and get her to want you even more?

It seems like a good idea in theory, but can't it backfire? Wouldn't you have the same results you did when you UNintentionally missed a woman's invitation for sex?

I'm just wondering if anyone's tried it, because I think that if it did work, it would raise her IL tremendously, as she'd suddenly realize that you're not a typical guy, you're harder to win, blah blah blah, not to mention the fact that when you DO give it to her, she'd be twice as desperate to please you.

Thoughts/experiences...

 

[Chewy Bagel]

It depends on the girl. I didn't take one girl's hints fast enough, so she bailed. I didn't **** another one when she had her top off in my office in the middle of the day, so she wanted me more.

You can't say all girls are going to act a certain way if they are all put though a similar situation.

 

[So pimp its scary]

You would have to be just about doing it, and say, "Let's not do this right now... I barely know you, yada yada yada." as you start putting your clothes back on. She will either agree and be grateful that you weren't just in it for sex that somehow you 'care' for her... OR she will rip your clothes right off and rape you on the spot.

 

[dj-apprentice]

I suppose I wouldn't mind being raped then ... unless it's by a large, black man named Cletus ...

 

[becker]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
You would have to be just about doing it, and say, "Let's not do this right now... I barely know you, yada yada yada." as you start putting your clothes back on. She will either agree and be grateful that you weren't just in it for sex that somehow you 'care' for her... OR she will rip your clothes right off and rape you on the spot.

Agree with this one. I knew a girl who made it so clear that she wanted to jump my bones, it was ridiculous. I felt like I was in a porn movie or something.

Anyways, I turned her down since personally, I had issues with her personality, and she stopped being so aggressive. I gave up a chance at what probably would have been a great roll in the hay, but like I said in my other posts, I'm a pretty picky guy, and I have an easy time holding myself back for better women.

If it's a girl who you know totally wants you and you want her, and you want her to throw herself at you, denying it to her in the manner that So pimp its scary says will work. However, if the girl is generally not too aggressive, better take advantage while you have the chance, unless you're not into her, in which case, don't let your d*ck do the thinking or else you're screwed.

 

[violator]

It really depends on the girl in my experience. Some respond to challenge better than others Some women will be intrigued and want you more if you don't react the way they expect you to. While others will blow you off if you are given the chance and you don't take it.

I believe that ones who are interested in an LTR are more appreciative of you being a challenge while the ones who just want to fyck or have serious self esteem problems will either view you as gay or not sexually interested in them if you blow them off in any way.

 

[Quick]

I think it depends on the woman and also the circumstances. If you've been dating the girl for a while, she won't stop talking to you because you tell her you want to wait a little longer for sex. If you turn down a spontaneous offer for sex, you probably won't get another chance.

Back when I was a virgin in college, I missed all the signs that this girl was willing to sleep with me. I even slept in her bed several nights in a row and didn't try anything. It made her so hot that she was practically begging me for sex. I was so cool and collected in other areas with her that she didn't realize I was just an idiot concerning signs. She was honestly a s!ut, and the fact that I didn't pursue sex enabled me to get interest from her that no guy ever had. We actually ended up having a year+ relationship. If I wasn't an accidental challenge, I would have gotten a few nights of sex out of it at the most.