Trying to stay single

[goldStandard]

Hey guys,

I'm 25 and trying to stay single. Trying to stay focus with work, sports and my art. Lately a lot of "girls" (immature inexperienced women), are trying to hang out, or even get with me(as a relationship). These girls are pretty and some of them are even apart of my social circle. If not girls then guys trying to hook me up with their single friends.

I'm a decent looking guy who just looks like he's got his sh*t straight.

My Goal:
I would like to have a respectable reputation without any negative gossip, rumors, stories that could mess me up. I would like to maintain a good standing relationship with everyone i meat.

Sex with who, how and when without getting caught.
Should I deny those who like me for relationship reasons?

 

[ken chang]

Based on my experience

"I would like to have a respectable reputation without any negative gossip, rumors, stories that could mess me up. I would like to maintain a good standing relationship with everyone i meat."

Based on my experience, I don't think this is possible. Even if you don't cause any trouble for anyone and keep a low profile, some people will still hate on you for whatever reason. It's just human nature, I guess. Better to focus on not letting the negative gossip, rumors, etc. get to you.

 

[zekko]

Sex with who, how and when without getting caught.
Should I deny those who like me for relationship reasons?

My first impression is that you should go for what you want without so much regard for how people will view you. You have to be true to yourself. But then again, one of the laws of power is "Guard Your Reputation", isn't it?

My main question would be is it ethical to just use a woman for sex when you know she wants you for relationship purposes? But I guess there's a reason they say "All's fair in love and war". You try to get what you want while she tries to get what she wants. Neither is ever guaranteed.

 

[squirrels]

I used to be of the opinion that it was the woman's responsibility to protect her own heart. But still, I was always honest about my intentions...if she decided to try to "change me", that was her problem.

But then I got tired of seeing women cry.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

GOLDSTANDARD, put an age on your profile.

 

[doubledown11]

You cannot control what others think of you. What you think of yourself trumps all else. If you are upfront with your women, and you tell them that you are not looking for a relationship right now, then you shouldn't have a bad conscience about it or become affected by misdirected gossip.

 

[Korrupt]

Wow. Women trying to f*ck you is one of your biggest problems? Let's switch lives.