Trying to reinvent myself - quitting drugs

[Aesthetix29]

Hey guys/girls

So far so good .. Just getting my diet dialed in at the gym and trying to increase sales with my business ... I did relapse last week and had a zoot but regretted it straight away and didn't like the feeling as it was intense due to not having it for a week or so ... But yeah so far so good I will keep you all updated on any progress. Thanks again

Dan

 

[penkitten]

What is a zoot? Why does that make me sound old just asking?

 

[dustmuffin]

What is a zoot? Why does that make me sound old just asking?

Just looked it up. I had no clue either. It's a joint.

 

[Amilz]

I quit alcohol but I won't quit edibles. I'm trying to quit caffeine. I don't think people really understand how addictive caffeine is. I tried to go a day and I could barely function and couldn't stop thinking about it. It's worse than alcohol and nicotine in trying to quit.

Yea, you should definitely quit coke.

When I don't have a drink for a week by the end of it it's like a dormant clarity is finding it's way to the surface. I went a month once without a drink and my temperament was much better and I felt happier in general.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Yes, coke is bad. No one is going to tell you that coke is a good idea. Weed, on the other hand, especially for occasional use, is not something you should beat yourself up about.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Yes, coke is bad. No one is going to tell you that coke is a good idea. Weed, on the other hand, especially for occasional use, is not something you should beat yourself up about.

I have a really addictive personality.. And I've been smoking weed since I was 14 and I'm 31 now ... I hate the stuff ... I feel happier when I'm drug and alcohol free ... I'm also training 6 days a week and starting to see a small difference.

I just need to start earning more money, I might try to find a job in the meantime while my business picks up, to keep myself busy as my next step is to getting my own place.

Everything is such a slow process ... Pfft!

 

[LiveYourDream]

Taking another job while your business picks up sounds like a great idea. Depending on the job, there are all kinds of possible benefits, such as doing more of something you enjoy, learning new skills that may assist you in your own business, connecting you with more like-minded people and perhaps possible business contacts for yourself later, bringing in more income now and decreasing your immediate financial stress. Take a good look and see what's available. Let people know you are looking so they can let you know, if a good match is made known to them.

As for the slowness you are feeling, remind yourself that, you are rebuilding a foundation for yourself. Setting it in slowly and deliberately is not such a bad thing. The more secure each part, the more secure the final structure will be. Each day move in the right direction. That is what matters most. Those days will compound and so will your positive results.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Okay just a quick update guys/girls, well in still going strong sleeping pattern all back to normal ... Smashing the gym and my diets dialed in with only 1 cheat meal per week ... Feeling and looking good. Not to mention business has really picked up quite a lot ... Probably due to the time of the year but hey I'm not complaining.

So I started to save up and I'd say the the only thing getting me down at the minute is feeling like a loner ... When I say that I mean ... Hits me pretty hard a night being on my jack! It's boring.

Just need my own apartment and some decent plates and my life will be a huge amount better than it was ...being a low life pot head with no motivation.

Not exactly where I want to be just yet but hey I'm heading in the right direction right .... Because my works up and down and can pay well one day and nothing the next I was thinking of looking into house sharing ... (Preferably women) what's your thoughts on this ? Thanks

 

[BeExcellent]

Good on you so far. Every day is another opportunity to make good choices for your life, be it fitness, work, or maintaining sobriety. Kudos to you!

On the house sharing thing with a woman: Right now you are getting your feet back under you and getting harmful habits and influences out of your life. Be extremely careful who you add to your daily circle of people.

Do not live with anyone you might want to enjoy sexually or anyone with habits like the ones you are overcoming. You do not need that kind of drama in your living quarters right now.

Were I in your shoes I'd seek out another man who has his life together and has ambition and goals. Someone whose presence will be a positive influence on you just by being in proximity.

Who ever you live with is going to have some amount of influence on your life, however large or small. Women, even if you have no interest whatsoever in them, can introduce unnecessary stress, drama, and BS into your living space. You are improving your habits and your ambitions. You need to guard carefully your environment and keep it a peaceful place to encourage your progress.

So I'd discourage you from house sharing with a woman. There are decent ones out there, but I think you'd be better off with a male roommate who has good habits to help you cement the changes you are making in your life.

Cheers & good luck to you!

 

[Aesthetix29]

^^^ thanks for the advice .. I'd much prefer to get my own place but where I live you're looking at £550 for a nice 1 bedroom apartment (bills and tax not included) , but beggars can't be choosers ha. Must admit after these last few weeks of being drug free I have noticed my personality change, like not snapping as much ( unless I've just woken up) finding myself laughing a lot more .. Cheeky humour all the things that drugs surpress and I feel a lot better in myself .. But I'd be lying if I said I don't miss a fat zoot at night haha! But the positives outweigh the negatives buy a country mile. And things can only get better right?

I've kind of dropped all my old mates as they still do what I did .. And it's a life I don't want anymore. I want nice things and to be around entertaining people with personality and not drugs/alcohol. I've manged to save £9600 which is a nice start for a nest egg and plan on adding much more to it.

LIFE IS SLOWLY GETTING BETTER ... And would just like to thank everyone who is following and offering advice. Muchas Gracias.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Good job on staying focused on your goals and continuing to choose in line with your success.

Regarding housemates, no matter how you explain it, an opposite sex housemate will always create some skepticism to whoever you tell. Guys will think it's an opportunity for sex to happen, between you and she, just as much as women will. As a result, it will always create somewhat of an edge between you and any woman you want to bring home, whether for a night or perhaps eventually as a GF.

If you intend to bring women home to pump and dump, a female housemate will turn into a huge c0ckblock, once she becomes aware of it. Consciously or not, and subtly or not, she will look to warn the women you come home with, that they are about to get used. She'll feel no shame about it. Her loyalty is to other women not you. Once she perceives you to be a man who simply pumps and dumps women(if you do), her opinion will (likely) never change. She'll resent you and you'll resent her. Living together will just become more nightmarish with time.

On that note, a super Beta male housemate, may turn out just the same. Watch out there too.

Choose men who are also actually pursing their goals and dreams, who don't use drugs, and who share a similar view on women including how you intend to relate to women, when you bring them home. The less friction you feel with those you live with, the happier you will be.

 

[bigneil]

How much is a water distiller?

Buy a Waterwise - I like the 8800. They offer great repair service, hence I've kept mine operational since 2008 ($399 new, plus polishing filters).

 

[bigneil]

Buy a Waterwise - I like the 8800. They offer great repair service, hence I've kept mine operational since 2008 ($399 new, plus polishing filters).

PS - I bought the Cap 45's and 50's. Until I can lift the 50's 10x, I don't need higher.

 

[LiveYourDream]

@Aesthetix29 I thought I'd reach out and check in. How are you doing day to day? How are you doing with your focus and your goals? How did things work out with connecting with your dad, or not?

 

[Aesthetix29]

@Aesthetix29 I thought I'd reach out and check in. How are you doing day to day? How are you doing with your focus and your goals? How did things work out with connecting with your dad, or not?

Hey LVD, okay I suppose had 1 or 2 hiccups but nothing major ... Still going gym. It's funny how you mentioned the dad predicament... Not heard off him directly but I'm conveying messages to his brother but it's still early stages tho.

On another note I went on a date with a girl last Sunday night do less than a week has been by ... Date went good .. She texted me after saying she didn't feel awkward and that she really likes me etc ... And we've been texting and so forth .. And we almost ended up going out for food yesterday .. But something cropped up that was unavoidable. Then I believe she drove to another city last night and met some guy .. And plastering it all over Facebook, what's all that about, obviously spinning plates right. Is this a jealousy thing or just not as interested as she was showing mere days ago haha.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Hiccups can happen. Not rationalizing or taking chances reengaging another time, and consistently staying on track is what will create the foundation for a life you are proud of. Good focus!

Why did you text back and forth yet never actually ask for and confirm date/time/place for a second date? I suspect she felt your hesitancy. Hesitancy from a man feels is weak to her. What did you expect her to think was your intent, with just texting from you but no actual action happening or actual date set up and secured in her near future?

 

[Aesthetix29]

Hiccups can happen. Not rationalizing or taking chances reengaging another time, and consistently staying on track is what will create the foundation for a life you are proud of.

Why did you text back and forth yet never actually ask for and confirm date/time/place for a second date? What did you expect her to think was your intent, with just texting from you but no actual action happening or actual date set up and secured in her near future?

Because I met her on the Friday and all this happened buy the following Tuesday ... So only 4 days and I was .. I tried to meet her for lunch but was both busy .... It probably is my fault .. Just didn't want to dive in head first so to speak. Never mind.

 

[LiveYourDream]

It's ok. Give her some space until she reaches out again. When she does, be decisive, immediately ask her out. Right away, set up a time/date/place. It will turn her on.