Trying to meet some chick on Facebook

[Rhino22]

Lately I have been adding random people on facebook or using that "mutual friends" thing. Anyway, I recently added this girl that I am very attracted to and we seem to have some of the same interests-music,psychology, dogs, etc. I added so many people the last few weeks that I don't even pay attention anymore to when my requests get accepted but the other day I get a message from her saying, "Hello, where have we met?" I looked at her profile and read a few things. Made a comment on one of them in response to her message and I pretty much just made up that I thoguht maybe I had met her at one of my bands shows. SHe replied with, "WHyyyy thank you!" In response to me saying something about her profile.

Yesterday I wrote her again about a band I noticed on her page and asked if she went to the concert last summer. She had not responded.

I noticed that she seems to be almost best friends with this one girl I am freinds with on Facebook and met in person about a year and a half ago when I was at a bookstore. A girl that I approached and hit on...this girl in the store asked me to give her my name so she could add me on facebook and I did. This was back when I was trying to work things out with my ex. She had text me a few times to come hang out at various bars but I was never able to make it.

So today I decide to mention to the girl I just added on facebook that the bookstore girl is a mutual friend of ours.

She writes back and say's, hey! i did not go to sublime last summer...but a summer or 2 before that, i did! how do you know ***i? we are good buds and have we met? i did not see your band play @ cali****....i don't think... i haven't been there for a WHILE

So, I can tell mentioning that we have "mutual friends" helped but the truth is I only met her friend one time at a bookstore and yes she definitely was into me because she asked for MY name and then randomly gave me her number on facebook while talking on IM. So the fact that her good bud definitely had an interest in me might help my chances..but...

How can I answer this and hopefully get her to say more so we can maybe hang out?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Be a man. Meet them in person. Don't add them on facebook.

You know how many friend requests girls get from random guys each day??

 

[Rhino22]

Yeah, but just sayin...this girl is REALLY hot. Ive only been adding these people so I can get them to "Like" my music page and promote that. Her message was completely random to me and I never intended on messaging anyone really. Im sure they do get a lot of requests, but she obviously has taken the time to actually message me first and respond to my response.

 

[Rhino22]

And Ive been thinking about this meet them in person thing. I honestly dont have many guys to go out with to even meet these really hot girls. My band is really my only true friends and they are all practically married. I am the only single one. I dont have any links to any social circles with really cool dudes or really hot chix. What do I do?! lol

 

[f283000]

I am the only single one. I dont have any links to any social circles with really cool dudes or really hot chix. What do I do?! lol

That doesnt matter. You never want to invite a romantic interest to hangout with friends unless you're already f*** her (read third link in my signature).

What you need to do is simple. Stop complicating yourself, don't turn this into a calculus problem. Keep chatting w her, don't give away too much about yourself, ask her out for drinks.

It's nothing hard really. If it's meant to be it's meant to be and when you adopt this mentality you will stop fretting over each girl as if she is the last one on earth.

Send a few more messages back and forth, then say "want to join me for drinks on ___" or whatever you want to do. If she agrees you're in business if not you move on to the next one.

NEXT!

 

[Rhino22]

Ah yes, but too late because I sent the message earlier saying she should go to the show if she likes rock/reggae. Oh well...hopefully she will play hard to get and not go but meet me later down the road.

 

[f283000]

Ah yes, but too late because I sent the message earlier saying she should go to the show if she likes rock/reggae. Oh well...hopefully she will play hard to get and not go but meet me later down the road.

You got that going for you. You play in a band and women love musicians that will never go out of style. The only problem now though is that she might reply with something like "can't make it" or whatever and that would make it harder for you to ask her out. It would make you seem like you're chasing her since you already invited her to one place and now you invite her to hang out with you. You would look like you're chasing.

That's probably what will happen which is why it's always better to just ask a girl out 1 on 1. Remember that a woman accepting to go out with you alone is her declaration of you being a potential lover. You asking her to join you with other people is a declaration of being potential friends.

You don't want to be her friend you want to be her lover!

I'm not saying you shouldn't ask her out. You should ask her out eventually wait for her response to your invitation. Trade more messages back and forth after her response, keep chating, but then pull the trigger and ask her out. Don't waste any more time on her without asking her out.

So you play in a band right? What you really need to do is get yourself some pictures with female fans and post them all over your facebook. Any decent looking female from the shows ask if they want a picture of just you and them (no guy band members so it doesn't look like a friend pic).

Your appeal to women will increase by 1000% to those that view your profile.

 

[Rhino22]

Yeah, you're right. Well Im not gonna be able to do any pictures until the show lol. How can I then, from now until this show...make it obvious I want to DATE her and not be her friend?

 

[Rhino22]

Any tips on how to keep talking to this chick? SHe wrote me back but I dont know...I can tell she doesnt talk much online like I do. Like, I said, " Do you go to *****"" (Certain school) and she just replied with, "Yes, I do!" I pretty much told myself i wouldnt message her again after that and then tonight she "likes" one of my status updates...so I would say she doesnt think im a creeper but...

SO what should I do? I havent tried again to invite her out. I sent her another message just now and said, "What do you go there for? Psych?" (Cause I see she has psych stuff on her page)

 

[LoneWolf]

ur wasting too much time chatting to her. do what i did with my girl (who i am now seeing) ;

we only had one or two quick chats and i think the second time i just said "hey might i suggest we hang out and get to know each other better." and from then you just work out when you are both free and thats that. i did that to my gf who i met online. dont waste time chatting, leave that for when you meet. your mission is to MEET HER ASAP!

 

[Rhino22]

OK, that sounds great. Truth be told I am broke until next thursday and I want to seize talking to her until I can actually meet. Think this will be ok? When should I send her that message saying, "Hey we should meet up" ?

 

[LoneWolf]

OK, that sounds great. Truth be told I am broke until next thursday and I want to seize talking to her until I can actually meet. Think this will be ok? When should I send her that message saying, "Hey we should meet up" ?

asap! just arrange something for next week or something and then stop chatting to her. get her number so you can call her in the middle of the week before your date and tell her the time and place, ask her how shes been etc.

 

[Borknagar]

Don't count facebook out! ever!

I got a SNL and sorta ended up dating a tall slim blond ex stripper from there. The sex was awesome!

She ended up breaking things off and had some oneitis for a bit from her games but found the next one via cologne shopping the next day

 

[Rhino22]

Eh I havent really been talking to her. I honestly don't know what to say other than she's hot.