Trying to make eye contact, but the girls won't look at me!

[skinnydart]

I've been trying to do what's suggested in the DJ boot camp, make eye contact with every girl I see in the halls and stuff, but the problem is, none of them will ever look at me, even if I look and them.

And it's on a college campus too, it's not like it's on the street at night where they would naturally feel intimidated.

I'm no Brad Pitt, but I don't think I'm hard on the eyes to look at or anything.

What does this mean, am I just a totally unattractive?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What do they do when you say "Hi" to them?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by skinnydart
I've been trying to do what's suggested in the DJ boot camp, make eye contact with every girl I see in the halls and stuff, but the problem is, none of them will ever look at me, even if I look and them.

And it's on a college campus too, it's not like it's on the street at night where they would naturally feel intimidated.

I'm no Brad Pitt, but I don't think I'm hard on the eyes to look at or anything.

What does this mean, am I just a totally unattractive?

yes, what you need to do is put on a ****ring and start srutting your stuff in tight pants and a silk shirt.

 

[wildchild]

when you make eye contact give them a little half smile - like a smile with your mouth shut.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by wildchild
when you make eye contact give them a little half smile - like a smile with your mouth shut.

and then suck a popsicle

 

[skinnydart]

What do they do when you say "Hi" to them?

When you're passing them in the hall, and there not even (and havn't) looking at you, it doens't really work to say anything to them because they don't know you're talking to them.... unless I grab them by the arm or something, but I doubt that would work.

when you make eye contact...

that's my problem, that doens't happen, even if I look at them.

suck a popsicle

any particular flavor?

 

[shrewd]

girls don't normally make eye contact in the halls unless they find you extremely attractive at first glance. They just stare straight ahead and pretend you don't exist.

 

[Anaxibios]

Most ppl are oblivious when walking through school hallways; I know i'm usually concentrating on something else. Don't sweat it.

On the other hand, if you need a confidence booster, everytime the rare woman looks at you, immediately tell yourself "she liked the way i looked" or something similar. Even if it might not be true, it usually is. I know i don't linger a glance on anything less than a 7...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by skinnydart
When you're passing them in the hall, and there not even (and havn't) looking at you, it doens't really work to say anything to them because they don't know you're talking to them.... unless I grab them by the arm or something, but I doubt that would work.that's my problem, that doens't happen, even if I look at them.any particular flavor?

So you're saying that you are waiting until she's almost past you and you are THEN trying to get her attention? How would you expect that to work?

Step into her path, say "hi, were you going to walk right over me" or something to make her place her attention on you. Stop waiting for some type of signal that it's alright for you to approach a girl. If you are interested in a woman why not approach her? What is she going to do, go Tae Bo on your @ss?

If you feel you need to build up your confidence and self esteem, do it. Go to the library, get a book. Until you build up those qualities you will have difficulty with not only approaches, but building interest level, rejection, qualifying, you name it. In each of those skills you will need confidence and control of yourself. Without it you will just be wasting time and effort.

 

[B9]

Originally posted by shrewd
girls don't normally make eye contact in the halls unless they find you extremely attractive at first glance. They just stare straight ahead and pretend you don't exist.

that is an area where looks makes quite a difference.
My appearance changed quite a bit after losing the glasses and even moreso after losing the hair and growing a beard a few years ago (ran into an girl I who used to go in my class three years ago not so long ago, who couldn't recognise me because 'now I was hot').
When I was younger I hardly ever got many looks from women. Now I get eye contact all the time. The change in women's initial reactions really are quite astounding.

As far as establishing eye contact regularly you need something to attract their attention.
I would recommend learning how to simply make a contained smile your normal face (it helps if you actually have things to smile about), that is you make sure you always smile with your eyes, the lips will tend to follow discretely. It's attractive and makes it quite natural to just throw an open smile at people when you do make eye contact.

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by shrewd
girls don't normally make eye contact in the halls unless they find you extremely attractive at first glance. They just stare straight ahead and pretend you don't exist.

I agree but just because they might stare straight ahead doesn't mean they aren't interested.

 

[skinnydart]

hi, were you going to walk right over me

I like that.

just because they might stare straight ahead doesn't mean they aren't interested

What do you mean by that. Like they feel self-concious themselves if they caught looking at you?

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by skinnydart
What do you mean by that. Like they feel self-concious themselves if they caught looking at you?

yes

 

[jcb1772]

When you're making eye contact with a total HB stranger...if they're shy you probably won't get a response at first try. So it doesn't mean they don't want you, they're either too afraid to look back (fear of getting caught) or just don't notice because there's something else on their mind.

But lemme ask some of you guys here. If the girl returns eye contact and smiles, does that always mean they're interested? Why else would they do that? I ask this because I've been recently trying to make eye contact in the halls with I girl a like at school...for a while she wouldn't look back (shy girl, no shock), but then on Friday she surprisingly looked right back at me with a slight smile. We know who each other are, so it's not like we're strangers or anything. But man, definately felt good vibes at that moment.

 

[Deep Dark Steel]

It sounds to me as if you aren't noticable enough. You need something distinguishable. Personally I'm 6'6 damn goodlooking imo and I'm always well dressed. Usually a collared shirt slacks and some nice shoes, so the ladies tend to look at me anyway. My suggestion would be to make some stylistic change that would garnish some attention. Dress more brightly, within tones that accentuate you, and in general more "gentlemanly."

 

[david90]

the girl from my first cold approach didn't make EC but I got her #. The girl from my 2nd cold approach also didn't make EC but I noticed that she flipped her hair and played with it while i walked by. Thus I chat her up and also got her #. The chick from my 3rd approach made EC but she rejected me when I # close.

 

[squirrels]

Why do you deserve eye contact?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by skinnydart
When you're passing them in the hall, and there not even (and havn't) looking at you, it doens't really work to say anything to them because they don't know you're talking to them.... unless I grab them by the arm or something, but I doubt that would work.that's my problem, that doens't happen, even if I look at them.any particular flavor?

lemon, it shows you are fruity, sour, but a fun kinda guy.
and the expression from sucking on this flavour adds to how hott you appear.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Deep Dark Steel
It sounds to me as if you aren't noticable enough. You need something distinguishable. Personally I'm 6'6 damn goodlooking imo and I'm always well dressed. Usually a collared shirt slacks and some nice shoes, so the ladies tend to look at me anyway. My suggestion would be to make some stylistic change that would garnish some attention. Dress more brightly, within tones that accentuate you, and in general more "gentlemanly."

your advice is for everyone to copy your style?
what an ignorant self-indulgent piece of crap.
I believe everyone should dress comfortably, and if they find stylish clothes that fit THEIR OWN personal style, then that will help as far as fashion goes, they wont look fake.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by squirrels
Why do you deserve eye contact?

because im so hott and my pants are always sporting a tent.