Hi everyone, well I am going to try this "no contact rule" and see what happens, so now to my most recent situation. There was a new receptionist that got hired at my job and she had all the guys talking about her. This girl was beautiful and not your average girl you'd see everyday. We exchanged #'s one day and it turned out we had so much in common and talked for hours, I never met someone where I felt so much connection with and she told me that she felt the same. The only thing that I didn't like in the beginning was that she was a lot younger than me, she's 22 and I'm 32. I told her my age and she told me she was into older men and that her ex was the same age as me. It was a couple months since she got out of a relationship with her ex. We started dating and every date was awesome, there was never a dull moment. She told me from the first moment she saw me at work she thought I was cute and I felt the exact same way about her. She also told me that she was a relationship kind of girl and doesn't like going to clubs much and rather just spend time with her man. I told myself from the beginning that I'd take it slow and not catch feelings. I took her on dates unlike any of her other boyfriends did.
After 2 weeks of dating she wanted to be over my place every day and didn't wanna sleep alone at her house. I was like cool, we didn't do any sexually at first and I respected her for that. After about a month this girl was infatuated with me. She was always blowing up my phone, she'd tell everyone at work about us, and say one good thing after another about me. I'd wake up in the morning and this girl would be staring at me telling me how attached she is and that she's falling for me. I was thinking in my head "this is too good to be true, I have this hot girl that any guy would kill to be with, she's young, no kids, she was very sexual, so much in common, the list went on". I was the first guy to ever do anything for Valentines day for her, first guy to ever get her flowers, first guy to ever do anything for her birthday. She'd tell me her other boyfriends didn't treat her anywhere close to the way I treated her and she loved it. I was nice, but not overly nice. She'd go around telling all her friends about me and had so many nice things to say about me. She introduced me to all her family and relatives and it just got better and better. Since she was always over my place her apartment became an expensive storage, she'd go there after work pick up her stuff and head to my place, this went on for 2 months. She didn't see a reason in paying rent there anymore so I made a suggestion to her, I told her since you pretty much live with me you might as well move in temporarily until you find your own place. She was all for it and seemed really happy with the idea.
Now let's go back a month, her friends at work convinced her to start a facebook account, I couldn't believe she didn't have one. I'm guessing her past boyfriend kept her locked down. She told me she'd go out to clubs once in a while at the time she was with her ex and he'd cry about it and give her a hard time. So now we're 2 months into the relationship and she's about to move in. She has this one girlfriend who she told she was going to move in with me and that girl was completely against it, then she's got this supervisor at work who acts like he's her dad and lets her get away with anything. This guy is really religious and she told me that he was getting on her case about moving in with a guy that your not married to and was completely against it also. This is a couple days before she moves is when all these people are telling her this. The day comes to move in and right away it's like she's having second thoughts. She starts telling me how she doesn't think it's right and that its too soon, that she'd rather wait until she falls in love with me and we're dating for a while. The whole time I'm cool about it, I told her that its fine and I'd help her out until she finds her own place. She moves in and day by day I notice a difference in her attitude. Before, this girl would be all over me whenever I was home with her. She always wanted me by her side. She starts going out with her friends more, and I notice she gives me less attention then before.
So now it's the middle of March and she's no longer having sex with me, we're not doing things as we did before as far as going out together as a couple, whenever we're sleeping together she's always telling me to move over as if I'm too close to her. Before I couldn't get this girl off me!! Now I'm thinking this is it, I don't know what I did, maybe we took things too fast and I shouldn't have moved her into my place. Maybe at times I was too nice to her, I kept over thinking everything. I even noticed she put a passcode on her Iphone which she didn't have before. I decided to go onto her Facebook and I saw that she was having conversations with other guys. I couldn't take it anymore, enough was enough already. She comes home and I tell her we need to talk. All I tell her was that I missed the person that she was with me, I missed all the things that we'd do together as a couple. Everything was going so well and for the past month it seems as though your distancing yourself from me. I noticed how you've changed ever since you moved in. She tells me that since she moved in she's felt overwhelmed and feels she needs time to focus on herself and wants to move in with her mom and we can just date. When she told me this, I didn't try and reason with her, I didn't cry about it or try and plead with her to change her mind, I just let it be. She moves out, but in the process leaves half of her stuff at my place. I no longer text her and let her initiate all types of contact, I only reply to her texts and no longer give her any attention. Every day she gives me this play by play on when she's going to pick up the rest of her stuff over at my place. This goes on for a week, when we first started dating I remember how she told me her last couple ex boyfriends went all psycho after she broke up with them. I told myself at this time I am going to do the complete opposite and act like I am not affected by it. The last text that I get from her she asks me "no hard feelings right because I don't want it to be awkward at work" I tell her no not at all. A couple days later she comes to pick up the rest of her belongings with a couple friends of hers. I packed her things up nicely so she'd have no problem moving out my house, I didn't cry or beg her back, I never blew up her phone after she told me all this before she moved out. I just stopped giving her any attention at all and acted like it was no big thing. So that's the only reason I could think of is why she'd be mad at me. This girl is used to getting attention from guys.
As I write this, it is now May 2nd, and it's been 2 weeks since she moved out. I have not had contact with her since then, we do work together, but I only see her a couple days out of the week. When I go to work as much as it hurts me inside I don't show it, I walk around and I smile and talk with everyone. I don't ignore her, but I keep my distance and don't make any kind of contact whatsoever. The first couple times I saw her at work, she gave me a look as if she's mad at me. My friends tell me that when she's at work she's there joking around as if she doesn't have a care at all. It hurts knowing this, I feel like she's out having a good time and I'm the last thought in her mind or just a distant memory. I do know that her age could have a lot to do with it, when I was 22 I didn't wanna settle down with anyone, but what gets to me is how she was with me and is now the complete opposite. I think I am handling it well, I've been down this path before and I know I'll get over it. I wanna flip it though, I feel like I want her to miss me. Right now I feel unappreciated, it really gets to me when I think of the beautiful girl that I met, she was such a nice person and was so into me and now she kicked me to the curb. Another thing that makes it harder is that this is one of the hottest girls I've ever been with. Anywhere I'd go with her guys were constantly staring and I know she has no problem getting guys that's why I wouldn't doubt if she's seeing someone else at the moment. I am trying to stay as positive as possible and it seems no matter what I do this girl is constantly in my mind, it drives me crazy at times. This is the first time I've ever handled a breakup like this. I agreed with the breakup, I acted like it didn't bother me, I haven't initiated contact since, I never blew up her phone, didn't cry about it, stopped giving her the same attention as before, and I don't talk to any of her friends about it. I go to work with a smile on my face even though it hurts like hell. I can't stop thinking about all the good memories I had with her and how into me she once was. I know I have to stop having hope, I feel like I am not ready to accept that she's gone. I am tired of her being a parasite in my mind. I hope I can look back at all this that I just wrote and laugh at it one day. Anyway, that's the situation I got myself into and I'll see how this "no contact rule" works and keep all of you updated.
After 2 weeks of dating she wanted to be over my place every day and didn't wanna sleep alone at her house. I was like cool, we didn't do any sexually at first and I respected her for that. After about a month this girl was infatuated with me. She was always blowing up my phone, she'd tell everyone at work about us, and say one good thing after another about me. I'd wake up in the morning and this girl would be staring at me telling me how attached she is and that she's falling for me. I was thinking in my head "this is too good to be true, I have this hot girl that any guy would kill to be with, she's young, no kids, she was very sexual, so much in common, the list went on". I was the first guy to ever do anything for Valentines day for her, first guy to ever get her flowers, first guy to ever do anything for her birthday. She'd tell me her other boyfriends didn't treat her anywhere close to the way I treated her and she loved it. I was nice, but not overly nice. She'd go around telling all her friends about me and had so many nice things to say about me. She introduced me to all her family and relatives and it just got better and better. Since she was always over my place her apartment became an expensive storage, she'd go there after work pick up her stuff and head to my place, this went on for 2 months. She didn't see a reason in paying rent there anymore so I made a suggestion to her, I told her since you pretty much live with me you might as well move in temporarily until you find your own place. She was all for it and seemed really happy with the idea.
Now let's go back a month, her friends at work convinced her to start a facebook account, I couldn't believe she didn't have one. I'm guessing her past boyfriend kept her locked down. She told me she'd go out to clubs once in a while at the time she was with her ex and he'd cry about it and give her a hard time. So now we're 2 months into the relationship and she's about to move in. She has this one girlfriend who she told she was going to move in with me and that girl was completely against it, then she's got this supervisor at work who acts like he's her dad and lets her get away with anything. This guy is really religious and she told me that he was getting on her case about moving in with a guy that your not married to and was completely against it also. This is a couple days before she moves is when all these people are telling her this. The day comes to move in and right away it's like she's having second thoughts. She starts telling me how she doesn't think it's right and that its too soon, that she'd rather wait until she falls in love with me and we're dating for a while. The whole time I'm cool about it, I told her that its fine and I'd help her out until she finds her own place. She moves in and day by day I notice a difference in her attitude. Before, this girl would be all over me whenever I was home with her. She always wanted me by her side. She starts going out with her friends more, and I notice she gives me less attention then before.
So now it's the middle of March and she's no longer having sex with me, we're not doing things as we did before as far as going out together as a couple, whenever we're sleeping together she's always telling me to move over as if I'm too close to her. Before I couldn't get this girl off me!! Now I'm thinking this is it, I don't know what I did, maybe we took things too fast and I shouldn't have moved her into my place. Maybe at times I was too nice to her, I kept over thinking everything. I even noticed she put a passcode on her Iphone which she didn't have before. I decided to go onto her Facebook and I saw that she was having conversations with other guys. I couldn't take it anymore, enough was enough already. She comes home and I tell her we need to talk. All I tell her was that I missed the person that she was with me, I missed all the things that we'd do together as a couple. Everything was going so well and for the past month it seems as though your distancing yourself from me. I noticed how you've changed ever since you moved in. She tells me that since she moved in she's felt overwhelmed and feels she needs time to focus on herself and wants to move in with her mom and we can just date. When she told me this, I didn't try and reason with her, I didn't cry about it or try and plead with her to change her mind, I just let it be. She moves out, but in the process leaves half of her stuff at my place. I no longer text her and let her initiate all types of contact, I only reply to her texts and no longer give her any attention. Every day she gives me this play by play on when she's going to pick up the rest of her stuff over at my place. This goes on for a week, when we first started dating I remember how she told me her last couple ex boyfriends went all psycho after she broke up with them. I told myself at this time I am going to do the complete opposite and act like I am not affected by it. The last text that I get from her she asks me "no hard feelings right because I don't want it to be awkward at work" I tell her no not at all. A couple days later she comes to pick up the rest of her belongings with a couple friends of hers. I packed her things up nicely so she'd have no problem moving out my house, I didn't cry or beg her back, I never blew up her phone after she told me all this before she moved out. I just stopped giving her any attention at all and acted like it was no big thing. So that's the only reason I could think of is why she'd be mad at me. This girl is used to getting attention from guys.
As I write this, it is now May 2nd, and it's been 2 weeks since she moved out. I have not had contact with her since then, we do work together, but I only see her a couple days out of the week. When I go to work as much as it hurts me inside I don't show it, I walk around and I smile and talk with everyone. I don't ignore her, but I keep my distance and don't make any kind of contact whatsoever. The first couple times I saw her at work, she gave me a look as if she's mad at me. My friends tell me that when she's at work she's there joking around as if she doesn't have a care at all. It hurts knowing this, I feel like she's out having a good time and I'm the last thought in her mind or just a distant memory. I do know that her age could have a lot to do with it, when I was 22 I didn't wanna settle down with anyone, but what gets to me is how she was with me and is now the complete opposite. I think I am handling it well, I've been down this path before and I know I'll get over it. I wanna flip it though, I feel like I want her to miss me. Right now I feel unappreciated, it really gets to me when I think of the beautiful girl that I met, she was such a nice person and was so into me and now she kicked me to the curb. Another thing that makes it harder is that this is one of the hottest girls I've ever been with. Anywhere I'd go with her guys were constantly staring and I know she has no problem getting guys that's why I wouldn't doubt if she's seeing someone else at the moment. I am trying to stay as positive as possible and it seems no matter what I do this girl is constantly in my mind, it drives me crazy at times. This is the first time I've ever handled a breakup like this. I agreed with the breakup, I acted like it didn't bother me, I haven't initiated contact since, I never blew up her phone, didn't cry about it, stopped giving her the same attention as before, and I don't talk to any of her friends about it. I go to work with a smile on my face even though it hurts like hell. I can't stop thinking about all the good memories I had with her and how into me she once was. I know I have to stop having hope, I feel like I am not ready to accept that she's gone. I am tired of her being a parasite in my mind. I hope I can look back at all this that I just wrote and laugh at it one day. Anyway, that's the situation I got myself into and I'll see how this "no contact rule" works and keep all of you updated.
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