And you're any different, how? And I quote, "I would never give that kind of power over myself to another person. I repeat, N-E-V-E-R." Isn't that somethin'.drZaius09 said:all of them filled with little more than self-important horse-sh#t about your "manly" status.
Although the inner instinct of humans is the same, the environment creates many different types of people in the world. There are actually women out there who don't want to be a pretty trophy sitting on some guy's mantel place.
Your advice may work like a charm with guys who want to "get with" a bunch of women but that kind of power play bull **** doesn't work for the long term; unless of course you want a hanger who has no opinion aside from yours. Even women who cannot live without a man who controls them, eventually gets sick of a man who's controlling. Eventually they will become so unhappy that they will find some other controlling a$$hole and leave. You may not care simply because you can just go out and get yourself another arm band to toss on. But, many guys here want to keep something going long term; something with a woman who stimulates more then his c0ck and the "You're better then us because you have a hot girlfriend" attitude amongst his friends. This type of relationship takes a lot of work including compromise and sometimes even tossing the ego into the trash for a while.
So to answer the original question. First you need to judge where both you and your girl stand. If you're looking for a relationship where you are in control of the entire situation, then drZaius makes a compelling argument. But if you're looking for a relationship based on friendship, trust and mental stimulation along with the physical then I would apologize to her. I would word it something like this. "I'm sorry, it wasn't my intention to kiss that girl. She came out of nowhere claiming to know me and before I could stop her she kissed me. I can't say it won't happen again. It happened so fast that I had no control over the situation. I can say that I love you and only you and I would never do anything intentionally to jeopardize that." BTW, my wife told me that a similar speech I had given to her was the reason she said yes when I asked her to marry me.
So, you can call me a chump, an AFC, an old man, whatever you want because that seems to be your way of dealing with anyone who disagrees with your opinion. But, if you tell some guy to play the power play, his girl could very well tell him to go take a leap, ending what could have been a great thing. I don't know about you, but that kind of negative karma is not something I want to have weighing me down.
Peace
-Al