Trust Issues vs Gut Instinct?

[youngmack]

Say you have trust issues caused by negative past experiences and/or what you have learned after swallowing the red pill,and you are dating or in a relationship with a girl. You are sometimes having thoughts like will the relation backfire on you,if shes is cheating you and other instances of that sort.

How can you tell whether these thoughts and or feelings are legitimate gut instincts or false and insecure assumptions stemming from your trust issues?

 

[ludis]

Say you have trust issues caused by negative past experiences and/or what you have learned after swallowing the red pill,and you are dating or in a relationship with a girl. You are sometimes having thoughts like will the relation backfire on you,if shes is cheating you and other instances of that sort.

How can you tell whether these thoughts and or feelings are legitimate gut instincts or false and insecure assumptions stemming from your trust issues?

My own experience has tought me that there is one rule that when broken can logically create suspicions: Actions should match words.

That means no flaking, no cancelling for petty reasons, no "forgetting", no devaluing out of the blue etc.

Gut feeling is literally this. An actual feeling and a strong one at that. If/when you do feel it, you would be wise to take heed against all words against it.

 

[youngmack]

My own experience has tought me that there is one rule that when broken can logically create suspicions: Actions should match words.

That means no flaking, no cancelling for petty reasons, no "forgetting", no devaluing out of the blue etc.

Gut feeling is literally this. An actual feeling and a strong one at that. If/when you do feel it, you would be wise to take heed against all words against it.

So if her actions matches her words than any thoughts after that would be deemed as having trust issues correct? For example if your having thoughts that she is still seeing her ex in some way with the fact that women in general have trouble getting over their bad boy exes,but you really have no evidence or proof of this, this would be called trust issues? or a very intuitve gut?

 

[youngmack]

#1 If she shows major red flags prior to the gut feeling she is guilty until proven innocent. Mostly guy friends, bad family background, etc.
#2 If there is a sudden change in behavior there is a presumption of guilt that she can show is false. Stops texting, starts acting confused or bored around you.
#3 If she actually did *something* sketchy with another guy she is guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. 1v1 dates with an ex or a new guy she met, sleeping over guys houses, etc.

Yeah i definitely understand what you mean with #1 and 2, but number 3 how would you even know this? I mean numbers 1 and 2 you actually have some kind of evidence to go by which is her behavior.

 

[Krueg]

Your imagination will make your mind run wild and think all kinds of things. When you have a gut feeling about something, it usually comes from inside you. AKA that gut feeling. I remember just before breaking up with one of my last ex's I had a feeling in my stomach that told me something isn't right. That her interest level is low and possibly hanging out with some other guy. Well that "Gut" feeling turned out to be true within a couple days. She told me she wasn't "in-love" with me any more. So I said, if that's how you feel you can move out. She did and ended up dating some guy I knew she would end up going for and that didn't last long from I heard through the grape vine.

So to make things short, its a feeling you know inside you. Not your imagination/paranoia

 

[pdx1138]

Actions matching the words as ludis said.

Don't start thinking up stuff and sabotaging things....you should be thinking positively...turn off that negative chit!

My current gf went through a series of bad relationships for years. When she began to have sabotaging thoughts about us...about 2 weeks in, her best friend (who I'd met by that point) told her to stop being an idiot and be damn grateful she had a guy like me after all the past duds.

She complied and it's been smooth sailing...so far.

 

[The_411]

It's pretty simple when your gut tells you it's usually right. The key is to recognize when your gut is telling you something and not ignore it, but start paying close attention. If a chick is up to something she'll leave multiple hints. They may be small but if you collect data bring it to a trusted friend and he'll likely give you a read out.

 

[nismo-4]

If your gut is telling you that your princess is in another castle, she usually is. Read the actions.

Case closed.

 

[bluenorther]

Believe it or not, I've had several experiences where my gut feeling came out of nowhere, telling me that I was being chumped. I was nowhere around these broads, out with my own family or driving back from a visit, and I would get premonitions telling me that I was in for a nasty surprise.
My gut was exactly correct.