Truly. boring. girls.

[Kool4Katz]

I always think I can find a perfectly "boring" girl and discover some hidden universe within. I assume girls who seem totally boring must have a secret hidden world of fire and excitement.

Problem is I have met several and - as far as I can tell - it's just not true. I have had my mind blown with how one-dimensional a person can be recently. Just totally nerdy, WASPy, uninteresting, and seemingly fine being bland as oatmeal.

Part of me thinks - I just haven't gotten to know her well enough.

I suppose people on SS typify people who are self-reflective, curious etc. I consider myself to be inventive, creative, imaginative. Is it fair to say some people (girls in this case) are just downright vanilla and boring to the core? I can't believe it's possible without massive repression or something like that.

 

[MisterD]

Yeah, when I meet new chicks, I give them the benefit of the doubt, because I don't want to be cynical. But 9 times out of 10, what you see is what you get. They usually turn out to be the same chick I've met before, only difference is their looks. It almost never fails. I meet a new chick, she'll say something or do something that gets me thinking hmmm, she seems different. Then after a week or so of interacting I'm like nope. I was wrong. Same chick as always.

 

[PapiChulo]

Sometimes they are not only boring, but bland with a twist such as insecurities and craziness (the bad kind) to make up for the boring. The only thing you can recognize is the potential in younger people who were indeed repressed or put in the environment where their enthusiasm has been stunted. This kinda women can surprise you after a little bit of work.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Am 100% with you on this OP. For a long time I couldn't bring myself to believe that some of the girls I've dated were actually as boring as they appeared to be. I still can't be certain that they are - maybe there is a magical inner world full of beauty and wonder, just waiting to be discovered but...... nah they are just dull ****s.

So sick of going on dates with these girls and them just sitting there making absolutely zero contribution to the conversation. Honestly, no joke, the next time that happens i'm going to excuse myself to go to the bathroom and then just keep walking. And this will be AFTER I've ordered the most expensive thing on the menu. And I'm going to post about it on here. F*cking simpletons.

PapiChulo - yes! Boring is bad enough but when there is that twist (the latest girl I dated it was a twist of nastiness) it's just intolerable. I'll save the walking out on dinner for that special breed of dullard.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Sounds like the girl equivalent of many of the guys here.
People happen to be uninteresting to other people; go figure!

 

[Wilko]

Fvck yes.

The basic idea here (what do women actually bring to the table?) is getting worked over in a few different threads at the moment.

Personally, I've been hanging on to the idea that I'd like a woman for her "warm, moist holes" (thanks for that turn of phrase Burroughs) AND "good female company"; otherwise I have no interest in the more traditional reasons for seeking female companionship.

But, each "easygoing girl with a great sense of humour who loves travelling and spending time with friends and family" I have to engage with brings me closer to accepting that the ONLY thing I need, or can reliably expect from a woman, is sexual relief.

That said, I was pleasantly surprised when a date earlier this week had some relevant and funny stories to share....well, one anyway, which is more than most.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Sounds like the girl equivalent of many of the guys here.
People happen to be uninteresting to other people; go figure!

I don't think so dude. I mean yes, you have a point. But even with many guys I don't like or find interesting, I can see that there is some semblance of a personality there. Whether I like it or not is a different question.

However many of these girls really do seem to be no more than cardboard cutouts. There is a gender specific thing going on here.

And yes I will admit I know some interesting girls but they are few and far between and generally not that attractive.

Do you think any of us wanted it to be like this? I've got no vested interest in seeing things this way. I think at one point many of the guys here probably did fantasise about a soulmate, somebody that would fascinate, understand, charm, bewitch, etc. The reality is quite different though.

 

[MisterD]

It is a valid question though--What do women bring to the table? How often have we found a woman who is willing to take a look at herself and see what she can improve on personality wise. And how often is it that she says "It's not me, it's him. I need to find someone who will like me for me. I don't have to change or improve anything".

 

[Yo'Mama]

It is a valid question though--What do women bring to the table? How often have we found a woman who is willing to take a look at herself and see what she can improve on personality wise. And how often is it that she says "It's not me, it's him. I need to find someone who will like me for me. I don't have to change or improve anything".

Couldn't agree more. If only men would act in concert. We could own those *****es. Unfortunately there seems little chance of that happening. Browsing girls' Facebook pics there doesn't seem to be one girl below a 5 that isn't getting 'Gorgeous!', 'You're amazing!', 'Stunning!!' comments from guys and girls alike.

 

[st_99]

interesting just because one was hpd and made going to mcdonalds seem exciting,

haha, yeah this girl i hooked up with a little while back i believe was hpd and she was the most fun i've had with a girl in a long time. Man, her personality was highly addictive, nothing was ever boring with her. No wonder the ulta oneitis i developed!


but yeah, 19 out of 20 girls are just plain f*cking boring as all hell.

 

[ilikecharlene]

i think boring is subjective to some degree, but to me boring is somebody just who is interested in bog standard stuff like the Kardashians or American Idol. I like bog standard stuff some of the time, but if she doesn't take it up to open her mind, then forget it, i don't care how hot/cute she is.

 

[shizz702]

Been dealing with that with one chick I've been seeing for a bit now.

Lame, boring azz personality, and makes it painful at times to keep the flow going, but the problem is, lo and behold she is hot and that is what has kept me coming back to her, in hopes maybe I can bring that wild side out of her.

Ones like this you certainly can't put too much effort into, always have them other plates.

I'm pretty sure this is a what you see is what you get kind of thing and seldom can you change someone.

 

[shizz702]

Haha I'm in the same boat. The girl is hot enough for me but she would need to be Megan Fox for me to overlook how boring her personality is. Part of it has to do with the introvert/introvert matchup, that rarely works. I have to act like a clown just to entertain MYSELF during dates with her, leaves me drained.

Honestly, there's a girl that is a 5 that has a great personality and I would upgrade to her in a second if I could.

Haha I feel you man. I'm spinning 2 others that are below that one in the looks department but at least their personalities are fun and I have sexual chemistry with them.

I think part of what draws us to women like that is wanting what seems like we can't have. Weird. It's like a challenge you know? Odd thing is her behavior displays signs of low interest yet she always keeps coming back to me. Who knows. All I know is I would never invest my all in one like that.

 

[PokerStar]

thats why i would like to meet girls at places where we share similar interests. Whether its seeing a band or dj at a club, BJJ competitions, or even yoga class.

As long as you share the same passions, it will not be as boring as you think.

 

[FairShake]

Just totally nerdy, WASPy, uninteresting, and seemingly fine being bland as oatmeal.

WASPy? Is it the 19th century?

I am usually interested in everyone. I've found very few people are really boring if any. Everyone has their passions, their opinions, their history, and their future. Even people that appear one way usually have things hidden about them that might surprise you. I think this aspect of myself is one of the main reasons why a socially awkward below average looking guy like myself has gotten laid more than he should. I can have fantastic conversations with people because I am fascinated by them. And if you can chat you vastly increase your potential to fvck.

I think if you think someone is boring it's probably because you may not be open-minded towards White Anglo Saxon Protestants or you didn't really try to open them up.

 

[Zerro]

The hot girls are rarely interesting and the interesting girls are rarely hot, such is life. We can only hope to find a happy medium.

 

[QueRico]

For some reason, I always seem to have fun with my women. My expectations are different of course, I am the leading man, the woman just has to follow me in my journey... I am never bored, and they are pushed from their comfort zone.

 

[Wilko]

The hot girls are rarely interesting and the interesting girls are rarely hot, such is life. We can only hope to find a happy medium.

Brother, this is so very, very true. Nowhere is it more obvious than online. The hot girls have profiles that should come with a facepalm warning, and the girls with interesting profiles never have any public photos. You'll only take a chance on that so many times before you learn your lesson.

 

[bigneil]

Boring and bored go hand in hand. It means high maintenance. They generate nothing.

My new girl is the hottest girl I've dated in years but ironically what I like best about her is that she occasionally says something brilliant.

 

[Wilko]

Girl mentions she has terrible taste in music in her profile.

I ask her, "How terrible? What was the first album you ever bought with your own money?".

She sheepishly replies, "Hanson."

Right over the plate. I say, "You have every right to be ashamed of yourself, mind you, that chick from Hanson was pretty hot."

She absolutely, sincerely replies "Umm, Hanson was three guys!"

Facepalm.

I accuse her of not watching nearly enough Family Guy.

She tells me she hates that show.

And yet they wonder.