So you've been hanging around here for a while, and you see all these wonderful tips, each able to "Get you all the women you want!"
True, there are things like having a clean bathroom that will help significantly. Hugging a girl with your left hand two inches higher than normal could help you a little.
I imagine you have all these ideas in your head, no room for them all (especially if you're new at this)?
I'm going to compile all these little tips and ideas into some basic rules, and build off of those.
Rule #1
GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT
Something I have seen is that many people come here in hope of easy ways to get women. That can be found if you look in the right places and get your priorities straight. Often newbies get here, read pages and pages of information, and then try applying it whenever they get the chance, amazed at the new concepts they have come across.
There's a problem with this. DJs don't NEED women. They shouldn't be trying as hard as they can; trying to pick up every girl they see. They have OTHER PRIORITIES.
Try as hard as you can to picture a "natural" DJ, particularly someone you know. Chances are you see that person VERY social. Maybe a guy on the football team, who DOESN'T HAVE TIME FOR GIRLS.
It is well known that being a DJ is a way of life (quite like Buddhism
). But that doesn't mean to spend your life trying to get perfect girls. DJs have other priorities, and girls shouldn't be their top one.
Many people who have discovered http://www.sosuave.com were once "outcasts" and major AFCs, with NO SOCIAL LIFE.
That's why many people here have trouble when all these simple tactics should be working.
Some of my priorities are listed below, in order:
Things that fall under ME would be:
DJs need to understand that there's more to being a DJ than knowing how to play the game.
Rule #2
BE THE DOMINATOR
This is probably already well known here. Stop letting girls walk all over you, stop letting guys walk all over you. If you act like an emperor, you will be treated as such. I know some of the smallest stupidest kids who people are scared of. It's obvious that they would go down in a fight, but an emperor has people backing him. You'll get respect and followers/people backing you.
Confidence is a major key here. If you think you can dominate, you will dominate. Don't take anything from anyone. You don't need anyone. You don't need anything. You could go solo, but you choose to have a social life (VERY IMPORTANT).
So you have low confidence? That can be fixed. Physical characters make up a HUGE percentage of what your confidence is built on. Workout and if you're not in shape play a sport. That will help more than anything, because you're constantly being pushed physically and you're having fun (hopefully) at the same time.
Hair is one of the most important things as far as looks. This cannot be stressed enough!!! Find a good hairstyle, short is always a good way to go if you can't find anything. Ask girls for advice on your hair. White, straight teeth are a big plus. You know where to go for those. Skin care is important. Visit www.acne.org and take a careful look if you have acne (no matter how severe).
Shaving frequently (even if you can hardly tell) does help, unless you have a certain way you want your facial hair. SHOES ARE ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT CLOTHING ITEMS. Guys ignore this fact and girls don't. Bad shoes really stand out to a girl, and good ones stand out even more. Try to find a style that isn't boring for you, try different things until you find something that you like. Accessories are ok, don't overdo it though.
If you have an introverted personality (shy, quiet, not outgoing) then start talking to people as much as you can. Talk about whatever is on your mind. Get used to conversation then you can fine tune your conversation skills. And try to be a bit of a jerk for a while, eventually it will go away but your confidence will be boosted.
You need to be a leader. I read this tip somewhere else, can't remember but it's extremely valuable: "When in a group of people, talk about general topics that they can all relate to." When talking to particular people, find out their interests and become genuinely interested in them.
Try organizing something with a group of friends and girls. Don't wait for someone else to. Always be busy, always be doing something. Being a leader (a successful one) is very rewarding in many senses.
Rule #3
LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT
You have come to this site to become successful with girls. That doesn't mean change your whole personality to something that you're uncomfortable with just to get girls. You need to live your life how you want, just follow the basics and don't make girls feel like your mother.
You have your hobbies, you know what you like. Keep living a way you enjoy. Just become better with the ladies. If clubbing isn't fun for you, don't do it. There's other ways to get girls. You'll meet plenty just doing daily stuff. It's all in your hands to take initiative.
So that's it, the idea of this post is to take control, do what you want, don't waste TOO much time with girls. Let it all happen and stop worrying. Read the bible and if you stick around long enough, you'll get the rules down great. It's up to you to go out there and do it right.
[This message has been edited by MaDsKaTeR212 (edited 06-15-2002).]
True, there are things like having a clean bathroom that will help significantly. Hugging a girl with your left hand two inches higher than normal could help you a little.
I imagine you have all these ideas in your head, no room for them all (especially if you're new at this)?
I'm going to compile all these little tips and ideas into some basic rules, and build off of those.
Rule #1
GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT
Something I have seen is that many people come here in hope of easy ways to get women. That can be found if you look in the right places and get your priorities straight. Often newbies get here, read pages and pages of information, and then try applying it whenever they get the chance, amazed at the new concepts they have come across.
There's a problem with this. DJs don't NEED women. They shouldn't be trying as hard as they can; trying to pick up every girl they see. They have OTHER PRIORITIES.
Try as hard as you can to picture a "natural" DJ, particularly someone you know. Chances are you see that person VERY social. Maybe a guy on the football team, who DOESN'T HAVE TIME FOR GIRLS.
It is well known that being a DJ is a way of life (quite like Buddhism
Many people who have discovered http://www.sosuave.com were once "outcasts" and major AFCs, with NO SOCIAL LIFE.
That's why many people here have trouble when all these simple tactics should be working.
Some of my priorities are listed below, in order:
- ME
- My beliefs, values, ethics
- Family
- School
- Friends
- Skateboarding (my hobby)
- Girls
Things that fall under ME would be:
- My social life
- My appearance (including personality, which is becoming more and more to my liking.)
- My progress in school or anything I'm working on
- Hygiene
DJs need to understand that there's more to being a DJ than knowing how to play the game.
Rule #2
BE THE DOMINATOR
This is probably already well known here. Stop letting girls walk all over you, stop letting guys walk all over you. If you act like an emperor, you will be treated as such. I know some of the smallest stupidest kids who people are scared of. It's obvious that they would go down in a fight, but an emperor has people backing him. You'll get respect and followers/people backing you.
Confidence is a major key here. If you think you can dominate, you will dominate. Don't take anything from anyone. You don't need anyone. You don't need anything. You could go solo, but you choose to have a social life (VERY IMPORTANT).
So you have low confidence? That can be fixed. Physical characters make up a HUGE percentage of what your confidence is built on. Workout and if you're not in shape play a sport. That will help more than anything, because you're constantly being pushed physically and you're having fun (hopefully) at the same time.
Hair is one of the most important things as far as looks. This cannot be stressed enough!!! Find a good hairstyle, short is always a good way to go if you can't find anything. Ask girls for advice on your hair. White, straight teeth are a big plus. You know where to go for those. Skin care is important. Visit www.acne.org and take a careful look if you have acne (no matter how severe).
Shaving frequently (even if you can hardly tell) does help, unless you have a certain way you want your facial hair. SHOES ARE ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT CLOTHING ITEMS. Guys ignore this fact and girls don't. Bad shoes really stand out to a girl, and good ones stand out even more. Try to find a style that isn't boring for you, try different things until you find something that you like. Accessories are ok, don't overdo it though.
If you have an introverted personality (shy, quiet, not outgoing) then start talking to people as much as you can. Talk about whatever is on your mind. Get used to conversation then you can fine tune your conversation skills. And try to be a bit of a jerk for a while, eventually it will go away but your confidence will be boosted.
You need to be a leader. I read this tip somewhere else, can't remember but it's extremely valuable: "When in a group of people, talk about general topics that they can all relate to." When talking to particular people, find out their interests and become genuinely interested in them.
Try organizing something with a group of friends and girls. Don't wait for someone else to. Always be busy, always be doing something. Being a leader (a successful one) is very rewarding in many senses.
Rule #3
LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT
You have come to this site to become successful with girls. That doesn't mean change your whole personality to something that you're uncomfortable with just to get girls. You need to live your life how you want, just follow the basics and don't make girls feel like your mother.
You have your hobbies, you know what you like. Keep living a way you enjoy. Just become better with the ladies. If clubbing isn't fun for you, don't do it. There's other ways to get girls. You'll meet plenty just doing daily stuff. It's all in your hands to take initiative.
So that's it, the idea of this post is to take control, do what you want, don't waste TOO much time with girls. Let it all happen and stop worrying. Read the bible and if you stick around long enough, you'll get the rules down great. It's up to you to go out there and do it right.
[This message has been edited by MaDsKaTeR212 (edited 06-15-2002).]
