btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
Damn I can relate to this. Especially the part about once you've become that high value man that you've been working towards becoming and you STILL get the flakiness and crappy attitudes and arrogance from women only it's a longer time that they'll wait to show that true side of themselves.
I've been reading this book called King, Magician, Warrior, Lover: Rediscovering the archetypes of the Mature Masculine. The theory of the whole book is that as a society we have really lost our way in terms of boys becoming men in a way that is recognized and meaningful, i.e. we've got all these men in their 20s and 30s that are in a constant mental turmoil because they don't feel like men and are confused as to why their lives feel so empty and dark, and I can also relate to this quite a bit.
The author's argument is that the reason a-lot of guys feel this way is because we are not in touch with our primal, masculine archetypes that reside within us (The King, The Magician, The Warrior, and The Lover). Rather, according to the author, most men are primarily in touch with the immature forms of these masculine archetypes (The Divine Child, The Hero, The Precocious Child, and Oedipal Child). Further more each set of archetypes both mature and immature have two bipolar shadows that come along with them if you are not fully in tune with that archetypes positive energy in it's whole.
So what's my point? Regarding The King energy, I want to share a story with you from the book that will help to illustrate my point at the end of this post. Here's the story:
"I am a soldier of fortune in ancient China. I’ve been creating a lot of trouble, hurting a lot of people, disturbing the order of the empire for my own profit and benefit. I’m a kind of outlaw, a kind of mercenary. I’m being chased through the countryside, through a forest, by soldiers of the Chinese army, the Chinese emperor’s men. We’re all dressed in some kind of scale armor, with bows and arrows and probably swords. I’m running through the woods, and I see a hole in the ground, the entrance to a cave, so I rush into it to hide. Once inside, I see that it is a long tunnel. I run along the tunnel.
The Chinese army sees me go into the cave, and they run after me down the tunnel. At the end of the tunnel, I see in the far distance a pale blue light streaming down from above, from what is probably an opening in the rock. As I get closer, I see that the light is falling into a chamber, an underground chamber, and that in the chamber is a very green garden. And standing in the middle of the garden is the Chinese emperor himself in his elaborate red and gold robes. There is nowhere for me to go. The army is closing on me from behind. I am forced into the presence of the emperor himself.
There is nothing to do but to kneel before him, to submit to him. I feel great humility, as though a phase of my life is over. He looks down at me with a fatherly compassion. He’s not angry with me at all. I feel from him that he has seen it all, that he has lived it all, all the adventures of life— poverty, wealth, women, wars, palace intrigues, betrayals and being betrayed, suffering and joy, everything in human life. It is out of this seasoned, very ancient, very experienced wisdom that he now treats me with compassion. He says very gently, “You have to die. You will be executed in three hours.” I know that he is right. There is a bond between us. It’s as though he’s been in exactly my position before; he knows about these things. With a great feeling of peace, and even happiness, I submit to my fate."
The theory in regards to having your own "King Energy" come online, or activated in your life is beautifully illustrated in this story; it's a submission to the ways of the world, but not in a way that makes you weak. Rather, it's an acceptance of the fact that 1. this is the way people are. period. I am not going to change this and 2. that doesn't mean however that I can't proudly step out into this world and be the best man I can be, strive to find the type of work that I truly want, exercise both my physical and mental bodies and help keep them nourished and strong AND I can still try to meet, enjoy and form relationships with women while understanding their true nature.
The KEY here however is that your satisfaction, contentment and happiness in this life as a man must come from the fact that you are making an effort to be the best man you can be. You are making an effort in this world. You are striving and trying the best you can and again, that is all that you can do at the end of the day, my brother. Friends come and go. Money comes and goes. WOMEN sure as hell come and go. JOBS come and go. HEALTH comes and goes. But your spirit and your masculine energy as a man is what keeps your heart lit and full even in the darkest, most lonely times of your life. It's there through the breakups, through the firings, through the sickness, through the financial devastation, etc. It's always there.
And as a man, you're submitting to the fact that these things do COME and GO, and there isn't a damn thing you can do about it, EXCEPT find a deeper more fulfilling meaning of happiness and contentment as it applies to your own life - i.e. in the journey or in your effort and never quitting spirit.
This is something that is much easier to do said than done, but after all the years I've spent chasing tail and other types of external pleasures I've realized how fleeting it all is. It's there to be enjoyed and hopefully will be in your life for a long time but it cannot be where your fulfillment comes from. And that is OK. So this anger and hatred you have for women should be replaced with a peace and contentment that this is the way they are. period. You are not going to change them. But that doesn't mean you can't work within the system to find success and ultimately find peace, joy and fulfillment FROM the journey and the effort, not the result.
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