Trouble with the old lady

[Hannibal]

I've got me a problem, im in a LTR and shes pretty much my dream girl, shes practically a perfect copy of me except with breasts. I've been with her 3 months now and we like each other alot. But last weekend she went away with a friend to a bluegrass festival, at the festivals the bands have their own camps at night where they jam. And there was this one camp she went to where the band had this 15 year old in it (shes 15 by the way and im 17) and hes supposedly an amazing singer, and he sat around and played guitar and sang to her, unfortunately her biggest turn on is having someone sing and play guitar to her, so now she tells me that she had a little crush on him during the week. Now shes worried she cant hold interest in someone because of her weakness for singers/guitar players. She still likes me, its just that shes been off lately because of her meeting with him.

Please dont say next her or call me a stupid newb, this is very important to me. What can I do to fix this?

 

[Porky]

shes practically a perfect copy of me except with breasts.

And a vagina, I hope.

Mentally distance yourself from her, and flirt with other girls in front of her. She wanted this kid because of the situation - she was away from home, away from her friends, away form you, and the temptation to hook up with him was strong.

She's still with you. Just roll with it and show her that you can get other women. If she sees you harmlessly flirting with a hot female friend she'll get a little jealous. Make sure the flirting is harmless though.

 

[SnatchJP]

Hmm. That suggestion is sound by DJ principles, but I think this girl might just see that and think "HEY!!! Thats not!... wait a second, if he can do that, why shouldn't I?" and then go chase that singer again.

I'm assuming you know that being seranaded is one of her favorite turn-ons by doing it yourself? If so, remind her that you can too.

HOWEVER, if you can't play guitar or sing for her, learning how might not just be the best idea. It's romantic, yes, but it makes you look desparate. It also puts you in a direct competition with the other guy who is probably better than you. (Since he's had more experience). You'd lose that competition.

So don't sing for her unless you already have and can do it well. She is still with you, just make sure you're still an interesting person yourself. Do more of what you're doing away from her, make some memories both with her and without her. As long as you've got a life, you won't have to worry about this.

 

[LikRetsam]

Warning, shyt test alert, warning.

Play it off. Don't talk about it. If she brings it up, joke about it. Take the high road, dont let it bother you. She's just testing you.

 

[Jester]

listen dude

Listen everyone actually.

If you dont like what i have to say, tough, not everybody likes the truth.

Anyway


I have a unique ability to see through bullsh1t after studying how to see through bullsh1t for 3 years on this and other websites.

What your "girlfriend"(thats in quotes for a reason) gave you is commonly referred to as ********. More accurately its just talk a mean ***** guy or girl would use to weasel their agendas without actually telling the total truth.


What this girl was really THINKING, was this. I'll keep you around on the side so if im bored you can serve as something to do, but if any better guy comes around i dont wanna feel bad if i have sex with them.

Truth.


You fix this by getting rid of this slut. This is the kind of a girl you ****, not the kind of girl you have some sort of comitted relationship with.

If you cant deal with that FACT, than you will be in a world of hurt.


Choose your fate.

 

[splinterkb]

shes pretty much my dream girl, shes practically a perfect copy of me except with breasts.


^ - She already sounds very ugly.

 

[Hannibal]

Actually shes been going through rough times as of late, her uncle/godfather had been sick during the time she was away and had died just yesterday. She went through a whole list of things that were bothering her. First she said it was that she thought she couldn't please me (she always was trying hard to make sure she didnt screw up and when she THOUGHT she did she got pretty down and out and thought it upsetted me...didnt of course) then it was that we were too commited for each other at such a young age, then it was the guitar guy, then it was that she wasnt feelign like being in a relationship, then we narrowed it down to being too commited. Shes undergone many changes lately becasue of the death (i.e. gotten more mature) and we're taking things back a notch, we agreed that some of the stuff we did (everything up to, but excluding sex) was too much for kids to be doing, so we're turning it down and taking it slow again. It was indeed a fleeting crush she had on the guitar fellow, besides which im not getting whiny about it or impulsive (which would be "frist readction: dump her").

Jester, I appreciate the advice but we figured out a completely opposite side of it before you even posted. And for reference splinterkb, shes at least an 8.5. Im still goign to take heed from likretsam's advice though...just in case. Thanks everyone.

 

[Omega]

So let's put this situation into the spotlight. In your eyes, she could be seen as your soulmate with a bangin' body, and you don't want to loose her. Though, as you probebly do not want to take responsibility for, you've given her too much of your birthday cake. I can tell you this from experience because it's happened to me. Other people have suggested what I'm about to, and that's playing it cool and laying it off. You havn't lost her yet, but your on the verge of it. You need to show her you don't give a **** and she's lucky to be with you, not the other way around. Girls have this, well some at least, idea that they are above us. They have this idea because we've let them think that, however it's time for them to smarten up. So, play it cool buddy. You can do it.

 

[bubbles]

i cant play the guitar its so hard! damn

 

[Hannibal]

Good words renegade, it was my plan to be extra loose about this coming up, we came mighty close to losing each other there last night. But we finally figured it out and we're taking a week off from each other at the moment, and after that Im being that hard to get bugger I was around the beginning. Good to see that the meanings and morals of some people here arent just sex, it really can be a drug, considering theres not many messageboards where they talk about how to get good heroin... I said not many because im not too sure on the availability of heroin forums.

I was never worried about this thing with the guitar player anyways, every single relationship has one of those people that floats by that they just turn us on more for the smallest worthless reason and luckily she didnt give into her urges, and ive came close a couple of times myself, but I knew better, Im not prepared to give up a great relationship for a quick bit of fun with someone that has a better ass. Love certainly is a big part of a relationship, but dealing with lust for others is just as big, depends on how much you like the person I suppose. You can scare people when you say "We'll do this if we're still together in a couple of years", because it makes them think they arent in control of their own lives, finding the love of your life cant be taught, tricking a girl into bed is another story which is why alot of people are here. Because if you have to use any tricks at all to get with a person and MAKE them love you, then its just not worth it is it.

P.S. To bubbles, hang in there old chap, Ive been playing guitar for 5-6 years now, and its just practice and studying thats required, if you love the music and can feel it all you need to know is a couple of chords. For good sites try www.ultimate-guitar.com www.cyberfret.com and www.mxtabs.net are good places to find tabs and lessons. All you need is practice, I can vouch for it. Sorry I forgot to mention earlier in the thread that im a recreational singer/guitar player/songwriter, just that this guy caught her off guard and she just felt a smidgen of a tickle in the slippery spot.

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by Hannibal
Good words renegade, it was my plan to be extra loose about this coming up, we came mighty close to losing each other there last night. But we finally figured it out and we're taking a week off from each other at the moment, and after that Im being that hard to get bugger I was around the beginning. Good to see that the meanings and morals of some people here arent just sex, it really can be a drug, considering theres not many messageboards where they talk about how to get good heroin... I said not many because im not too sure on the availability of heroin forums.

I was never worried about this thing with the guitar player anyways, every single relationship has one of those people that floats by that they just turn us on more for the smallest worthless reason and luckily she didnt give into her urges, and ive came close a couple of times myself, but I knew better, Im not prepared to give up a great relationship for a quick bit of fun with someone that has a better ass. Love certainly is a big part of a relationship, but dealing with lust for others is just as big, depends on how much you like the person I suppose. You can scare people when you say "We'll do this if we're still together in a couple of years", because it makes them think they arent in control of their own lives, finding the love of your life cant be taught, tricking a girl into bed is another story which is why alot of people are here. Because if you have to use any tricks at all to get with a person and MAKE them love you, then its just not worth it is it.

P.S. To bubbles, hang in there old chap, Ive been playing guitar for 5-6 years now, and its just practice and studying thats required, if you love the music and can feel it all you need to know is a couple of chords. For good sites try www.ultimate-guitar.com www.cyberfret.com and www.mxtabs.net are good places to find tabs and lessons. All you need is practice, I can vouch for it. Sorry I forgot to mention earlier in the thread that im a recreational singer/guitar player/songwriter, just that this guy caught her off guard and she just felt a smidgen of a tickle in the slippery spot.

Yea it's all mind over matter. I'm into sexualaty and everything, just I have my bounderies and I'm not addicted like alot of people.

I'm actually learning the guitar as well and those sites have helped alot. Thanks

Keep at it.

 

[Jester]

Originally posted by Hannibal
First she said it was that she thought she couldn't please me, then it was that we were too commited for each other at such a young age, then it was the guitar guy, then it was that she wasnt feelign like being in a relationship, then we narrowed it down to being too commited. Shes undergone many changes lately becasue of the death (i.e. gotten more mature) and we're taking things back a notch, we agreed that some of the stuff we did was too much for kids to be doing, so we're turning it down and taking it slow again. It was indeed a fleeting crush she had on the guitar fellow, besides which im not getting whiny about it or impulsive.

we came mighty close to losing each other there last night. But we finally figured it out and we're taking a week off from each other at the moment,

Are you blind my friend? Can you not see? My words trying to fight your infatuation is about as useful as taking a friggin water gun into iraq! Maybe i can sup that water gun up tho and make it fire at extraordinary speeds! I do hope im not the only one on this forum that could smell this bullsh1t.

Lets break this down shall we?

She says she wants to do anything to please you.....BUT she doesnt want to be committed to you and she tells you she has a crush on a guy who she let try to bang her via musical seduction. But then again, if thats what she was willing to tell you....i wonder what she didnt tell you....you really think this guy who probably ****s girls all the time wouldnt try anything on your "8.5" girlfriend? I know i would try to bang some girl who let me privately sing a song to her....makes you think doesnt it?

And then she says by the way i dont want to suck your d1ck anymore, oh i also dont want to see you again for atleast a week.


You're her b1tch my friend.

read the f-ucking bible, and when this wh0re cheats on you and dumps you...or worse, cheats on you and comes back begging for forgiveness dont come here for help cause ill make everyone here know you dont deserve it.

Help yourself, or be her b1tch. Your choice.

oh yeah....READ THE F8CKING BIBLE NOOB.

to other djs..the real sad part of this is, i know this kid wont listen to me. He knows im right, but he wont do what is right, hes too addicted to infatuation. Perhaps tho in the future when this ho deals with him he'll remember this post and learn from it. Its sad some have to learn from their own mistakes, and not prevent making those mistakes in the first place.

 

[Luscious]

Originally posted by Hannibal
And there was this one camp she went to where the band had this 15 year old in it (shes 15 by the way and im 17) and hes supposedly an amazing singer, and he sat around and played guitar and sang to her, unfortunately her biggest turn on is having someone sing and play guitar to her, so now she tells me that she had a little crush on him during the week. Now shes worried she cant hold interest in someone because of her weakness for singers/guitar players. She still likes me, its just that shes been off lately because of her meeting with him.

Wow....ouch.

I personally have a really low tolerance for anything like this in women. I admire her honesty but that'd get no bonus points from me.

Captain Luscious says she's outta here. This is three strikes against her, easily. Give her the boot and save yourself the trouble later on if/when you've got more invested in this relationship.
(in other words, run before she's got you by the legs, buddy! )

 

[Evil-Rom]

Next her you stupid newb.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Evil-Rom
Next her you stupid newb.

He said it best.

 

[Hannibal]

unfortunately, I cant next her, shes my best friend and best lover. But now weve broken up because she says she doesnt want to be in any relationship at all. She changed that weekend she was gone, she says since then shes been getting little crushes on anybody for different reasons, is there any way to overide this and keep her attracted to me?

thanks

 

[neobrood]

cmon guys... this kid is 16 and good thing he's learning things at an early age.

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Anyway, to help this kid learn...

unfortunately, I cant next her, shes my best friend and best lover.

It happened to me too. This chick... best friend and everything went well until some shlt happened... and bam. I was desperate tryin to get her... but ended up frustrated and failed in the end.

The more things you do to get her back, the more frustrated you'll be at the end, and the less probability you will succeed.

Anyway, you have 2 options:

- Keep on doing things for her and reach an extremely low depressing point that can be a suicide trigger. And learn the hard way

- Stop trying to win her back. Less frustration, more opportunities...

she says since then shes been getting little crushes on anybody for different reasons

Age 15 is a young mind.

Therefore, very little attention span. She likes you today and then gets tired of you and then finds som1 else.

Its also the same for guys like you too.

When you get out of high school and go to college, you'd be like... "woah... I gotta check out this HB..." realizing that there are other girls out there better than this girl you're attracted to.

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Anyway... good luck. Keep on learning and learning...

and when you hit 20, you might be a real DJ...

 

[BringUrGreenHat]

it happened to me too, and i never got back with the girl... basically time to get over her.