tried to play it cool and she called me out on it saying trying to make her jealous

[big weezy]

they say if her interest starts to drop you need to pull back show disinterest yourself, this HB i was seeing called me out on it saying 'so you were trying to make me jealous?' i cant remember exactly how it went or how it came into the convo.. but it was said in person.

but my answer was 'why would i want to make you jealous? i just been busy'

in reality i was just much more distant in my responses with her, normally i'd reply within an hour or a few hours if it was the evening or straight away if she replied immediately.. it depended.. but when she started showing low IL i started to wait like a day and give very vague answers saying i was busy etc and ending the convo, short answers. normally i'd send long text replies saying witty stuff.

what would be the best response for when she said 'you were trying to make me jealous' ?

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

hahaha thats hilarious.

If I were you I would call it quits because in one swift statement she took all the power from the relationship when she called you out. Nothing to do but applaud her for her social intelligence and bow out because she has you bested.

If you refuse to give her up then you have to stop with the games. Any more mind games you play she will identify (because she is looking for them now) and piss her off.

 

[joverby]

Yeah, this is why I don't always like the "fake it till you make it" attitude.

You end up doing **** like this and going overboard. Normal, busy people still have time to get back to someone sooner than a day or two and they would certainly give more than vague answers to someone they are interested in.

I would just say stick to what you know, it's when people get "to AFC." or when they try to be "to DJ." that they fvck things up. It can go bad either way. The key is that magical balance.

If you know you are "doing everything right" and not being overly clingy etc. and you see her losing interest, her loss right? Follow the regular, invite for date, if declines see if she counter offers to gauge etc..

 

[bullethead]

Here is what you do. Ignore her text all together. This will totally mess with her mind. She will confront you in person and that's when you need your DJ balls and assert what you want in this relationship.

 

[demezel]

ahahah this girl is either not stupid or knows a little bit about the game,(she heard it, watched it or read it) your situation can get harder or easier, it actually depends on how you will act afterward. Example she can be like "ohh he is playing the distant guy in order to win me, that means he really like me and will not give up on me.... i have him in the palm of my hand.

As long as you dont go AFC on her i believe everything will be cool, if she has high IL she'll forget about all the crap her girls told her and fall in your trap again and again, women dont think rationally

 

[big weezy]

i think she knows a bit about game.. she did mention to me her ex-bf had 'the game' book and she read some of it and thought it was stupid.. for all i know she's read the whole thing.

either way it shows my behavior wasnt congruent with who i am.. when things were going good i would send long witty messages, then when i was tryna play it cool it'd send short 1 sentence messages. she saw through it.

 

[Pneuma]

Yeah, this is why I don't always like the "fake it till you make it" attitude.

You end up doing **** like this and going overboard. Normal, busy people still have time to get back to someone sooner than a day or two and they would certainly give more than vague answers to someone they are interested in.

I would just say stick to what you know, it's when people get "to AFC." or when they try to be "to DJ." that they fvck things up. It can go bad either way. The key is that magical balance.

If you know you are "doing everything right" and not being overly clingy etc. and you see her losing interest, her loss right? Follow the regular, invite for date, if declines see if she counter offers to gauge etc..

I have to agree with this!

I too have messed up by going overboard with the pull back. Pulling back is used when you are being to AFC. It gives you a opportunity to correct those behaviors and hopefully allow you to reframe. Disappearing and being too vague is AFC IMO, unless you are trying to move on.

 

[Jeffst1980]

Thing is, even if she suspects that you're trying to make her jealous, it will STILL have the effect of raising her IL. Game is funny that way.

Don't admit to it, though.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Just don't take it seriously.

"Awww... you thought I was trying to make you jealous? How cute" (said with mild amusement and eyebrowsed raised, as if you really are surprosed but it's ultimately no big deal to you). Throw in little pat on the head, too.

He said she said this in-person, btw, guys.

 

[Trump]

they say if her interest starts to drop you need to pull back show disinterest yourself, this HB i was seeing called me out on it saying 'so you were trying to make me jealous?' i cant remember exactly how it went or how it came into the convo.. but it was said in person.

but my answer was 'why would i want to make you jealous? i just been busy'

what would be the best response for when she said 'you were trying to make me jealous' ?

You reacted to what she said. Don't react to what a girl says unless she disrespects you or seriously needs help. When you react, you show you are concerned about what she thinks about you and are unfocused.

It's good she thinks you were trying to make her jealous, but saying it won't help if she doesn't change. Rather she not say anything and start acting appropriately.