Tricky situation

[Unforsaken]

Originally posted by silverwex
UPDATE 2

Shes says:

u do no i like u im really sorry but when *bf* isnt so upset il b able 2... night night baby

I honestly think shes a good person and doesnt wanna upset the bf anymore than he already is.

Wouldnt u be the same if ur gf was in bits?

i know i would.

Your bending the rules for her. I hope you notice that. Your cutting slack, because she has a b/f. In other words, your deciding with your heart not your mind.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by silverwex
Just remembered, she also asked me NOT to get with anyone else while shes away doing a course for the next 3 weeks to which i replied - i dunno, maybe i will maybe i wont. Silly move?

A girl who has a boyfriend said this to a guy whom she is cheating with!!

The cheating ho wants your loyalty!? Huh!!!

Of course she wants you to only SMS - she can read them in silence and then delete them without her man knowing that he has a liar and a hor for a g/f!!

 

[silverwex]

thanks for the replies guys.

i know i sound afc-ish but this is unusual for me. honestly. its weird!

 

[MindOverMatter]

'im interested too *AFC maybe but i dnt care* - im no1s man on the side, so when ur single, we'll talk! u wont b sorry... gotta go, night!'

Listen man, you can't ever drop your game and act AFC even for a second unless you've been dating the broad for a couple of months and trust her completly. Even then it's a bad idea to do it.

I know some guys will find a girl they really like and refuse to game her at all out of respect. They will think she's nice or sweet or some other thing like that and to reward that behaviour, they will act a little AFCish in order to make her feel comfortable. This is a classic rookie mistake. Never drop your game. If you really like a girl, you will game her just the same as some girl you only wanna sleep with - at least for the first 2 months.


What you said was good, except for the "u wont b sorry" part. That part of the quote made it seem like you were trying too hard to let the girl know she will have a good time. It's called desperate salesmenship. The harder a salesman tries to convince you something is good for you, the more suspicious you will be. Think about it.

Good luck.

 

[silverwex]

Mindovermatter:

Thanks for the great reply.

To tell ya the truth, something just hit me while reading your post:

I act AFC-ish while texting a girl but while Im actually in her company im DJ through and through!

I know that above statement is hard to believe after youve been reading this post but its the truth. I was C+F with her, i teased her, i joked about with her, i made her laugh and I got a MASSIVE amount of kino in on her (kissing all the way up the inside of her leg til i reached the top...!)

THe only thing is that i wont see her for another 2 weeks so the only way to communicate with her is via SMS

But once i see her in the flesh ill be the DJ i love to be!

thoughts?

 

[Austin Allegro]

Silverwex, for God's sake, stop texting. I know it is popular in the UK/Ireland, which is precisely the reason you SHOULDN'T be doing it. Girls have got into the habit of constant texting, and expecting a reply immediately. I

It's just another method of controlling AFC men. If you meet someone you like, get their number, SPEAK to them, set up a date and leave it. No 'how r u?' messages etc etc.

If a woman is interested, this will drive her crazy with desire because you are being unavailable and causing her emotional rollercoaster to go into overdrive ('why isn't he texting me????'). It shows you are independent and don't need constant contact.

It sounds like this woman wants assurance that you're there waiting for her should she ditch this other guy. Just show you've got other options and are not waiting around.

If it doesn't work - who cares. She probably just wants an AFC under her thumb, so just move on.

 

[silverwex]

thanks austin. u not text then?