everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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The way most people I have known work is they want something slightly out of reach. They say I will be happy when I reach XYZ. Once they finally get XYZ, then they set some new blockade, some external source as the reason for their unhappiness... if I just had XYZ then I'd finally be happy.
Their happiness is always controlled by some external source, and they are always working hard to defeat or obtain something external to themselves. This works pretty good as a system, because it means you will have to work your whole life for a few fleeting moments of happiness. You will never really do what you want, but instead waste your whole life for the benefit of others. You will be the validation seeking puppydog of the entire world.
There is another way, though. You can simply not follow the system and start being happy. The system is in no danger because only a handful of men will ever not choose to follow it to the bitter end. You can just start taking what you want from life and start being happy today. You can be happy just to be alive, everyday is a good day I say. Instead of working your whole life to have a fancy house to take that hot blonde to, you can just bring her to your apt today. Instead of being sad because you didn't get XYZ, you can just be happy and not really care.
This isn't to say you live in a box and say, geee isn't life grand. But it is to say that the only person who can ever control your happiness is you. You and you alone are in control of your own happeiness. You have to make that dream vacation happen, you have to make that night with the hot blonde. Nothing ever came easy to me, but I've done it all. I've had sex with middle eastern women in a garden tub in a room with cheetah print carpet, I've had sex with some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen in my life, I've had multiple women at once, I've had sex with a guys wife while he was watching, I've taken extended vacations through Europe, Central America, South America, Canada, etc. I've had sex with women in all of these places. Depending on my presentation I am between a 7 and an 8.5... not exactly an allstar in the looks department. I've gotten at low as a 6, proving that hair and clothes do make a huge difference. None of this stuff is out of reach for anyone on this forum. There is always a way, the problem is you have to be willing to make it happen. I've done every single thing I wanted to do in life, and when I think up something new, I'm going to do that too despite the huge debts working against me.
Now some guys say Education is the key, some guys say MOney is the key, some guys say LOOKS are the key. These are all good things. It's good to have a job you enjoy. It is good to have enough money to buy the things you want. It is good to be in shape. However, in my mind the goal in life is to be happy and to have lived the life you truly desired. Its ok to have external wants but just REALLY do them and don't beat yourself up forever about the ones that aren't doable and don't not do the ones that are doable because of excuses. Travel, women, and (asusming you're not sufeering from a serious medical condition) physical health is within the grasps of you. If it's too hard to get within the system, then go around it and just trick the system. I've done this through much of my life, I had to make things happen when it wasn't possible to do so. This is one way to get things done. We are men, we get satisfaction through the doing, and sometimes this kind of emotional uplifter can be helpful despite what I've said throughout this post.
Their happiness is always controlled by some external source, and they are always working hard to defeat or obtain something external to themselves. This works pretty good as a system, because it means you will have to work your whole life for a few fleeting moments of happiness. You will never really do what you want, but instead waste your whole life for the benefit of others. You will be the validation seeking puppydog of the entire world.
There is another way, though. You can simply not follow the system and start being happy. The system is in no danger because only a handful of men will ever not choose to follow it to the bitter end. You can just start taking what you want from life and start being happy today. You can be happy just to be alive, everyday is a good day I say. Instead of working your whole life to have a fancy house to take that hot blonde to, you can just bring her to your apt today. Instead of being sad because you didn't get XYZ, you can just be happy and not really care.
This isn't to say you live in a box and say, geee isn't life grand. But it is to say that the only person who can ever control your happiness is you. You and you alone are in control of your own happeiness. You have to make that dream vacation happen, you have to make that night with the hot blonde. Nothing ever came easy to me, but I've done it all. I've had sex with middle eastern women in a garden tub in a room with cheetah print carpet, I've had sex with some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen in my life, I've had multiple women at once, I've had sex with a guys wife while he was watching, I've taken extended vacations through Europe, Central America, South America, Canada, etc. I've had sex with women in all of these places. Depending on my presentation I am between a 7 and an 8.5... not exactly an allstar in the looks department. I've gotten at low as a 6, proving that hair and clothes do make a huge difference. None of this stuff is out of reach for anyone on this forum. There is always a way, the problem is you have to be willing to make it happen. I've done every single thing I wanted to do in life, and when I think up something new, I'm going to do that too despite the huge debts working against me.
Now some guys say Education is the key, some guys say MOney is the key, some guys say LOOKS are the key. These are all good things. It's good to have a job you enjoy. It is good to have enough money to buy the things you want. It is good to be in shape. However, in my mind the goal in life is to be happy and to have lived the life you truly desired. Its ok to have external wants but just REALLY do them and don't beat yourself up forever about the ones that aren't doable and don't not do the ones that are doable because of excuses. Travel, women, and (asusming you're not sufeering from a serious medical condition) physical health is within the grasps of you. If it's too hard to get within the system, then go around it and just trick the system. I've done this through much of my life, I had to make things happen when it wasn't possible to do so. This is one way to get things done. We are men, we get satisfaction through the doing, and sometimes this kind of emotional uplifter can be helpful despite what I've said throughout this post.
