Trapped in the best friend zone

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This is kinda long but please bare with me i need help.......

So i met this girl last year at some social event at my college. We had seen each other around but were never introduced. The original reason i introduced myself is because i was interested in her sorority sister and i was trying to get in good with all the ladies in her chapter. At the time i knew my friend liked her so although i thought she was pretty hot i didnt plan on doing anything. When i finally introduced myself, we only spoke briefly because i had to go to class. About 2 days later i saw her again and she came up to me and we started talkin. No less then 2 minutes after we started talkin she found out we had a couple of things in common and she gave me the "we are gonna be best friends" line. At the time i didnt care cause i was trying to get at her friend anyway. From that moment on she started to confide in me and tell me everything (I already know bad move).

Right after we started to get closer i found out that she was talkin to my teammate. She would tell me about all their problems and i would tell her bout my stuff with this other girl that i was trying to get at. This went on throughout all last year and right before summer break he took her virginity and cheated on her with some other chick. So of course she came running to me crying and told me everything. Now soon after things with them died down she started telling me things and giving me signs that indicated she might like me.

She would joke and say "if we werent best friends and i hadnt wasted time on your friend we might have something"
Or she would say stuff like "i would definitely date you"
Now i didnt know how to take this as her (just saying that cause she is my friend and she was trying to make me feel good nice the girl i was talking to just up and went for somebody else), or if she really meant that stuff.

She would also tell me things like if we were to date and it didnt work out she thought we would still be friends.

I would have run with all of these signs but every time she would give me some good signs she would follow it up by talking about some other guy or saying how much she loves me as a friend, and cherishes our friendship and wouldnt wanna do anything to ruin it.

Then she would follow that **** up by testing me by playing tickling games and calling me over at 2:30 in the morning cause she wants a hug.

I have many more examples but this is long enough so i need to know from u guys:

1) Does she possibly like me as more than a friend?
2) how if possible can i get out of this best friend zone?
 

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Hey there... hard to say from what you told me,but some of the things she has said sound like you could have a chance.. but cant say for sure.

my tips...(not knowing how you do things with this girl)

1.arrange meet ups and stuff,just you and her alone,and if she is interested she is gonna accept for just you and her,right? so you can make a move

2.be sexual with her,but ****y and funny... it's hard to get the feel of it but you'll work it out

3.be alpha,what i like to do.. is when we get into a situation where she is flirting and hitting me or just in one situation where she is being aggressive,i give her a little less than she gives me...
so i have the power,and she trys to work for it..

NOW keep in mind,i dunno how much rapport you have with her,how you's act in person,how often you's hang out,her nature..

but i definatly think you could potentially get with her..

there was this one girl im friends with,that i was NEVER in the friends zone,remained more of a neutral,and at the moment im trying to turn that into more than friends lol...

even though we were friends,she'd let me backrub her,she'd hit me in the balls flirting etc

and remember,it IS possible
 

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She would joke and say "if we werent best friends and i hadnt wasted time on your friend we might have something"
Or she would say stuff like "i would definitely date you"
Now i didnt know how to take this as her (just saying that cause she is my friend and she was trying to make me feel good nice the girl i was talking to just up and went for somebody else), or if she really meant that stuff.

She would also tell me things like if we were to date and it didnt work out she thought we would still be friends.

I would have run with all of these signs but every time she would give me some good signs she would follow it up by talking about some other guy or saying how much she loves me as a friend, and cherishes our friendship and wouldnt wanna do anything to ruin it.

Then she would follow that **** up by testing me by playing tickling games and calling me over at 2:30 in the morning cause she wants a hug.

I have many more examples but this is long enough so i need to know from u guys:

1) Does she possibly like me as more than a friend?
We dont' know, you have to find out, usually though the kiss.
2) how if possible can i get out of this best friend zone?
I know the one thing you aren't doing right now. You aren't flirting with her. That's why you're stuck here.

START FLIRTING NOW!!Q!!!
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Hey buddy. I've been in a similar situation to yours. It was at the start of Uni 2 years ago and my mate ****ed and chucked this girl who I then became close to cos I felt sorry for her. Long story short, she becomes uber-attracted to me. I didn't actually fancy this girl at the time so I did nothing (just pulled once) but I think kino is the way to go. If she responds well and reciprocates then you're probably in. Just be sure that before you do it if you decide to, you could lose a close friend and you have to be prepared for that outcome. Good luck.
 

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I see what u guys are saying but I have been doing kino and get mixed results....sometimes shell be receptive and ill get closer then shell usually do something to kill the mood like say what a great friend i am or just stop responding to my kino. Another thing is shell do things in public that make it seem like we are together and then gets annoyed when people ask her about it and says we are just friends.

One particular time this happened we talked about it and she asked me straight up if i liked her....i wanted to tell her that i did but i know the 1) Whatever happened after that our friendship would be messed up 2) She had just told me how she was explaining to a friend of hers (kim) that she wasnt ready for a relationship and how even though kim thought i liked this girl, she knew i wouldnt do anything because i know that she doesnt want a relationship.....then i heard that she told one of man friends who ask her about us that she would always be honest with me and never do anything to hurt me cause she cares about me.

I dont know guys to me that sounds like somebody who things i like her and doesnt feel the same way and doesnt want to hurt my feelings. What do u guys think?
 

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The difference between friend and lover is the level of sexuality.
 
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