Player69
Don Juan
After some observation, I also decided list the transition phases that it seems a lot of AFC to DJs on this site seem to make. This is just based off my observation, so feel free to comment and or correct me on this. Keep in mind that all these happen after the AFC is already infatuated.
Phase 1 -- AFC with the case of the one-itis
At this stage, the AFC is infatuated with this one girl, and wants to do what ever he can to impress her. He asks girls for advice, other AFC friends, and wonders why everything he tried never seemed to work, while the average jerk can get a girl.
He probably liked this girl in the first place because the girl made the first move, but seemed to lose interest thus toying with his hopes. He was more or a challenge at first, because he did not initiate the first move and had common interests, but started acting to needy, or didn’t make a move soon enough.
The other scenario is a little more rare since it doesn’t actually involve a relationship to begin with, but is just a big crush on a girl and not sure how to approach her. This is more common on the high school boards.
Phase 2 -- The realization of how attraction works
The AFC actually comes across useful information (in this case www.sosuave.com , or other stuff like www.fastseduction.com , and etc…) Lots of them have similar info, and the AFC comes to a realization of “So this is how it works!” He absorbs this info with a thirst, but one key flaw still remains… his infatuation for this one girl. He sees the trends, and thinks some stuff makes sense, but still thinks that this one girl is different. He begins to type neglected or so called stupid posts titled things like “how do I get this one girl I have been friends with forever to like me more?”
Phase 3 -- Improper use of techniques
The AFC is still an AFC, but with DJ tendency’s. He is still focused on getting this one girl to like him, and will try adding things like kino, or neuro linguistic programming. He is still inexperienced at throwing his DJ aura of confident charisma, but at least he is trying. Of course on the don’t call so much, lots seem to mess up on. This especially happens when the AFC to DJ dude over analyzes and things he messed up something and tries to confirm that he did it correctly (acting insecure) and calls the girl again to say he was only joking or something like that. At this point, he may push the girl farther away, and think that the methods are BS. Those that continue trying to be DJ’s will thrive eventually, but others drop out at this point to be forever AFCs.
Phase 4 -- Accepting the truth
The DJ in training realizes that he isn’t being as respect as he wants, and isn’t getting what he wants out of life. He notices that the girl may not be as special as he thought, but won’t want to accept it. He gets response posts saying to NEXT the girl, but most likely won’t and will eventually learn it the hard way.
Phase 5 -- Resentment
The DJ trainee with the one-itis finally loses the girl for one reason or another and is bitter (usually being to nice/needy and treating her to well). He thinks in his mind “What if?” all the time, and what went wrong. He realizes that all the information did have truth, but was to blinded to listen. At this point, he will either wallow in his own AFCness and act depressed, or go out there and play the game right. Sometimes the first for a while before the second. He will usually at this point feel bitter thoughts crossing between hate and love about the girl, and sometimes hate towards other women in general because of their messed up logic. He may decide to go and put his DJ skills, the REAL DJ skills to the test. He knows what to avoid now, and how to prevent himself from repeating the same mistake. At this point, he isn’t necessarily doing this for himself, but to smite that “really special” girl he loved that hurt him.
Phase 6 -- Rebirth
The DJ lost his fears of doing things wrong, and is just out there to have fun and get girls with no one girl in mind. (maybe still the one he had the one-itis on before to an extent.) He has fun with them, and finds out what works and what doesn’t. He doesn’t call the girls right away, or all the time, and doesn’t need to because he is finally doing things right. This part may take time depending oh how fast the DJ boosts confidence, but eventually its built up. He gets better at the game, and doesn’t get infatuated with any girl. He is happier then before, and has a magnetic personality. He gets more respect around women, and all people in general.
Phase 7 -- Seeing his X without the dark shroud of infatuation
The DJ thinks back at times about his X that he actually truly loved once, and wonders why he let her get away. It doesn’t cross his mind to much since he has lots of girls that care about him, but since he had string feelings, it’s still there. He runs into her in one way or another, and notices that she really wasn’t as special as he once though. When he compares her to the girls he has now in personality and looks, she just wouldn’t make the cut anymore. Sometimes at this point, the X may start to notice the reborn DJ, but the DJ hopefully knows better then to get back with her only to repeat history. Some may, but the ones that know better move on to be true DJ’s
Phase 8 -- The master DJ
At this point, the DJ knows what works and what doesn’t. He is a strong alpha male who is ****y and fun, and always comfortable with himself, and around other people. He knows how to make women feel comfortable, and aroused. He knows that if he is always confident, women will feel comfortable around him. He lets no one walk on him, yet shows respect to others, and doesn’t need to prove anything to anyone. He gets more respect at work, or school, and with women. J
[This message has been edited by Player69 (edited 06-25-2002).]
Phase 1 -- AFC with the case of the one-itis
At this stage, the AFC is infatuated with this one girl, and wants to do what ever he can to impress her. He asks girls for advice, other AFC friends, and wonders why everything he tried never seemed to work, while the average jerk can get a girl.
He probably liked this girl in the first place because the girl made the first move, but seemed to lose interest thus toying with his hopes. He was more or a challenge at first, because he did not initiate the first move and had common interests, but started acting to needy, or didn’t make a move soon enough.
The other scenario is a little more rare since it doesn’t actually involve a relationship to begin with, but is just a big crush on a girl and not sure how to approach her. This is more common on the high school boards.
Phase 2 -- The realization of how attraction works
The AFC actually comes across useful information (in this case www.sosuave.com , or other stuff like www.fastseduction.com , and etc…) Lots of them have similar info, and the AFC comes to a realization of “So this is how it works!” He absorbs this info with a thirst, but one key flaw still remains… his infatuation for this one girl. He sees the trends, and thinks some stuff makes sense, but still thinks that this one girl is different. He begins to type neglected or so called stupid posts titled things like “how do I get this one girl I have been friends with forever to like me more?”
Phase 3 -- Improper use of techniques
The AFC is still an AFC, but with DJ tendency’s. He is still focused on getting this one girl to like him, and will try adding things like kino, or neuro linguistic programming. He is still inexperienced at throwing his DJ aura of confident charisma, but at least he is trying. Of course on the don’t call so much, lots seem to mess up on. This especially happens when the AFC to DJ dude over analyzes and things he messed up something and tries to confirm that he did it correctly (acting insecure) and calls the girl again to say he was only joking or something like that. At this point, he may push the girl farther away, and think that the methods are BS. Those that continue trying to be DJ’s will thrive eventually, but others drop out at this point to be forever AFCs.
Phase 4 -- Accepting the truth
The DJ in training realizes that he isn’t being as respect as he wants, and isn’t getting what he wants out of life. He notices that the girl may not be as special as he thought, but won’t want to accept it. He gets response posts saying to NEXT the girl, but most likely won’t and will eventually learn it the hard way.
Phase 5 -- Resentment
The DJ trainee with the one-itis finally loses the girl for one reason or another and is bitter (usually being to nice/needy and treating her to well). He thinks in his mind “What if?” all the time, and what went wrong. He realizes that all the information did have truth, but was to blinded to listen. At this point, he will either wallow in his own AFCness and act depressed, or go out there and play the game right. Sometimes the first for a while before the second. He will usually at this point feel bitter thoughts crossing between hate and love about the girl, and sometimes hate towards other women in general because of their messed up logic. He may decide to go and put his DJ skills, the REAL DJ skills to the test. He knows what to avoid now, and how to prevent himself from repeating the same mistake. At this point, he isn’t necessarily doing this for himself, but to smite that “really special” girl he loved that hurt him.
Phase 6 -- Rebirth
The DJ lost his fears of doing things wrong, and is just out there to have fun and get girls with no one girl in mind. (maybe still the one he had the one-itis on before to an extent.) He has fun with them, and finds out what works and what doesn’t. He doesn’t call the girls right away, or all the time, and doesn’t need to because he is finally doing things right. This part may take time depending oh how fast the DJ boosts confidence, but eventually its built up. He gets better at the game, and doesn’t get infatuated with any girl. He is happier then before, and has a magnetic personality. He gets more respect around women, and all people in general.
Phase 7 -- Seeing his X without the dark shroud of infatuation
The DJ thinks back at times about his X that he actually truly loved once, and wonders why he let her get away. It doesn’t cross his mind to much since he has lots of girls that care about him, but since he had string feelings, it’s still there. He runs into her in one way or another, and notices that she really wasn’t as special as he once though. When he compares her to the girls he has now in personality and looks, she just wouldn’t make the cut anymore. Sometimes at this point, the X may start to notice the reborn DJ, but the DJ hopefully knows better then to get back with her only to repeat history. Some may, but the ones that know better move on to be true DJ’s
Phase 8 -- The master DJ
At this point, the DJ knows what works and what doesn’t. He is a strong alpha male who is ****y and fun, and always comfortable with himself, and around other people. He knows how to make women feel comfortable, and aroused. He knows that if he is always confident, women will feel comfortable around him. He lets no one walk on him, yet shows respect to others, and doesn’t need to prove anything to anyone. He gets more respect at work, or school, and with women. J
[This message has been edited by Player69 (edited 06-25-2002).]
