Track and (you guessed it), Girls

[someone800]

Hey,

Just recently, track season started again for me. I was wondering what would be a great way to get to know girls on my track team (maybe even others from other schools at meets too)?
Overall, for some reason, I don't seem as confident in myself this year in track as general-I realized how out of shape I am and I just don't seem to be where I should be (don't do any running sports though). Take this coupled with me trying to be social and loss of friends in track (some aren't doing it right now or are on other events) and you got a genuine AFC experience of someone who is quiet and goes about his event not really talking.
Any ideas to open up in general to anyone (especially girls though) despite my poor-ish performance?
Also, there was a more specific genuine AFC experience I had today. I was practicing with my event-following what my coach said and there was this time where the coach told juniors and freshmen to get in a corner for a exercise and this really hot girl (like maybe even a 8.5-9) was like "Haha, am I the only junior?" I was standing behind the group, and a freshman pointed me out and she was like, "Ohh, I'm sorry haha, (etc.)" I just replied, "Yeah, it's ok, I look like a freshmen." "No, you don't (and something else-I believe it was, "I've never seen you")." And that was it. I didn't feel confident in track at the time so there was no way I would with this girl and we just moved on, not saying anything again.
So about three minutes later as I was exercising with the group and running, it snapped in my head: "MISSED OPPORTUNITY."
So, (not necessary specific to this girl (would be nice though) how would I go about using track to my advantage?


Also, this is unrelated to DJ-ing, so please put the actual topic foremost, but, I currently have a 16GB iPod Touch as my music player, but with track, I want to use one but don't want to use my iPod Touch. Anyone use a separate, cheap Shuffle/Sansa-Clip type music player for working out/sports?

Thanks!

 

[619joe]

Start it off with her like hey whats up
then next time you see her, push her a bit and be like "hey goof whats going on?".The important part here is to give her a nice lil push or shove you know and the goof part too."Im the provincial champion of track if you didnt know....i doubt you could beat me".I mean its obviously fake but it doesnt matter.

Her response will likely be "yeah right no you arent" which is excellent.From then on go for an actual challenge between yourselves.Let her win.Blame it on the weather,you being tired,her cheating,etc...

I could literally keep going man you have a good scenario here.Use it to your advantage.I mean your not necessairly using your speed on the track to your advantage,but your using the track to manipulate your speed whatever it may be to your liking.Be a ****y ass mo fo but just dont over do it and it will be great.

 

[someone800]

Start it off with her like hey whats up
then next time you see her, push her a bit and be like "hey goof whats going on?".The important part here is to give her a nice lil push or shove you know and the goof part too."Im the provincial champion of track if you didnt know....i doubt you could beat me".I mean its obviously fake but it doesnt matter.

Her response will likely be "yeah right no you arent" which is excellent.From then on go for an actual challenge between yourselves.Let her win.Blame it on the weather,you being tired,her cheating,etc...

I could literally keep going man you have a good scenario here.Use it to your advantage.I mean your not necessairly using your speed on the track to your advantage,but your using the track to manipulate your speed whatever it may be to your liking.Be a ****y ass mo fo but just dont over do it and it will be great.

Thanks a lot for the great reply, but I feel like I gave her the impression today that I am a quite, boring, shy person. Hell, I was the only other junior practicing in this event today and she didn't know it-she talks to everyone else.
Also, as much as I would love to focus on getting this one girl, being a DJ isn't about one girl all the time because of things like rejection-so how would I go about cold approaches to other girls?

 

[Supremo]

Quit track and play lacrosse.
Simple enough. You wont even NEED to worry about talking to girls, they come to you.

 

[zubs]

Anyone use a separate, cheap Shuffle/Sansa-Clip type music player for working out/sports?

Basically anything non apple. I see ads all the time for like 2gb generic mp3 players for like ~$20.

 

[619joe]

Trust me man first impressions are NOTHING.Well not exactly.They can influence you greatly.BUT NOT ALL THE TIME SO DONT WORRY IF YOU MESS UP A BIT LIKE YOU DID.

When I met this other girl HB9,she seemed intimidating.It was a double date kind of thing.I barely said a word when I just met her and it stayed that way for a good 15 min until I opened up.I unleashed like a monster and just was a total goof that I am and made her love me just cuz I was funny.

I asked her afterwards what she thought of me,she said "You were shy at first,but then after you got more comfortable with me,you were super funny".Mind you I wasnt really gaming this girl just trying to be a nice guy and a friend.Just practise material and it came out fine.

I mean I even thought the night was gonna be boring as hell at the beggining but I just said to myself "be funny" and it worked.So dont throw any of that first impression non-sense in front of you cause it can be passed quite easily with the right tools.

 

[someone800]

Trust me man first impressions are NOTHING.Well not exactly.They can influence you greatly.BUT NOT ALL THE TIME SO DONT WORRY IF YOU MESS UP A BIT LIKE YOU DID.

When I met this other girl HB9,she seemed intimidating.It was a double date kind of thing.I barely said a word when I just met her and it stayed that way for a good 15 min until I opened up.I unleashed like a monster and just was a total goof that I am and made her love me just cuz I was funny.

I asked her afterwards what she thought of me,she said "You were shy at first,but then after you got more comfortable with me,you were super funny".Mind you I wasnt really gaming this girl just trying to be a nice guy and a friend.Just practise material and it came out fine.

I mean I even thought the night was gonna be boring as hell at the beggining but I just said to myself "be funny" and it worked.So dont throw any of that first impression non-sense in front of you cause it can be passed quite easily with the right tools.

Hmm...Thanks-that does help, but I seem to have a bad mind-block of the whole first impressions thing. I've always figured that a female makes a lasting decision of what she thinks of you within the first three minutes or something like that-and it's apparently final. That's one of the reasons I fear I do so bad socially and don't really talk to girls I want to talk to at school because I fear they will think it is creepy for a guy who's been quite, shy, and stuff to suddenly start talking to them and trying to be social.

Also, are there any tips for cold approaches? Like say I am in a group for a sport and we are working out and there is this girl I want to talk to but never had-any ideas?

Thanks!

 

[BMX]

It's easier to have opening conversation starters on track. Ask them what event they're competing in. Neg girls after they go on a long run by saying something like "I'm unimpressed by your performance, u look winded!" (remember to smile). Through all this exercising your producing more seratonin making you feel good and you can bet she is too. Whenever I set a personal record in the shot put I felt pretty confident and happy. When she sets one in a meet go up and talk to her about it, she could relate these good feelings towards you just because ur there.

 

[Ether]

Also, this is unrelated to DJ-ing, so please put the actual topic foremost, but, I currently have a 16GB iPod Touch as my music player, but with track, I want to use one but don't want to use my iPod Touch. Anyone use a separate, cheap Shuffle/Sansa-Clip type music player for working out/sports?

Thanks!

Apple is selling Shuffles for $50ish, I've seen ads all over.

If you get the chance, approach girls from other teams and LJBF them. Even back when I was an AFC, I got a girl's number and she invited me to a bunch of parties, which helped me meet a bunch of girls (even though I screwed up my chances there.)

 

[619joe]

Good man.See you are used to having the whole first impression bit engraved in your mind and now you realize THAT is what has been stopping you.The first step is to realize what is stopping you.You have now,so that is an improvement.

Infact from my experience,heres another little thing which also I came up with which helped me alot.Afterwards,she asked how come I was so funny for the most part but was shy near the beginning.I thought about it for a quick second then said "Well you know what,Im really funny and spontaneous around people Im really comfortable with.The more I got to know you the more comfortable I was with you so thats why I was shy when meeting you"

If she ever calls you on it for why you were being shy,use that line.

It is gonna seem creepy for them if you make it seem creepy.Make it natural.Also maybe watch how other guys interact with her.Im not saying copy their style infact you should stand out,but just watch how they interact with her and maybe try and do similar things just to get you started up if your in THAT much of a hole.Once you start getting out of the whole slightly,set yourself apart.

Besides you havent full out showed this girl that you are shy.Just in that moment you happened to not say anything to her or barely interacted with her.Just assume she doesnt even know your a shy guy and then open up the more comfortable you get with her.

 

[Crazy Asian]

Trust me man first impressions are NOTHING.Well not exactly.They can influence you greatly.BUT NOT ALL THE TIME SO DONT WORRY IF YOU MESS UP A BIT LIKE YOU DID.

When I met this other girl HB9,she seemed intimidating.It was a double date kind of thing.I barely said a word when I just met her and it stayed that way for a good 15 min until I opened up.I unleashed like a monster and just was a total goof that I am and made her love me just cuz I was funny.

I asked her afterwards what she thought of me,she said "You were shy at first,but then after you got more comfortable with me,you were super funny".Mind you I wasnt really gaming this girl just trying to be a nice guy and a friend.Just practise material and it came out fine.

I mean I even thought the night was gonna be boring as hell at the beggining but I just said to myself "be funny" and it worked.So dont throw any of that first impression non-sense in front of you cause it can be passed quite easily with the right tools.

first impressions are nothing?
having a bad first impression is like bombing the first test, while trying to get an A in the class.

but don't let that stop you

 

[619joe]

Ok I didnt mean first impressions are nothing.Infact I was trying to reword it all along.Dont you see me saying "well not exactly.they can influence you greatly"?.Your thinking like this is a club and its a random girl.Its not.

Dude I wouldnt be saying this stuff with no experience.Yes in alot of club cases first impression is the most important.Are we dealing with a club scene here?No.I mainly deal with daytime game or even evening date game and I have first hand experience that you can switch the game and I even gave my example earlier of how I did.

In essence he didnt have a bad first impression nor did he bomb it,he just has room to improve and its not late to jump back just like I did from being shy.