Everyone wants a hot compatible girl lol. And there are millions, they're just not right outside your door. You have to explore and find them. In a city of five million there are plenty for one man. And if that's not enough for you, then that speaks more about you than them.
You sound like a chick. If you don't know how to manage your emotions how can you be expected to manage another person's?
No this is your projection of a desire for social validation. What other people think is none of you're business, and as long as your happy who cares?
This is for the first few months of dating but not for LTR imo, unless you want a spastic anxious woman for a partner. She'll eventually crack or leave if you have nothing more to offer.
This contradicts what you said earlier, that you withdraw emotionally when they mess up. So you withdraw but also don't trust them and try to control them? Which is it?
Any relationship that isn't toxic is built on trust. If you can't trust a woman to be faithful to you, then she's clearly not yours and trying to strap her down just screams that you have little to no other options. It betrays a deep sense of insecurity.
Maybe the women you date. Lol it's not 'slinking away', it's choosing to give your attention to someone more worthwhile. Toxic women get off on attention, doesn't matter if it's good or bad. By getting mad at them you're just signaling that they have emotional control over you, that they can upset you easily. They get an ego boost either way, that's why you just avoid them lol.
I really don't have the time to go through my girls phone lol I would leave the relationship long before I ever got to that point. Imo it's an extremely pathetic thing to spend your time doing. You really think that's a sign of a healthy relationship? If you can't trust her than leave her. If you can't trust any woman then work on yourself until you have more confidence and can qualify for quality women.
Its quite bizarre, you wouldn't get mad if your girl was texting other dudes behind your back. What if you came home and your girl was in bed with another guy, you wouldn't get mad then? I think if you showed that you didn't care that the girl would be bemused and probably hurt that you didn't care, but ultimately she would conclude that you weren't for her and she's justified.
If you act way too alpha you're not gonna keep a girl around, she's not gonna feel safe with someone who will drop her on her ass with indifference because there are other girls out there. Okay, if you're not getting what you want after making the effort then go elsewhere, no problem. I wouldn't ditch a girl at the first sign of trouble, when she could be kept in line especially when I have not communicated my boundaries and my willingness to follow them.
If a girl has done something wrong, and affected me on a personal level, I'm gonna tell her, and not in a ***** way. I am a man I have emotions, I'm not a robot. I'm not insecure, I'm a fierce animal and I don't like disrespect. If I have spent a lot of time with a girl, then I'm gonna care about her, I don't see that as a weakness. If she's testing a boundary then i'm not gonna feel safe continuing what we have, so that's my natural instinct to withdraw emotionally, doesn't necessarily mean I will next her just yet. Then it's just down to her, what is she gonna do about it? Does she care?
