Tough situation guys...

[Ken785]

OK, so i havent posted here in about a year...i started messing with this girl i met throw a co-worker. Long story short, we started to get to know each other and she asked me out to golf, then after i was interested, i asked her out on an official date...2 months later, we were "official" and then we hooked up. But, turns out after i asked my co-worker, he told me she was messing with some other guy before, i confronted her about it...she admitted to me that she had been messin with a guy she had known for 2 1/2 years, not in a relationship...but they had developed a "partnership" together...this guy had even went as far as putting his name on the mortgage on deed to qualify her to get a house, share cell phone and insurance planes with her and things like that...

Long story short....she met me and started messing with me, we became a couple for 2 weeks...all up to the point where this dude said he was going to pack up his things and leave...(we had been a couple for 2 weeks at this point)...and she dumped me that day...i was furious..

A few days later, she was hooking up with me again....now long story short...this girl was in a 7 year relationship, then broke up.....met this dude at a retail store about 4 months later...he starts helping her and sharing car insurance plans, and putting his name under her mortgage she can buy a house again...fixing sh*t around the house..all the nice guy sh*t...theyve know each other for 2 1/2 years up to this point and hes head over heals for her...then she meets me and goes out with me...she tells him she has feelings for me and he understands...saying he'll still help her out and blah blah...

One morning when we just get up out of bed, he calls her and asks whats shes doing, she says shes with me...she says, ok ill come pack up my things (he has his things at her house)...she doesnt tell me ewhat the convo was about...but then later on in the day she texts me tp dump me...

Then i ask her why...she says "He meets everything i need.." She says shes not attracted to him but he does" Shes 30 and feels pressured by her family to settle down...she doesnt really love him she says...

A few days later lets just say were sleeping with each other again...this had gone back and forth for 1 year now...


basically this idiot has know her for a little over 3 years now...head over heals in love with her..puts his name under her mortgage and deed., shares things like insurance and cell phone plans with her...yet shes still ****i*ng me too...he knows this...yet he doesnt care as long as shes sleeping with him too,,,she says shes not attracted to him...but shes attracted to me, but her family has gotten to know him...and she feels pressured to settle with him....

this guy is a total chump...what should i do? I regret to say that i have also developed feelings for her...shes a really great girl and hasnt let go of neither of us because she "doesnt want to hurt neither of our feelings"...what does a man do?

 

[romangod]

this guy is a total chump...what should i do? I regret to say that i have also developed feelings for her...shes a really great girl and hasnt let go of neither of us because she "doesnt want to hurt neither of our feelings"...what does a man do?

Pot meet kettle.

It sounds like you're just as big of a chump as him. You're stuck in a triangle with some flake that can't make up her mind and is under external pressure to make a choice.

Even if you win her you're going to lose. My advice is to bale out immediately and let them sort out this mess.


Cheers!

 

[dark god]

Pot meet kettle.

It sounds like you're just as big of a chump as him. You're stuck in a triangle with some flake that can't make up her mind and is under external pressure to make a choice.

Even if you win her you're going to lose. My advice is to bale out immediately and let them sort out this mess.


Cheers!

agreed 100%

 

[Bible_Belt]

Just let her marry him and then keep having sex with her. That's where all of this is headed. It's fine, as long as that is not the only thing you have going on. Right now, she has two options and you have one.

The relationship you describe with her is actually very common among many married women. I know one guy who simply refuses to leave his wife, even though she parties it up with multiple boyfriends and posts pictures of it all to facebook. She has one kid with him and three from other men, all of whom he supports financially, since he's the only one in the house with a job. He really thinks that if he just sticks around long enough, then she will somehow magically fall back into love with him.

 

[zekko]

I know one guy who simply refuses to leave his wife, even though she parties it up with multiple boyfriends and posts pictures of it all to facebook. She has one kid with him and three from other men, all of whom he supports financially, since he's the only one in the house with a job.

Well, at least she's keeping herself busy.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Ah brother, your emotions are involved she is not going to be a good relationship for you -- she is bat fvcking nuts and is taking his economic support and using your emotional support to slap two men into the needs she would ideally like from one man.

This woman is not the prize you deem her to be. She is manipulative, and cares about you SO MUCH that she'll DROP YOU when he threatens to leave...

Is that how you wish to be treated?

Fvck her dude. Move on to the next one. As nice as her vagine is, there's more out there and they'll be just as nice, and hopefully attached to a brain that isn't as much of a dumb wh0re.

My .02 cents.

 

[vatoloco]

I know one guy who simply refuses to leave his wife, even though she parties it up with multiple boyfriends and posts pictures of it all to facebook. She has one kid with him and three from other men, all of whom he supports financially, since he's the only one in the house with a job.

Ha! Cuckolding 101.

Well, at least she's getting diverse genetic material and she's got a sucker to pay for its upbringing!

 

[pdx1138]

good grief....why are you still with this chick?

SHE LOVES DRAMA.

Are you enjoying the roller-coaster ride that much?

Eventually it will get old and you'll hopefully leave with your sack intact.

 

[sodbuster]

You need another woman....or 2. You are BOTH chumps....putting up with bad behavior for sex. I have the same thing going on with a woman....except I don't care and am looking for other,better quality women while I occasionally get my noodle wet with this one. Since you don't mention other women,guessing you don't have any on the line.

 

[Die Hard]

OP, you need to work on your self-respect. Hanging onto a situation like this, hanging onto a cheap wh0re like this, what a shame... What's worse, you think of this scumbag b!tch as a "really great girl" Painful to see how deep you've sunk, man...

You're totally disrespecting yourself coz your desire has taken control over your mind. Better snap the fvck out of it soon and kick this b!tch to the curb! Let her continue poisoning that other guy's life, you deserve much better than this. Problem is, you still have to become convinced of this. But I'm afraid you'll have to learn this the hard way and need to get fvcked over real hard by her first, before you can snap out of it...

 

[DMSR76]

Find some dignity, Ken. Leave now before this chick gets knocked up by one of you. This is a horrible scenario.

 

[Delly2000]

Yeah man.

Dump this girl and run. She is a user. What she is doing is disrespectful to you and she knows it. It will just carry over if you and her become "exclusive" and even if u do..it will probably just be for a little while. Then you and the cuckhold guy will be trading places.

The thing about your scenario is that this girl is straight up about what she is doing..to a certain extent anyway. Her irrational behavior is because she has another guy. Women (well I think a good majority) dont know how to handle sleeping with multiple guys while having something meaningful with one. So they start acting all wierd.

She is telling you she is sleeping with another guy she don't really like because he is a good "fit". She may be saying one thing. But her actions is a cue for u to dump her. And when you don't she gonna consciously know she can walk all over you. And trying to make something work with someone who doesn't respect you is a living hell. You can't win.

Ditch her boss. I know its hard. But in the bigger picture she isn't adding any value to your life.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

5 minutes of Alpha trumps 5 years of beta.

Together you both make the perfect BF for her. One hot, indifferent Alpha to ƒuck her hard when she's ovulating, and one beta chump to cuddle with, be a good emotional tampon and pay the bills for her when she's not.

Isn't it comforting to know that when she finally decides to "accidentally" get pregnant by you you'll have a nice beta cuckold ready to provide for your child when you bail on her?

 

[Nutz]

Ha! Cuckolding 101.

Well, at least she's getting diverse genetic material and she's got a sucker to pay for its upbringing!

And people wonder why Men's Rights Activists exist. See also:

www.reddit.com/r/mensrights

 

[vatoloco]

Well, the thing is that it seems like BB's acquaintance is doing it out of his own free will. He is willingly being cuckolded!!

If he gets taken to the cleaners later on, he'll deserve it. I can see it already: he marries the broad and adopts the kids. Things go south and he's slapped with alimony + child support for children that are not biologically his.

Sounds like a winning plan... for her!

 

[Ken785]

She says that shes "comfortable with the life shes built around him" they have mutual friends and people shes networked with and its hard for her to change. She doesnt love this kid, but he's been "helping her out" all this time...her familys gotten to know him and "like him".

She has a "partnership" with him and they help each other out. I told her the only reason why hes helping her is because shes spreading her legs for him, if she stopped doing that, he'd no longer be there.

This kid even busted in on us her house...6am in the morning (her little brother let him in, they know each other), im in bed with her...we hear banging on her bedroom door...we get up and somebodys yelling for her to open up the door "do you think this is funny??" he days. Im thinking its her little brother in the next room. I walk in her walk in closet because i didnt want to be awkward with her little brother while shes putting her clothes on and telling him to wait...

Then she walks up to me and i ask who it is, she says "its ____" (other dude), so i casually walk back over to the bed to put my jeans back on...she opens the door and he sees her, she pushes him out right away and he says to her, "I thought you cared about me more??"

Then he sees me and says "Its ok dude, you can leave your clothes off.." and they go outside for about 10 minutes.

I go to the bathroom to piss, come back outside and shes laying there on the bed. I ask her does she want me to stay or leave?....she said you can stay or leave.

I stay and thats when she tells me her house is under his name because she needed to get financial aid for school...and that her familys grown very fond of him, hes a really good guy..she says and blah blah...meanwhile this dude this trying to call her cell non stop and texting her "I thought u cared about me more???"

She says shes sorry to me and ends it right there....

A few days later...im fvcking her again...this has been going on for 1 year now and this kid currently lives with her now because theyre now in a retail business together where they have to wake up at 5am on weekends and he said "it makes more sense if he just moved in".

Sucker as$ move to get closer to her if you ask me...what do you guys think?

 

[cordoncordon]

I think you are just as much a sucker, or more, than he is.

Walk away.

 

[Ken785]

I would, but id much rather keep sleeping with her with no attachment. Fvck that dude...he doesnt like it, hes the one that can leave.

 

[Iceberg]

I would, but id much rather keep sleeping with her with no attachment. Fvck that dude...he doesnt like it, hes the one that can leave.

Cool. So I guess that makes this thread, and the advice given to you by caring posters, completely useless then, doesn't it?

 

[cordoncordon]

I would, but id much rather keep sleeping with her with no attachment. Fvck that dude...he doesnt like it, hes the one that can leave.

But you have attachment, that is obvious.

You just don't want to admit it.