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Met a girl, pretty ideal girl. Completely my style, very cute, lots of same interests, almost would consider her dating material (and I'm the kind of guy that will hook up with most chicks, but is extremely picky when it comes to actually dating them). The only problem is, I met her through my AFC friend and he is totally into her. I got the girls number (kind of my mistake) when I had a like 2 minute a lone time cigarette break with her (he was seriously following her all night). Started talking to her and she is saying all this stuff how she just wants to be friends with him, and how she wants me. She even set me a sexy picture to my phone with the title "could be all yours.." this girl is digging me hard, but I'm afraid of swooping her from my friend. He's going to be extremely pissed, and I wouldn't want him to do that to me. If it was any other girl, I'd just start ignoring her and let him have her, but this is like a chick that I would consider high quality. She just moved down here, has only been here 3 weeks. I don't know what to do. I feel like an *******. Should I just stop talking to her?
 

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talk with your friend, tell him you like her and she doesn't like him. If he won't back down then just say "may the best man win" and make sure there will be no hard feelings no matter who wins. IMO, bros before hoes though.
 

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Thanks for the advice. It's getting even worse, now she is calling me babe and sh!t. Being cold to her is now working against me, it seems like she is liking me even more because of it.

I think there's a lesson to be learned here. If a girl has high interest in you and you act like you don't like them then it just makes them crave you even more. Heh.
 

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Depends on your own moral code.
Everyman should have his own moral code..
With my moral code if he was a man I called friend.. Than I wouldn't persue her
And would cut all contact.
If however he was an aquaitence..(someone who I know and socialize with but am not fond enough of to call a friend)
Id be on her like an asian on fried rice..

But what's your code constitute?
 

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Scars said:
Thanks for the advice. It's getting even worse, now she is calling me babe and sh!t. Being cold to her is now working against me, it seems like she is liking me even more because of it.

I think there's a lesson to be learned here. If a girl has high interest in you and you act like you don't like them then it just makes them crave you even more. Heh.
Works very well, that.

You know your friend is a chump who has no chance with her. If you don't make a move, some other guy will.

Talk to your friend, tell him the truth, that she likes you, and not him.

It would be unreasonable for him to think that this woman is his, since he hasn't made a move on her and she is showing no interest in him. He can't expect you to sit around and do nothing, if he is not going to make a move on her himself.

You can't just say to a friend "oh, I want that woman, and you can't get with her because you're my friend and it'd offend me" if you aren't going to approach her and try to do something about it.

May the best man win.
 

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Just tell him straight up "she likes me, dude".

He won't believe you for a second, but if you're serious with him, then who knows.

I wouldn't do anything like this to my friend, I was in *his* situation like 2 years ago, and my friend who could have taken the girl I wanted decided not to.
He's pretty much my closest mate, and that chick is more like a sister/brother to me now (both me and my mate have absolute 0 sexual feelings for her now as she's become a close friend).

But yeah up to you, but if you do it'll ruin your friendship with the guy, is he really a close friend or just some dude you know?

'Cuz I was already close friends with my mate, and I wouldn't take the chick a close mate was after, but if it's not one of your best mates, well who cares?
 

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Scars said:
Met a girl, pretty ideal girl. Completely my style, very cute, lots of same interests, almost would consider her dating material (and I'm the kind of guy that will hook up with most chicks, but is extremely picky when it comes to actually dating them). The only problem is, I met her through my AFC friend and he is totally into her. I got the girls number (kind of my mistake) when I had a like 2 minute a lone time cigarette break with her (he was seriously following her all night). Started talking to her and she is saying all this stuff how she just wants to be friends with him, and how she wants me. She even set me a sexy picture to my phone with the title "could be all yours.." this girl is digging me hard, but I'm afraid of swooping her from my friend. He's going to be extremely pissed, and I wouldn't want him to do that to me. If it was any other girl, I'd just start ignoring her and let him have her, but this is like a chick that I would consider high quality. She just moved down here, has only been here 3 weeks. I don't know what to do. I feel like an *******. Should I just stop talking to her?
This is a good test of your friendship with him. I've been in both situations before. It would help if you have HER talk to him about how she feels about him (just a friend) and then you talk to him about what's up, show you empathize with him, but that you also like this girl and she is really into you and see how he responds to that. He'll understand if he really is a friend. It's pointless for him to go after a girl who feels NO chemistry with him.

I would also make sure she is for real too first. It sounds like you've only had one or two conversations with her, and she could just like attention. Just an FYI.
 

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Scars said:
If it was any other girl, I'd just start ignoring her and let him have her, but this is like a chick that I would consider high quality.
Just remember relationships with women come and go so you might lose your AFC friend over it, and could possibly end your relationship with this girl 3-6 months down the line.

Make sure its really worth it.
 

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dude when i was a chump years ago a buddy of mine since kindergarten did that to me....i was sooo pissed almost stopped talking to him (even did for a while) but now hes my roommate and im pullin more girls than him. go for it if hes a good friend hell come around eventually
 
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