Exactly like the title says I have been torn mentally in these recent weeks. I don't know exactly what it is, I have been going forward socially and now I'm at a crossroad. To elaborate more, I have been trying to avoid social interaction. Reason being is it's stressful for me trying to make conversation flow. I have three girls I can call up and set up a "date" but I have been avoiding it like the plague.
Banter for me is VERY difficult for some reason. With these three girls in particular I feel pressed to carry conversation. I have interacted with other girls that wouldn't quit talking and it was very easy to have flowing convo as I would just make sporadic comments and they keep on talking. But I can't do the reverse. Does that show low interest by the girls in particular if I feel so pressed to force conversation? I mean they gave me their number and showed interest. But it seems I'm putting in all the effort.
This is on the same subject but on a side note/question:
One of the girls I texted new years night through a comment out of the blue and I ended up deleting her number
me: "happy new year!"
her: "U2 but leave me alone" **this comment literally blew my mind because I didn't expect the "leave me alone" at all**
me: "wtf? alright its w/e haha"
-10min later-
I get a call I let it go to voice-mail and its a guy using her phone saying to the effect "I'm her boyfriend, shes not feeling well right now but find a new friend"
I literally laughed after hearing the message and delete her number immediately. Three days later I get a text with her apologizing saying she was drunk and her friend (lol?) had her phone. Now should I just keep her nexted or should I follow up? Keep in mind she is attractive should I try something with her just for the experience regardless of outcome?
In my mind the proper course of action is to say "**** it" and set up something with all three and just do it for the experience. If I can't carry the convo because they aren't putting in then it will be awkward but in the end it's better than not doing anything. If anything the I don't give a **** attitude will help me and I can just experiment. I'm not getting any younger and I'm still a virgin at 21 years old haha. 1 more class from associates and I can transfer to university, living at home is draining the life out of me. I make a step foward and then I have the extreme urge to make a few steps back but damnit I can't let myself fall back into recluse mode.
Banter for me is VERY difficult for some reason. With these three girls in particular I feel pressed to carry conversation. I have interacted with other girls that wouldn't quit talking and it was very easy to have flowing convo as I would just make sporadic comments and they keep on talking. But I can't do the reverse. Does that show low interest by the girls in particular if I feel so pressed to force conversation? I mean they gave me their number and showed interest. But it seems I'm putting in all the effort.
This is on the same subject but on a side note/question:
One of the girls I texted new years night through a comment out of the blue and I ended up deleting her number
me: "happy new year!"
her: "U2 but leave me alone" **this comment literally blew my mind because I didn't expect the "leave me alone" at all**
me: "wtf? alright its w/e haha"
-10min later-
I get a call I let it go to voice-mail and its a guy using her phone saying to the effect "I'm her boyfriend, shes not feeling well right now but find a new friend"
I literally laughed after hearing the message and delete her number immediately. Three days later I get a text with her apologizing saying she was drunk and her friend (lol?) had her phone. Now should I just keep her nexted or should I follow up? Keep in mind she is attractive should I try something with her just for the experience regardless of outcome?
In my mind the proper course of action is to say "**** it" and set up something with all three and just do it for the experience. If I can't carry the convo because they aren't putting in then it will be awkward but in the end it's better than not doing anything. If anything the I don't give a **** attitude will help me and I can just experiment. I'm not getting any younger and I'm still a virgin at 21 years old haha. 1 more class from associates and I can transfer to university, living at home is draining the life out of me. I make a step foward and then I have the extreme urge to make a few steps back but damnit I can't let myself fall back into recluse mode.