Took girl out, made out, and now won't respond?

[vatoloco]

Like it's been mentioned already, if you were spinning multiple plates, this wouldn't be an issue.

I took a girl out to a concert that I met. I called her, and she missed my call, so she called me back. She agreed to go out with me, and was totally stoked about it. At the show I got lots of kino from her, and I returned it... I called her two days later, no message, and didn't get a call back.

A concert, you say?

"Women will sometimes go out with a guy, just to go out. Women love attention and will get it, one way or another. They go out because they're hungry and you'll pay for a nice dinner. They go out because they wanna go to a concert and you got tickets. They go out because they're bored and you have nothing [no one] else to do. They go out because their boyfriend is out of town and cannot stand to be alone for the weekend. They will kiss you. They may even fuck you. But they may not like you.

And sometimes, just sometimes, they go out with you because they actually like you. "​

She had to prove herself to me beyond sex. She had to seduce me over time and impress me in other ways (with her wit, etc). She had to ask me to stop dating other women. What a concept!

DAFUQ!!??

What is this crazy concept!? A woman!? Qualifying herself to you!? She wanting you to stop seeing other girls? What is this nonsense!?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I'm going against the grain here. piss on all that give her two weeks and call her again crap. you made contact twice, she didnt respond, delete her NOW. if she texts or calls you again, too d@mn bad for her. it takes all of 5 seconds to send a text message saying "hey, sorry ive been busy lately but yeah we're still on for this weekend". 5 God d@m seconds. these guys telling you to give her time and if/when she calls you act like nothing happened are the same guys who come on here and piss and moan about how a girl is running them over and isnt respecting them. this aint a game show where you get chance after chance. she had her shot, she sent you signals that she liked you, she didnt follow up on those signals. so in my opinion that makes her a game playing slut who does that same sh!t on every date she goes on. you wanna go out with a girl like that again???????? if you do more power to you. ive developed a zero tollerance for women and their bs. sure i probably lose out on some that i dont make that extra effort but its 50/50 in my book. they are all about equality, so they can equally call/text you and show interest. if/when she does ever get in touch, tell her you met someone else cause you thought she wasnt interested. thatll put her @$$ in her place.

I see where your coming from but this is the wrong attitude to have here. To expect a woman who you barely just met and went on one date to have out of this world high interest in you right off the bat isn't realistic. Women always have options, so the simple fact is if you have this zero tolerance policy your selling yourself short.

Will you be right in a lot of these cases? Definitely.


But you will also be wrong and miss out on potential great girls who for whatever reason (spinning plates, exbf, stress) weren't jumping outta their panties from day 1.


So what's the solution? Easy, date multiple women so you don't have the time and brain space to stress when a girl is showing low interest. I'll also say that making out is really not a big deal at all. I see too many guys on here thinking that just because they made out with a girl that it means she definitely wants them; it doesn't.







PIMP

 

[bigneil]

These guys telling you to give her time and if/when she calls you act like nothing happened are the same guys who come on here and piss and moan about how a girl is running them over and isnt respecting them.

Actually I'm talking about the last 5 hot girls I banged. No hot women are instantly totally single and flake-free, no matter who you are. 2 girlfriends ago slept with me on the first date, then vanished for 30 days, then came back and wanted to get married within 10 more days.

 

[OC Speedball]

The tickets were given to me by a friend because he knows the guitar player. It was no big deal, I just thought I'd give the girl a call because I'd rather go with a girl. She was actually super giddy on the phone and laughed at everything I said before I even asked her out to the concert. Her interest seemed high on the phone and I got a lot of IOIs in person, but like you guys said, girls are fickle.

And don't worry, I am spinning plates. But this girl was gorgeous, so it's hard to get her off my mind.

A week ago I hung out with a girl and her friends and made out with her, but she asked me if we were dating (we had only hung out twice), so I got scared and ran away from that one.

I have another girl in my class that is a little Jessica Alba look alike. She reinitiates conversation with me all the time and she remembers everything I tell her. I got her number last week. She responds to my texts immediately and very positively, but she didn't pick up the phone when I called her to hang out. We'll see how that one goes. This girl is my plan B at the moment, but I need a plan C, D, E and F

 

[OC Speedball]

So the girl finally responded. Or re-initiated contact, however you wanna look at it.

"Hey! Wow I realized I never responded to you!" And then she proceeded to talk about how the orientation at her new job is going. (When I texted her on Sunday I asked her how the orientation went).

I'm guessing she knew she didn't text me back, and is playing hard to get or whatever. I feel weird asking for advice on how to proceed with this, but since this has never happened to me before I am asking for advice. haha. How should I proceed? Text her tonight?

 

[Masculinity]

This girl is the weirdest I've met as far as the phone goes.. This girl is in a university, is in two clubs, and spends all day doing homework. She says she never goes out...but it could be BS. I'm just gonna wait it out. Good responses guys.

Austin, keep your hypotheses open, but don't draw your conclusions yet until you have tested them. Keep in mind the setting where you met this girl and what kind of women hangout at a book store. This girl is the other side of the coin to what you said in my field report thread "I wouldn't fight over a girl I met at a night club." Maybe she actually IS busy. Give her the benefit of the doubt. IMO, you might have a good-quality girl here that could be eating from your hand in a near future.