Took a whole day to respond if she wanted to hang out

[Wicked]

I’m 27 average looking man who likes writing code for a living. I met this girl on a solo day hike where we tagged along till the summit and clicked a few pictures. We exchanged numbers to share the pictures.

She is a resident doctor at a hospital in the city and is currently doing her specialisation post grad there. I really liked her personality and she seemed high value compared to the women I’ve met in the past.

i texted her after a week since I was occupied with work and I said something funny to which she responded.

after a day of exchanging texts I asked her if she was interested in hanging out?. She disappeared for a whole day and messaged me back late in the night saying yes hoping she gets some time off at work.

My question here is that does she have low interest and was just avoiding saying no to me and should I pursue this a little more or move on ? I’ve not asked her out yet since I’m going out for a short vacation and will be occupied for another whole week when I’m back.
I did exchange my number with a few more girls while on the hike but then I’m don’t see them adding any value to my life so have not asked them out yet.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Honestly who knows. Assume she has some interest unless she flakes on a date that you set up.

If she is interested she will meet up with you again. If she isn't, she won't.

I don't put much stock into how long it takes someone to respond as you have no idea what is going on when you send a message. If she is a doctor she could be extremely busy seeing patients.

 

[RickPound]

The only problem i see here is not asking her with a specific meet up.

After exchanging a day of texts… “I heard of another cool hiking spot. You should come with me on such and such a day”

Asking her in general if she wants to hang out and leaving it at that is timid and will increase the chances of a flake whether you do ask her out.

Anyway, shoot your shot!

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Women who don’t respond immediately and firm up plans almost always have something else going on, she may be spinning plates herself. If she’s attractive, intelligent and has her **** together she has plenty of suitors and options. It’s frustrating but you must wait your turn.

AWALT with very few exceptions - takes a while to accept it but as you experience them more and more in life you’ll find there are no special snowflakes. If she turns out to be a unicorn, it will take time to tell, but you will never know for certain, she will just provide you enough of what you want to make the narrative believable, and frankly, that all it takes.

 

[corsica]

When a woman is interested in you, she'll find time. Many girls told me that.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I’ve dated Resident doctors and they are very busy people and full of themselves. Just be direct and to the point about going out with her and keep it low investment just in case she’s just bored.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

When a woman is interested in you, she'll find time. Many girls told me that.

it’s hard for OP to relate until he has experienced this lol

 

[Wicked]

I’ve dated Resident doctors and they are very busy people and full of themselves. Just be direct and to the point about going out with her and keep it low investment just in case she’s just bored.

Once I’m back from my vacation next week I’ll set up a date and check if she confirms. I think that’s the only way to know what’s on her mind.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

after a day of exchanging texts I asked her if she was interested in hanging out?. She disappeared for a whole day and messaged me back late in the night saying yes hoping she gets some time off at work.

Asking her in general if she wants to hang out and leaving it at that is timid and will increase the chances of a flake whether you do ask her out.

This.

ANY time you ask a girl out, you should give her a specific date and time and place, and you shouldn't phrase it as a question. Like this:

"Hey we should get together to continue this conversation. How about this Thursday, 7pm at Cafe ______"

That puts her on the spot, the ball firmly in her court. She basically has to say yes or no and anything else is a no, including a "maybe" or a "I'll see if I can get time off work" etc.

Based on her current response, it doesn't sound like she is interested though. You should still ask her - with a SPECIFIC date/time/place, but I wouldn't hold out much hope.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Only one way to find out.

PS: Good for you interacting and getting those digits IRL. Better yet, while doing something you both like.

Note: Regardless of the outcome you had a good hike, got some cool pics, and practiced your "game". A win all around in my book! Getting a date, maybe some sex, and potentially a LTR out it would just be bonuses.


Modern Man Advice

 

[bat soup]

I’m 27 average looking man who likes writing code for a living. I met this girl on a solo day hike where we tagged along till the summit and clicked a few pictures. We exchanged numbers to share the pictures.

She is a resident doctor at a hospital in the city and is currently doing her specialisation post grad there. I really liked her personality and she seemed high value compared to the women I’ve met in the past.

i texted her after a week since I was occupied with work and I said something funny to which she responded.

after a day of exchanging texts I asked her if she was interested in hanging out?. She disappeared for a whole day and messaged me back late in the night saying yes hoping she gets some time off at work.

My question here is that does she have low interest and was just avoiding saying no to me and should I pursue this a little more or move on ? I’ve not asked her out yet since I’m going out for a short vacation and will be occupied for another whole week when I’m back.
I did exchange my number with a few more girls while on the hike but then I’m don’t see them adding any value to my life so have not asked them out yet.

There's not really enough information here to know. You like her, clearly, but what has she done to show interest?

So far, not much. Her answer sounds like a yes no maybe and she took all day to respond.

Her excuses sound believable, but they're still excuses.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Probably low interest. Press forward and make the date. Make her reject you.

 

[Knight of Roses]

I wouldn’t put too much emphasis in response times to text. I’ve banged plenty of girls who took even weeks to get back to me initially. I’d float a small text saying that you’ll be in touch with her when you get back from your trip. When you do, hit her up with a definite date in mind and see what happens.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Probably low interest. Press forward and make the date. Make her reject you.

Always make the woman reject you, never reject yourself.

 

[Atom Smasher]

There’s a fine line between being too eager and losing momentum. I think you tend to operate close to the momentum loss line. Once a girl’s memory of the feeling of an encounter fades, her interest drops drastically.
As others have said, a man should never make a “hang out sometime” request. It comes across as wishy-washy. Say you’re going somewhere and you’d like her to join you.

Women are evaluating you for boldness.

 

[MtmVaott]

Always make the woman reject you, never reject yourself.

I think she already rejected him. She hopes she will get time off from work? I didn't know doctors are actually prisoners in the hospital and have no idea when they are permitted to go out.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I think she already rejected him. She hopes she will get time off from work? I didn't know doctors are actually prisoners in the hospital and have no idea when they are permitted to go out.

She may be on call a lot, pretty common especially if there is a shortage where she works

 

[oldmanofthesea]

She may be on call a lot, pretty common especially if there is a shortage where she works

Oh no doubt she is busy. But not too busy to crawl on her hands and knees over broken glass into the bed of any guy she is really attracted to. Keep in mind she had time to go on the hike where OP met her. No one is too busy to go out on a date.

 

[Dean Raymond]

During the week in which she did not hear from you, her interest may have gone elsewhere, she could just be seeing multiple other people, or, she's just busy. In this case, as it's previously been said, you'll only really be able to gauge where she stands with you one you're back and can actually make a solid plan.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I think she already rejected him. She hopes she will get time off from work? I didn't know doctors are actually prisoners in the hospital and have no idea when they are permitted to go out.

there’s obviously some low interest, but he might get a lay