Ashyguy said:
SonoftheMostHigh----
Thanks for the advice about smiling at strangers...I really like that. I will try it tomorrow.
As for how I view girls, I was raised in the south by a single mother, so yah I was always taught to respect girls unless they do something to not deserve it.
From this day forward: People must
earn your trust, don't assume
anything. You have to understand that women are no different from most people, they are not perfect. Do not be hoodwinked by their good looks, think of a beautiful girl as if she was an ugly one that you wanted to get to know... because some beautiful girls are VERY ugly and you don't want to be anywhere near them (they are bat**** crazy!) I know I have a sister and I feel sorry for the poor sap who will get stuck with her.
I began as a loving, kindhearted, timid boy, and I kept getting hurt because each person is born with a different identity, they have different instincts and things they value. While I valued being kind, timid and meek. Other people value assertiveness, gregariousness, and even violent edgyness. I finally came to realize, people have to earn your respect. (I wrote this below btw):
A little about moi? I am an authoritarian ascendant, I have learned hard lessons in my life that being totally honest and treating everyone with respect gets one nowhere fast. So due to the extenuating circumstances in my life, I have become a king of the beasts we call mankind. People have to earn my respect and my trust, I have no time for petty people and the small minded. Life is to be enjoyed, people are to be respected only on the condition they show me that they are worth my respect and trust through actions. Everyone uses words to get what they want by saying what people want to hear, I am not one of these people. I am straight up and I'd just as soon ask you to have sex as I would ask you to dance. If you don't think thats socially appropriate, I guess thats tough. You're not strong enough yet to let go of civil prejudice and be honest. Especially when we look at others with lustful eyes but dance around the issue flirting and whatnot, if I think you're gorgeous you'll know it but I am no doormat or bootlicker either, just because you have looks doesn't mean you'll earn my respect or trust. I've been burned one too many times placing my deep level of trust and respect in people and they've always shown me they were never mature enough or knew themselves well enough to handle it. So, are you game for someone who has a backbone and won't do whatever you want, whenever you say it? Are you ready for someone to lead you and take you places you've never been and submit yourself to my authority? If this sounds like you, give me a ring. If not, keep looking. My motto for life is that: I will not be contained by you or anyone on this earth. I do not acknowledge authorities that have no merit to me.
Now after reading that just remember, don't take the dating and relationship life too seriously. Try to think of women as lovable people who are total flakes (i.e. enormously inconsistent). Women will say one thing and do another, so you have to place more emphasis on looking at how she reacts to you and not on words.
Most people in this world do not know themselves, so their words cannot be trusted 100%. You'll find this out as you get older and grow into a more mature perspective exposing yourself to different people.
Start viewing women at first as overgrown children (like your sister who's such a retard) unless they prove you otherwise, as an exercise try imagining each woman as the girl your looking at was your daughter for some perspective, you should know if you have women in your own family that women can be total dip****s, so you have to be the power (i.e. totally male), and not be seduced by her looks, or simply: Do not be blinded by her looks.
Go read Pooks post "
The secret of the jerk"
