Too much ****y Funny?

[Genos]

So lately, I've been practicing a lot of ****y funny, C&F. I've been getting some good results, but also people have told me that sometimes they don't know whether to take me seriously because I'm always joking around, and have even called me out on it >__>

It's almost automatic now, I kind of turn any comment into witty banter, and can deflect any personal question easily. But again, I think this may be starting to backfire on me, heh. Kind of a lame DJ problem, eh?

Any tips on how to balance C&F and not become a social robot like I've been turning into?

 

[jimmy18]

If you are joking around all the time, women won't respect you as a man but see you as a dancing monkey for their entertainment.

Use it sparingly.

Also tone down the "****iness" if you are very good looking, else the girl will not believe she has a chance with you and pre-reject you as an ego defence mechanism.

 

[Genos]

Thanks jimmy, that actually makes a ton of sense - I definitely think I've been giving off a bit of the dancing monkey vibe to women recently. Gonna try to dial things back, be a little more serious.

For the time being, I think I've left a couple people (men and women) with the dancing monkey impression, a bit too much C&F >_> Is it possible to change this view of me, or will I be stuck in that trope permanently in their mind? I suppose it doesn't matter either way (as I'll be trying to change whether I can make them see me differently or not), but it'd be great if I could get a do over >_>

 

[jimmy18]

Thanks jimmy, that actually makes a ton of sense - I definitely think I've been giving off a bit of the dancing monkey vibe to women recently. Gonna try to dial things back, be a little more serious.

For the time being, I think I've left a couple people (men and women) with the dancing monkey impression, a bit too much C&F >_> Is it possible to change this view of me, or will I be stuck in that trope permanently in their mind? I suppose it doesn't matter either way (as I'll be trying to change whether I can make them see me differently or not), but it'd be great if I could get a do over >_>

Well it is pretty hard to change people's first impressions of you, especially women's

Good thing you don't care what they think

 

[Genos]

Well it is pretty hard to change people's first impressions of you, especially women's

Good thing you don't care what they think

This is an interesting problem actually, and something which I wanted to ask about at some point.

One of the persons I was with just today (and running a bit too much C&F on) was a girl whom I had known for about a year. When I initially met her, I definitely wasn't running C&F, was pretty much your average conversationalist. But after we spent some time together today, she said something along the lines of "haha omg, you joke around so much, how is your boss going to take you seriously, what's he going to do if you always mess around like this at work" (we're both entering industry after graduation). My response, if y'all are curious: "He'll probably immediately promote me to CEO"

Anyway, she said something along those lines about me a couple times over the course of the conversation, which is when I started to realize that I may be pouring it on too thick. Anyway, what I'm getting at is, this wasn't our first meeting, so it wasn't her first impression of me - but at the moment, it's the last impression that I left her with. Can a woman's opinion about you change over the course of your interactions? From week to week? If you leave a woman with a bad impression at one point, can you make it up at a later point?

Once again, I don't think my actions and what I'm supposed to will change depending on the answer to the question (it's kind of the same as the age old 'do looks matter question' - even if they do, does that mean you just give up? No, you keep trying either way); but as a general inquiry, I'm wondering if this is common. Anything's possible, I'm just wondering what the general tendency is (if there is one)