Too many people these days are in a "Delusionship"

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This explains a lot of the issues people are facing now. They convince themselves they are in a relationship or their interactions are more than they are but they aren't.

Been there, the silver lining is now I’m here
 

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Isn't this what simps refer to as the friendzone?

Absolutely fcking pathetic to "fall in love" with a girl who has no reciprocation of feelings. I genuinely cannot understand the idea of loving someone who doesn't love you; reciprocation is a prerequisite to even develop feelings in the first place.

Is the female equivalent of this the "talking stage" ? Ie a high value guy that won't commit?
 
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Reminds me a bit of the tv series "You". Looking forward to the fifth and final season
 

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Fish or cut bait. I don't obsess. I wonder why younger men today seem to be so prone to it.

Most men in my age group that are active posters here seem to "get it" in general.

Maybe it's generational? We didn't grow up with the Internet in the palm of our hands?

I always cringe when I see a new post about some chump "I met this girl online, how do I slide into her DMs?" - so you didn't fool, you haven't met her you looked at her Instagram. Or "omg, she unfollowed me!" or "I unfollowed and unfriended her on all social media!" yeah, that's really going to change shyt right there dude, you done showed her a lesson!
 

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Fish or cut bait. I don't obsess. I wonder why younger men today seem to be so prone to it.

Most men in my age group that are active posters here seem to "get it" in general.

Maybe it's generational? We didn't grow up with the Internet in the palm of our hands?

I always cringe when I see a new post about some chump "I met this girl online, how do I slide into her DMs?" - so you didn't fool, you haven't met her you looked at her Instagram. Or "omg, she unfollowed me!" or "I unfollowed and unfriended her on all social media!" yeah, that's really going to change shyt right there dude, you done showed her a lesson!
People have an overinflated sense of importance nowadays
 

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Being a “boyfriend”/in a relationship: lowest position for a man to be in.
 

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People have an overinflated sense of importance nowadays
Not really. People follow their evolutional programming that's it. People will simp and be cucks if it is necessary. It is natural to be delusional.
 

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Not really. People follow their evolutional programming that's it. People will simp and be cucks if it is necessary. It is natural to be delusional.
Not really sure what you mean. Would you care to expand?
 

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Not really. People follow their evolutional programming that's it. People will simp and be cucks if it is necessary. It is natural to be delusional.
I just replied that it is not always about the selfinflated self. The opposite happens as well. I took the birds eye perspective that is the evolutionary perspective in it people will go among other strategies go after their natural impulses that is from the men's perspective to be a simp and a cuck because it is still better than nothing.
 

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This explains a lot of the issues people are facing now. They convince themselves they are in a relationship or their interactions are more than they are but they aren't.

If I'm not laying the pipe, I have no delusion about my "relationship".
 

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I love how the article explains it:

a "delusionship" is building up a relationship with someone we don't necessarily have a connection with, whether it's a stranger we've interacted with a handful of times or a former partner we're no longer connected to—not an ex we're still friends with.

This may apply to a teenage guy who wants a gf or a college student who is chasing after a hot girl. But if the man older it’s ridiculous.

May be build something in hopes of having sex with a woman under 30, but build something up in hopes of a relationship? No way.
 

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Not really. People follow their evolutional programming that's it. People will simp and be cucks if it is necessary. It is natural to be delusional.
Success in life comes from being abnormal and not settling for what is natural
 

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Success in life comes from being abnormal and not settling for what is natural
I can agree to it from one perspective but from another perspective it is hard and in some cases impossible to get out of the natural matrix. Life seems to be deterministic you can not make law of physics go away and you don't even have a real free will. You are just machine. Success is just a concept that happened in your mind.
 

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This "delusion ship" is actually one if the greatest tools we as men have to seduce women.

It's a rather feminine trait. My initial thought was that of teenage girls who fall head over heals in love with a popstar. I've never been able to fully comprehend how one can fall in love with someone whose completely unavailable due to age, distance and status

But eventually this is how women feel and love. So by presenting yourself in a certain way ( best version) you might trigger her delusion /curiosity. This is how bluepilled alphas lure in women only to lose them 3/6 months later; the delusion /mystery is gone and so is her ability to actually be delusional.


Bottom line; by being om top of your game you can seduce women you never even noticed that much.

Great example is ofcourse the gym.
 

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