Too honest girl...

[Southbound29]

well, in the end I went to pick her up.

We went to that b-day party, and we had a fun night. By the end of the night she was hugging me, sitting on my lap, and took a couple of pics together. Also, when we were dancing I kissed her on the neck a few times but I did not kiss her on the lips because all her friends were there and we are not a couple or anything like that so...I didnt want to give that impression, and I didnt know if she would have liked me kissing her on the lips in front of her friends. (too son you know)

I would have liked to fvck her that night but after that party I was pretty tired, she was pretty tired and said that she had to get up early but she did not want to. Anyway we made out, I touched her boobs and ***** in my car and she said that she'd like to stay with me but that it would be better another time.

So far so good.

P.S.

What annoys me is that she talks about her ex bf 40% of the time. Because she says they are "best friends" she keeps talking about his life, about one time when they went to X place, about how this guy's mom...blah, blah.
I take it in a fun way, I tease her a bit about it and after a bit I indirectly change the subject but...I dont understand why she thinks its ok to talk about this guy, really...
She has a small obsession or something...

Two things that jump out here.

1. You kissed her on the neck, a spot that's probably more vulnerable and intimate than the lips. You did this and she didn't resist. You were good to go with a kiss on the lips. Don't let other people stop you from doing what you want.

2. The whole ex bf thing. This is just my opinion and how I personally handle sh!t like this. Tell her straight up you don't want to hear **** about her ex and their problems. You don't have to be mean about it but be firm and establish some f$%king boundaries man. You're not one of her gossiping gfs nor a therapist.

Other than that you're all good. Keep at it.

 

[marmel75]

Other than that you're all good. Keep at it.

If you've read enough of his other posts, you'd realize he probably isn't...he slow plays, comes up with all these reasons why he didn't escalate over the course of several dates and then wonders why the chicks lose interest. This is heading directly down the same path.

 

[CMNILS87]

Still best friends with an ex and still talks incessantly about him? She got dumped and would love to get him back. He's always on her mind, even while hanging out with you. If you're thinking anything else besides plate, look elsewhere

 

[pyros]

She's really good for a fwb relationship.

She says that she doesnt want to get back with him, but they are best friends and she likes it this way.
Oh, she also mentioned that she fvcked him a few weeks ago cause she was drunk... ok...thanks for sharing? lol

 

[marmel75]

She's really good for a fwb relationship.

She says that she doesnt want to get back with him, but they are best friends and she likes it this way.
Oh, she also mentioned that she fvcked him a few weeks ago cause she was drunk... ok...thanks for sharing? lol

Yeah...it's called he fvcks me really good, and I hate the way he acts but still want that D

 

[playa99]

Dude, stop thinking about this so much and bang her! She is interested now, but the longer you wait, the bigger chance you have of getting in the friendzone.

Tell her to stop going on about her ex, that would annoy the sh!t out of me, it has nothing to do with you & her. Tell her your coming round one night and get the deed done!

 

[pyros]

Should I tell her to stop talking about her ex? or should I play the same game? I mean, talk about other girls that like me etc?
I think I am going with option 2.

 

[marmel75]

Should I tell her to stop talking about her ex? or should I play the same game? I mean, talk about other girls that like me etc?
I think I am going with option 2.

Her: My ex, blah blah blah

You: I bet if my c0ck was shoved down your throat you wouldn't be able to talk about it....

 

[MrWood]

why did you not stay at her place? You had the super tired excuse!

 

[pyros]

well I just wanted to update this thread because we usually just post here about problems or failures, but we rarely post successes. So it went like this:

(I met her on facebook because she's friends with a friend of mine)
1st date: I just met her outside of a club where she went with her friends. We went for a 30 mins walk etc. Then we got in the club, danced a bit etc and I left.

2nd date: SHE text me first so I told her to go to grab a snack. After eating we went for a drink. We were sitting on a bench, talking etc, and I kissed her on the shoulder but she told me that she was nervous because of this, so I gave one step back.
We had a drink and drove her home and she gave me a very small kiss on the lips. VERY SMALL.

3rd date: I texted her, we exchanged many many messages...and I asked her out for a drink. We ended up having dinner at a chinese restaurant and then we went for that drink.
At the end we made out for a bit.

4th date: we went to the same b-day party because of a common friend. She sat next to me during dinner. Then we went to a club and we danced etc, I kissed her on the neck while dancing etc. When I drove her home we made out in my car, I touched her boobs, ***** etc.

5th date: she kept texting me almost everyday without me initiating. She told me to go to grab dinner, so we did. At the end I suggested to go somewhere more private but she refused, and I was like: wtf? I got upset but I tried to hide it.

6th date: she suggested to go to the beach. We had a good time as always.

date attempt: She tried to toy with me but it backfired: I told her to go to grab dinner on Saturday but she told me that she was gonna party with her friends. She said it with a bit of a bitchy attitude so I just said ok and nothing else. After 15 minutes she texted me to tell me that we could go to grab dinner and after that she could join her friends. I said nope, we'll see if we meet some other time. She said ok fine...
The next day at around 11 am, she texted me because she wanted to see me that night. I said sure. So...

7th date: I was starting to lose my interest because of the lack of sex... but, we went to have dinner, then to have a couple of drinks and then to dance salsa. We made out a lot and when she was tipsy I suggested to go to my parents house and she agreed. Once there we fvcked, had a shower together and I drove her home.

I guess I could have fvcked her earlier but because I do not have my own place it took more time.

 

[marmel75]

well I just wanted to update this thread because we usually just post here about problems or failures, but we rarely post successes. So it went like this:

(I met her on facebook because she's friends with a friend of mine)
1st date: I just met her outside of a club where she went with her friends. We went for a 30 mins walk etc. Then we got in the club, danced a bit etc and I left.

2nd date: SHE text me first so I told her to go to grab a snack. After eating we went for a drink. We were sitting on a bench, talking etc, and I kissed her on the shoulder but she told me that she was nervous because of this, so I gave one step back.
We had a drink and drove her home and she gave me a very small kiss on the lips. VERY SMALL.

3rd date: I texted her, we exchanged many many messages...and I asked her out for a drink. We ended up having dinner at a chinese restaurant and then we went for that drink.
At the end we made out for a bit.

4th date: we went to the same b-day party because of a common friend. She sat next to me during dinner. Then we went to a club and we danced etc, I kissed her on the neck while dancing etc. When I drove her home we made out in my car, I touched her boobs, ***** etc.

5th date: she kept texting me almost everyday without me initiating. She told me to go to grab dinner, so we did. At the end I suggested to go somewhere more private but she refused, and I was like: wtf? I got upset but I tried to hide it.

6th date: she suggested to go to the beach. We had a good time as always.

date attempt: She tried to toy with me but it backfired: I told her to go to grab dinner on Saturday but she told me that she was gonna party with her friends. She said it with a bit of a *****y attitude so I just said ok and nothing else. After 15 minutes she texted me to tell me that we could go to grab dinner and after that she could join her friends. I said nope, we'll see if we meet some other time. She said ok fine...
The next day at around 11 am, she texted me because she wanted to see me that night. I said sure. So...

7th date: I was starting to lose my interest because of the lack of sex... but, we went to have dinner, then to have a couple of drinks and then to dance salsa. We made out a lot and when she was tipsy I suggested to go to my parents house and she agreed. Once there we fvcked, had a shower together and I drove her home.

I guess I could have fvcked her earlier but because I do not have my own place it took more time.

Well the end result was good, but how you got there wasn't. I would call it more stumbling into the pvssy than anything else.

Realize this only happened because she was really into you. In most cases you would never get 7 dates with a woman if you didn't have sex with with her well before that point.

Congrats on the lay, but there is definite room for improvement if you want to be getting laid regularly...

 

[pyros]

I tried to bang her on the 4th in my car, but she refused and was 'surprised' because I suggested it. Whatever...

Yes, you're right; I've had some failures because I did not have sex on the second or third date when they were ready and horny because there was no place available, so they lost interest.