Too honest girl...

[pyros]

I've been on two dates with this 21 years old girl.

And I dont know if I am too suspicious and/or picky but...because of what she's told me about her, I've discarded her as potential gf material. Besides, I dont understand why she has told me all these 'negative' details about her.
In short, she has told me:

1 She's had a couple of ONS.
2 She has sex with guys after two or three dates.
3 She's best friends with her ex bf, and sometimes they end up having sex.
4 Sometimes she gets so drunk that she doesnt remember what she has done the night before.
5 She a few health issues.

Anyway, because she's a lot of fun and is kind of cute I dont mind 'dating' her or seing her and having fun together but...why the f did she tell me all this IN JUST TWO DATES??

 

[blind_one]

You analysis very good. In my opinion its good that she revealed it, makes your job in screening easier. She's asking for it, don't make her wait too long

 

[unknowncitizen]

I don't see the first detail as negative since this applies to basically every girl and those who say it doesn't are probably lying. The second detail is positive and can be seen a rarity. The last three, esp. 4 and 5, are extreme red flags and the fact that she opened up to you so quickly (fourth red flag) should be your cue to head for the hills. Your call though.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Insert p in v, eject. Pyros, just end your dryspell with this girl, get that confidence back on go after more quality women.

 

[Julian]

yeah man smash an dash this hoe...crazy ***** is saying she still bangs her exbf LOL obviously she isnt looking for mr forever

 

[dude99]

I've been on two dates with this 21 years old girl.

And I dont know if I am too suspicious and/or picky but...because of what she's told me about her, I've discarded her as potential gf material. Besides, I dont understand why she has told me all these 'negative' details about her.
In short, she has told me:

1 She's had a couple of ONS.
2 She has sex with guys after two or three dates.
3 She's best friends with her ex bf, and sometimes they end up having sex.
4 Sometimes she gets so drunk that she doesnt remember what she has done the night before.
5 She a few health issues.

Anyway, because she's a lot of fun and is kind of cute I dont mind 'dating' her or seing her and having fun together but...why the f did she tell me all this IN JUST TWO DATES??

It's called an information dump. Usually girls who "look for love in all the wrong places," and need constant attention aka chick who has one night stands and still sleeps with her ex, are the type to get attached quickly. She is dumping her life story on you because she is already nesting with you in her mind. Be careful how you tread with this one. She is rhe type to go blabbing all over town how you two are an item after 3 dates.

 

[Alvafe]

It's called an information dump. Usually girls who "look for love in all the wrong places," and need constant attention aka chick who has one night stands and still sleeps with her ex, are the type to get attached quickly. She is dumping her life story on you because she is already nesting with you in her mind. Be careful how you tread with this one. She is rhe type to go blabbing all over town how you two are an item after 3 dates.

I consider this more like she jsut want to have fun, and ehr telling is just a way to after if anything happen she will just say I told you, she could also get atached too fast too, but yeah she is not quality, hang out smash and move on, maybe keep her around for FWB but just don't fall for her

 

[kronreiff]

Typical hosebag! Keep her number for the occasional cvmdump!

 

[dude99]

I consider this more like she jsut want to have fun, and ehr telling is just a way to after if anything happen she will just say I told you, she could also get atached too fast too, but yeah she is not quality, hang out smash and move on, maybe keep her around for FWB but just don't fall for her

Good enough for a plate. Nothing more.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

She's telling you she wants to fvck.

 

[Serenity]

Honesty does in many cases score a lot of points, especially if it's about things that normally would cause people to judge them. She might also have realized that what is done is done, it's better to be the first to tell it rather than let their date figure it out elsewhere.

I've said things while dating that doesn't exactly paint me as a perfect man, didn't really do any harm.

About the points:
1. Almost everyone has had ONS, no big deal.
2. How long someone wait to have sex doesn't matter. Some do it on the first date and some wait to get married, then there's every shade in between.
3. Well, that happens. When neither can find a new partner or fvck buddy, they cover their desire for sex in the meantime, but nothing more. If they get a new boyfriend they stop doing it (if the new boyfriend is good enough in bed).
4. Don't we all?
5. What type of health issues?

She sounds a bit sketchy, but since she was so open about it did you grab the opportunity to ask critical questions? Or did you just sit there like an idiot listening and not talking about it? You could ask things like if she got a new boyfriend if she would completely stop fvcking her ex.

 

[Huffman]

She has sex with guys after two or three dates.

why the f did she tell me all this IN JUST TWO DATES??

Did you read what you wrote there? Have YOU had sex with her after two or three dates yet?

That's the way she wants it! Go for it, or be captain save-a-ho forever.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

If she's 21 you shouldn't be considering her as a gf anyway, although I'm not sure how old you are so maybe you're not too far apart. If you're that young you should be dating around anyway and not hold yourself down to one person.

Enjoy her occasionally.

 

[oOh Nasty]

Better to know sooner rather than later. Consider yourself lucky for not having to waste time deciphering her sl00t status. Now with your knowledge, you may proceed in any direction as you please.

 

[El Payaso]

She told you she's a wh0re so act accordingly.

 

[marmel75]

I've been on two dates with this 21 years old girl.

And I dont know if I am too suspicious and/or picky but...because of what she's told me about her, I've discarded her as potential gf material. Besides, I dont understand why she has told me all these 'negative' details about her.
In short, she has told me:

1 She's had a couple of ONS.
2 She has sex with guys after two or three dates.
3 She's best friends with her ex bf, and sometimes they end up having sex.
4 Sometimes she gets so drunk that she doesnt remember what she has done the night before.
5 She a few health issues.

Anyway, because she's a lot of fun and is kind of cute I dont mind 'dating' her or seing her and having fun together but...why the f did she tell me all this IN JUST TWO DATES??

My concern is why you haven't found out for yourself through escalation versus her having to tell you this...

 

[pyros]

You know, I really appreciate her honesty because now I know that:
a) shes not gf material
b) if everything goes ok, I will **** her very soon.

I'd like to keep her as a fwb because as I said she's a lot of fun, so she0s perfect for casual sex and friends.

I havent fcked her yet because I dont have my own place. This is the reason why I havent been able to fvck previous girls I wrote about here.
Anyway, she's told me that she has an apartment at the beach and she has told me that she'd like to show it to me soon, so...

Tonigth we're going to the same b-day party because of a mutual friend.
I dont know if I should go pick her up and go to the party together? I mean, she doesnt have a car. Or if I could just drive her home after the party, or maybe we end up fvcking...anyway, my question is:
do I pick her up to go to this party together?
or do I just drive her home AFTER the party?
or do I do none of these two options?

I think if I tell her that I'll pick her up she will say not to worry , that her dad will drive her so...

P.S.
My gut tells me that i she's gonna end up super drunk tonight and she's gonna either fvck me or her ex, depending on the circumstances.

 

[Huffman]

Well you better not rely on Sosuave to help you with last-minute decisions. Have fun.

 

[fastlife]

Honestly, this is how every girl should be interacting with you. It means you haven't pinged her provider circuits but definitely have her thinking about sex. She perceives you as experienced & nonjudgmental. Almost every girl has stories like this--and way worse lol--they just have to trust that they can open up with you on that level.

 

[pyros]

well, in the end I went to pick her up.

We went to that b-day party, and we had a fun night. By the end of the night she was hugging me, sitting on my lap, and took a couple of pics together. Also, when we were dancing I kissed her on the neck a few times but I did not kiss her on the lips because all her friends were there and we are not a couple or anything like that so...I didnt want to give that impression, and I didnt know if she would have liked me kissing her on the lips in front of her friends. (too son you know)

I would have liked to fvck her that night but after that party I was pretty tired, she was pretty tired and said that she had to get up early but she did not want to. Anyway we made out, I touched her boobs and ***** in my car and she said that she'd like to stay with me but that it would be better another time.

So far so good.

P.S.

What annoys me is that she talks about her ex bf 40% of the time. Because she says they are "best friends" she keeps talking about his life, about one time when they went to X place, about how this guy's mom...blah, blah.
I take it in a fun way, I tease her a bit about it and after a bit I indirectly change the subject but...I dont understand why she thinks its ok to talk about this guy, really...
She has a small obsession or something...