too drunk to remember what happened exactly...

[jophil28]

Should I send her a message?

Let me send you a message instead - you have anger issues and an alcohol problem and it does not matter how angry you get at me or the other men here - it is what it is.

In your first post you reported that you and she were pissed at each other twice in the first few hours of meeting each other - DING ! A combat zone !

You then say that when you sobered up the next morning you reconsidered your postion and decided to pursue her. SO your mood changed drastically when the alcohol was not f**king up your cortex - DING ! Alcoholism symptom !

Then you failed to process the good natured humor from us here and became extremely defensive to the point of aggression in your last few posts -DING !
Inappropriate expressions of rage - typical alcoholism symptom.

I could go on .

 

[iqqi]

Just tell her to pick you up at 7PM this Wednesday or Thursday.

No conversation. Don't even call. Do this with a text.

 

[ketostix]

Just tell her to pick you up at 7PM this Wednesday or Thursday.

No conversation. Don't even call. Do this with a text.

How come you are given the OP good advice but you're a jacka*s to most everyone else and give the worst advice?

 

[iqqi]

How come you are given the OP good advice but you're a jacka*s to most everyone else and give the worst advice?

Actually, I give great advice.

Get over it, son.

 

[ketostix]

Actually, I give great advice.

Get over it, son.

No you don't sonny. I can only recall 2 or 3 times and I pointed it out most of those times. For example anyone that can't see potato is basically a fake and a troll is a big fool.

 

[woods]

O.K, I admit I was out of line with that post, but everyone starting getting high and mighty and judgemental, and flaming me about shyt they dont know about. A lot of those replies were completely innapropriate and ignorant of the situation. and I don't appreciate that. This topic isn't about whether I'm an alcoholic or not. I know what I am. And noone should be judging this chick about anything. She has done nothing wrong YET. I dont know anything about her.

I was using the AA date thing as a joking icebreaker, and noone but IQQI can see that!

Basicly, somewhere along the line I said something either inapropriate, or I was a little too honest about something. I do that sometimes, sober or not.

I'm mostly asking if I should apologize or not. I haven't wrote her back yet.

 

[woods]

O.K, I admit I was out of line with that post, but everyone starting getting high and mighty and judgemental, and flaming me about shyt they dont know about. A lot of those replies were completely innapropriate and ignorant of the situation. and I don't appreciate that. This topic isn't about whether I'm an alcoholic or not. I know what I am. And noone should be judging this chick about anything. She has done nothing wrong YET. I dont know anything about her.

I was using the AA date thing as a joking icebreaker, and noone but IQQI can see that!

Basicly, somewhere along the line I said something either inapropriate, or I was a little too honest about something. I do that sometimes, sober or not.

I'm mostly asking if I should apologize or not. I haven't wrote her back yet.

 

[MacAvoy]

I agree and go with the first. Pretend it didn't happen. You were both drunk and over reacting to something stupid, she probably feels the same way as you, let sleeping dogs lie.

Send her the message to pick you up at 7 and leave it at that.

ps on a sidenote, I agree that the guys were goin overboard about the AA and failed to understand that it was a joke, but be the better man and just ignore their hate, there is alot on the board, don't defend yourself, there is no reason to, you only come across the wrong way when you get back into it with them.

 

[decades]

Actually the advice is to STOP and check yourself. Ask yourself has doing it YOUR way been working. Some of us are older than you and we can see things you can't because you don't have our experience, nor the perspective of being the outside observer looking in. Sometimes the best thing is to do Nothing. It's also the hardest thing.

 

[MacAvoy]

Actually the advice is to STOP and check yourself. Ask yourself has doing it YOUR way been working. Some of us are older than you and we can see things you can't because you don't have our experience, nor the perspective of being the outside observer looking in. Sometimes the best thing is to do Nothing. It's also the hardest thing.

I'm intrigued by this advice because I can understand the logic behind it, however I don't see how it applies in this case. Can you explain plz.

 

[Mr. Me]

This topic isn't about whether I'm an alcoholic or not.

The thing is, maybe that's w-a-y more important to consider over whether you should message her or not.

When I first read your post the other day, what struck me was that you couldn't recall why she had gotten angry or what you had done - two times - the night before. Granted you were drinking, but to have a memory loss about things throughout means that the drinking was too much.

Then my next thought was, you shrugged off whatever you did that ticked her off as if your behavior doesn't mean anything. But it was enough to tick her off. Twice. So, you're not in control when you drink and you minimize your behavior. That should be a concern.

Then I thought her reply to your invite (though it was tongue in cheek, but still asking her out) was noncommittal on her part, and got the sense that she's not going to see you again, but you don't seem to be picking up on that.

Then finally, my last thought was that you have these apparent areas in your life that need improvement, but here you are on the forum asking if you should message her, but man, you're 32 years old and THAT's what has you looking for advice?

So when people point out what they see jutting out at them from your post, you take it as them being "high and mighty and judgmental" instead of seeing that they're trying to help you. And again you minimize your own behavior, as you excuse it away by faulting others: "I was out of line with that post, but everyone starting getting..."

You need to work on some priorities here; it's not going to get better by itself.

 

[decades]

I'm intrigued by this advice because I can understand the logic behind it, however I don't see how it applies in this case. Can you explain plz.

because them getting together has disaster written all over it. he should fix himself before attempting a relationship with a 38 year old drunk woman he met at a heavy metal concert. we need to understand our choices determine our life. make better choices.

 

[MooseGod]

Well at least they share similar interests...what's wrong with that? You want a girl who is some workaholic who is going to whine about you getting drunk at rock concerts on the weekends? Or do you want one that will be headbanging right next to you?

 

[DonGorgon]

Yep, send this - " PLease pick me up at 7 Thursday night and take me to an AA meeting ."

Funny but sadly for many folks alchahol is the only way...

 

[iqqi]

Why was this moved out of the MM forum? Woods has his age posted.