Too aggressive v. Not aggressive enough

[hjsknksbm]

DJ's like Tiburon are advocates of being aggressive. Others like to play the more indifferent route. But I side with Tiburon that it's better to be aggressive (esspecially in college). But I would like your opinion on whether it's better to be too aggessive or not aggressive enough. You will never know how aggressive to be unless you test the water so I think it's better to be too aggressive. But I would like some feedback on this one. Thanx!

 

[Nathan]

It's all about balance.

There is a time and a place for both strategies.

Some women offer themselves to you, and you have to have the balls to just seize the opportunity.

Other women will be turned off by aggression.


I've found that if you develop a reputation as someone who is always aggressively chasing after women, women will find you cheap, disgusting, and desperate.

However, I am generally more laid back, but if I see a girl I want that has high IL, I'll be very aggressive with her. This makes them feel very flattered, very special, and very feminine...which, of course, means you've got them.

The key is giving them the impression that "I don't usually do this." It's pulling off aggression without putting off desperation. That way, she doesn't just think "yeah, he's like this with ALL women and he's a disgusting pig."

The thinking is more, "Wow, I'm really flattered and feel special that he's given me this type of attention -- he usually makes women work for him."

It's all about balance and discretion.

 

[So pimp its scary]

My approach is like this, I don't try to mack on the girl... I don't focus on ****ing her... I just pay deep attention to her (or the whole group) as we are talking... and I try to not focus on any one in particular. Sooner or later, one of the girls, if there are any will somehow let themselves be know, and it's at that point that I will gradually focus more on that woman... asking her more questions, still being my c&f self, yet at the same time not ignoring her friends.

If it's someone that I will see sooner or later, I won't even ask for a phone number the first time I talk to them... patience is key. My technique basically gets women to eventually pounce on you. It is a wonderful feeling coming home with a girl that you've been keeping on edge for a few weeks.

If it's a cold approach outside of school, I will wait untill getting in rapport, then as soon as I start seeing some buying signs, I tell her to give me her number so we can hang out sometime.

From then, the signs are pretty easy to spot at this point. If you don't know what 'buying signs' are... do some searching.

My conclusion : Make the girl want to take you from the sexual tension, but if the signs are there POUNCE on them.

 

[So pimp its scary]

My approach is like this, I don't try to mack on the girl... I don't focus on ****ing her... I just pay deep attention to her (or the whole group) as we are talking... and I try to not focus on any one in particular. Sooner or later, one of the girls, if there are any will somehow let themselves be know, and it's at that point that I will gradually focus more on that woman... asking her more questions, still being my c&f self, yet at the same time not ignoring her friends.

If it's someone that I will see sooner or later, I won't even ask for a phone number the first time I talk to them... patience is key. My technique basically gets women to eventually pounce on you. It is a wonderful feeling coming home with a girl that you've been keeping on edge for a few weeks.

If it's a cold approach outside of school, I will wait untill getting in rapport, then as soon as I start seeing some buying signs, I tell her to give me her number so we can hang out sometime.

From then, the signs are pretty easy to spot at this point. If you don't know what 'buying signs' are... do some searching.

My conclusion : Make the girl want to take you from the sexual tension, but if the signs are there POUNCE on them.

 

[516]

I agree with NATHAN. I believe that there can be situations for being both aggressive and passive with chicks. Just read the situation, read the girl, and determine how aggressive/passive to be in each situation as it happens.

 

[high nrg]

i think you should be aggressive as she'll let you. if you get a go sign then keep going. if your not feeling it then dont be aggressive.

aggressive is good. if your not agressive your gonna always wonder what could've happened if you'd tried.

just an opinion

 

[spikehead]

In general, you have to feel out your use of agressiveness in any given situation with a girl. You test the waters and if she's not feeling it, you lay back. If she likes your agressive attidute, keep going. Just make sure your in control.

 

[xblitz44x]

It depends on what you want, the girl, and who you really are. If you're going to the club, or a college party looking for pure, ONS material - turn it up. Push and push - if she stops you then move on because you're not there to mess around. then go full-throttle elsewhere. if you're looking to make a real, solid connection with somebody then it won't matter. You'll be able to relax and go with the flow so that the both of you are comfortable. I wouldn't TRY to be anything unless you're going for ONS...it'll only fvck up the natural flow to your game.

 

[hjsknksbm]

to clear up any confusion, when I refer to aggressiveness i'm mainly talking about kino

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
It depends on what you want, the girl, and who you really are. If you're going to the club, or a college party looking for pure, ONS material - turn it up. Push and push - if she stops you then move on because you're not there to mess around. then go full-throttle elsewhere. if you're looking to make a real, solid connection with somebody then it won't matter. You'll be able to relax and go with the flow so that the both of you are comfortable. I wouldn't TRY to be anything unless you're going for ONS...it'll only fvck up the natural flow to your game.

Exactly. One question: why WOULDN'T you try to be forceful for a ONS? Maybe it would help?

Just a little quip there.

 

[tiburon]

i think ..

Well ithink you guys think about this stuff like solving a math problem..." well it depends, if i get this sign i might do this, or if she is like this, or if i am in thi splace and time"

You will deffinitely make good engineers.....All this things about agressivenes should be natural not need to evaluat situations, girls etc, because its your personality and hopefully you guys dont have two personalites or multiple ones.

A Man is a Man and there is not reason for trying to hide what he is. Let a woman early know that you are not a boy who wastes his time, that its no mistery that you are attracted to her but that this dont mean much , and that you dont want crap from her because you will move on. All that stuff of analyzing situations etc ..leads to one thing and it is a big mistake...YOU STOP BEING YOURSELF....YOU HAVE TO BE NATURAL.

Also if a woman gives you a sign that you understand as she coming on to you ,,,dont hesitate TO BE A MAN and react to it. If you dont do this all women little by little will start to play you for a fool who doesnt have courage to grab her by the ass and kiss her when she provokes him because afraid of rejection.
Maybe she will turn you down but then you dismiss her and then she will know you dont waste your time, you dont play games, and that no one takes you for a fool. She will never try a stunt like that because she knows whats coming...and infact what happens after you ignore her for the rest of the time for being such a little girl ..her interest in you will increase immensively. So back to the same point BE AGRGRESSIVE! BE A MAN! BE A LION WHO FVCKS TEN TIMES A DAY!