Tolerance - Calling Intervals

[Clark Kent]

Losing my patience with some women.

Its a hit-and-miss relationship with some of them. If I'm busy reading a book, doing paperwork or generally cannot talk to some of them when they call, they get belittled somehow and say ''You never want to talk to me''. This is frustrating because I have things which I'm actually doing more important than asking them how there day went

Not only that, but when I do call them, they have nothing of meaning to talk about. I have to build the tension in the convo and even then, they have trouble following a train of conversation.

Saying I have 'an 'important schedule'' or ''I'm busy'', makes them have this push/pull attitude. If he's not gonna talk to me, then I'm not phoning him or I'm not going to answer his calls anymore, at the very least make him call a few times and let him work his way upwards-type attitude.

It's really futile and meaningless. So now, I pick times in a day during the week where I just call every single girl (5 women at the minute), and spend individual time on the phone to them. Hopeless, Because when I am busy, the samething will happen again and I have to work upwards into their stupid buying temperatures - Like a god damn salesman.

One of them, I just called after maybe a week of not contacting her, the last time we spoke, she called me and I had to get off the phone because I was reading. Then she moaned I never want to talk to her in a displeasing tone and hanged up before I could even say bye. So when I caled her today, she rejected the incoming call, then I called again, she picked up and said hello, then hanged up.

Any advice on how to juggle ''You time'' and keeping the girls interested?

 

[scorpio1138]

I much prefer the chatting in person than over the phone. I keep the phone and texting to minimum.

That's the way it is and I'm doing just fine with that.

Maybe these girls all have something in common? Needy ness?

 

[ArcBound]

For me texting helps a lot. You don't have to respond right away that's key. You can respond 5 minutes later, 30 minutes later, 1 hour later, never ever and its fine cause it was a text.

But Clark Kent if you can't get your girls to text, you also don't have to pickup every single phone call. If you are busy and one of your plates calls, don't pick up and enter the whole song-and-dance routine of keeping her interest high. Just ignore or let it go to voicemail. Next time you meet or talk act like it never happened and if she asked say you were busy with something.