Marvin Gaye- Yes the language barrier is an issue, but it also lets me get away with things which would be faux pas in normal society.. for example talking to every random girl, asking them what this kanji means or what that sign says or which way to such and such. So its good and bad. One thing I really need practice with is verbal words and ways to tease girls. I've mostly been relying on rock-solid frame and body language / physical teasing like pushing girls into walls or doors, slapping their hand when they touch me, then going back to hug them and telling them I forgive them -- stuff like that.
A few things happened, and my life has gotten really insane.. here's an update.
After trying to get Club HB 8 to meet up, she evades and evades and I put her on the back burner after she says she cant come to a party at my house because she has a test (its a holiday..so who knows, she's probably just evading). She hadnt messaged me for about a week, and then suddenly she sends me a message asking if I'm going to have another party. I havent replied yet, going to leave her in the cold for a couple days..
Met another girl, HB 7 through a friend, and we went out with her friends, a 2 and a 5. She's the cutest, and we hit it off.
Drinking culture in Japan is different from the US. Whereas in the US people generally eat dinner and then go out to a bar to meet people, or a club to dance, in Japan people go out with people they already know, and eat AND drink. It seems like its an unspoken rule that if you're drinking, you have to have something to nibble on - which is grand when I'm drunk, and expensive when I realize the state of my wallet in the morning. Japan also has the miraculous NOMIHOUDAI （飲み放題） which is usually a 2-hour all you can drink. Prices start at around $10. Its epic. I think they get away with this because Japanese people are such lightweights that they just have 3 or 4 drinks (or girls, who are drunk after 1 or 2 sugary concotions.. its amazing). But when foreigners like me go out, we go big, and probably make them lose money.
Anyway, we all get wasted quickly.. She is all over me, and her friend says she gets like that when she's drunk. I laugh it off. I had the equivalent of about 10-12 shots in a short time... too drunk! We stumble around and the night starts to get fuzzy. I vaguely remember climbing on some roof.. and also carrying the 7 on my back somewhere.. We go to another bar where our friends are meeting us. My friend works at the bar, and he tells me the next day that I was wasted, and ordered a whiskey ginger, and told them to make it extra strong (oh drunk me.. you so silly). Apparently its 2-for-1 hour or something, so I think I gave the other one to someone else... or maybe I drank it.. I really dont know. I talked to some other random foreigners I bumped into.. and some other crazy things probably happen, but I really dont remember too much from this point on. I DO remember the 7 saying she needs to leave (at around 3am or so).. and I decide I'm wasted, shouldnt be drinking more, and should probably go too. We live really close together, so we make the trek back towards our houses. At this point its push-pull making out, then pushing her away and inexplicably walking on, and she prances back beside me and hangs onto my shoulder or grabs my hand. I probably climbed something again too here... I get very... climb-y when drunk. I'm probably going to get kicked out of Japan at some point, but I fully intend on having it be the MOST epic story ever if I do.
I dont know how it happened, but we ended up at my place even though she had work at 8am (4 hrs later). At this point I could tell my push-pull had gotten her all hot and bothered, and she attacked me. Always a fun feeling. Anyway.. blah blah, you know the rest. EXCEPT in a moment of curious sensibility though my extreme debilitating haze, I DONT sleep with her. I tell her I just want to be friends, thats the most important thing.
I do this for a combination of several reasons:
1. I will be seeing her a lot. She is firmly in my friend group.
2. I couldnt find a condom and didnt want to tear my house apart
3. She has cute friends.
4. It drives girls crazy when you LJBF THEM.
5. I know I can hit it later.
I'm just amazed at my mental fortitude even in the face of seemingly insurmountable drunken horniness. Regardless, we just slept next to each other. She has a great body. At 8 she gets up and goes to work. Apparently she passes my roommate on the staircase out of my house as he comes home.. they had a hilarious glance and she had a walk-of-shame face on. Wish I could have seen it, haha
you have a big exotic thing going for you being foreign. Also, make out that you know minimal language, when they ask how long youve been there say a couple months. They like to think they can teach you things.
