to throw a party or not to throw a party?

[tsmith2334]

here's the deal.. the parents are going away on vacation next weekend. i'm going to be home on break from school, and a girl i'm interested in is going to be home too. i'm thinking about having a couple people over and drinking, and inviting her and telling her she's welcome to bring friends. i figure it would be a good oppurtunity to hang out at the very least, if you catch my drift.

there is a problem though, while me and my friends are all 21, she's 19. so i run into a couple of risks there. underaged drinking, hosting a party, providing alcohol to minors. and of course if the parents found out they wouldn't be happy.

also, she has an older brother i know personally, and i feel like if he found out about it, it would be considered pretty scummy.

so what could be done here? should i not worry about risks and try to have as a good time as possible, or should i be more cautious? any suggestions or opinions? thanks

 

[DJDamage]

here's the deal.. the parents are going away on vacation next weekend. i'm going to be home on break from school, and a girl i'm interested in is going to be home too. i'm thinking about having a couple people over and drinking, and inviting her and telling her she's welcome to bring friends. i figure it would be a good oppurtunity to hang out at the very least, if you catch my drift.

Your real intentions is the girl, yet you are going to all those lengths to put an elaborate scheme of throwing a party to window dress your intentions?? When you throw a party the only person that is not having a good time is usually the host of the party because he has to worry about everything (as you mentioned above). With that kind of mindset its not such a good idea to try and get her right there and there especially when there is other men in the party vying for competition.

Can't you just ask her out on a date and not worry about it? the worst possible outcome is that she will say no.

 

[dav22]

Yeah, chances are you'll be so busy making sure all those drunks aren't ****ing up your place you probably won't have much time with her.

Better yet go out on a date that night and if things go well you've got an empty place to come home to

 

[Bvbidd]

He has a much better chance of getting with her if he throws the party.

First of all she'll probally say no to a date like most girls do and say yes to the party as your not making it a "date". Then she'll get drunk, and your free to do as you wish.

But do be aware of the drunks, I remember when I was a little younger I'd go to parties for the sole reason to consume as much as possible, passing out everytime and annoying people.

 

[DJDamage]

First of all she'll probally say no to a date like most girls do and say yes to the party as your not making it a "date". Then she'll get drunk, and your free to do as you wish.

1) Girls who say no to hanging out with you one on one are not that interested in you to begin with, and you probably saved yourself on the spot alot of time and a bit of money. This gives you the oppertuinty to go after other girls.

2) Just because a girl gets drunk, doesn't mean she will sleep with albeit it is easier. Lets not forget that he is going to tell her "you can bring some of your friends" - how much you want to bet some of those friends will be overprotective guys who want a piece of her ass as well?!

3) that would look great on the police report if someone tips them of (someone in the party) that an underage girl got really drunk and slept with the host in the party.

 

[tsmith2334]

i'm using the term "party" pretty loosely here. i'm thinking no more then ten people, just chillin, watching tv, drinking, and possibly smoking. probably like 5-10 people, all friends or friend's friends.

the reason i'm hesistant to ask her out on a date is because we went on one right before school started up, which was the end of august. so i want to switch things up a little. plus, i figure hosting a party would add to my social value.

as for over protective male friends, i'm thinking (and hoping) that she'd bring girl friends. maybe i can ammend that by saying "feel free to bring some of your girls".

i'm just kind of worried about the nieghbors or anyone doing something stupid. also her brother, her family, or my family finding out. so i'm on the fence here.

 

[Tenzen]

ehh u'll be fine its more like a get together, u can limit how much everyone else drinks, don't bust out with more then 2 bottles and u should be fine.... Also ask a close buddy to look out for the house so u won't be too worried when u get some alone time with da chick. So u can focus on her instead of wondering if some drunk ppl are f-in up ur house.