To the Good-looking guys here...

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How often do you get extensive eye contact from women? Not just a quick glance and look away, I mean the type where women ogle you for 3+ seconds.

Eg. I work in an office with over 2000+ workers, mostly women in their 30s and 40s. I'm a young dude, and I get checked out quite a lot by the ladies (and even the dudes) when I go down for coffee, or look for a table in the cafeteria.

For most of my life I was a skinny little runt with bad hair, bad skin and bad fashion so I never had anyone looking my way. I'm working out now with a better hairstyle and dress more yuppie, and somehow I've morphed into a relatively handsome young dude.This happens even when I'm driving, boarding transit, shopping, at the laundromat, dental hygienists, just going about the day running errands. But I'm still not used to this kind of attention. Is this normal for an attractive young guy?

Ironically, the one setting in which I don't get a lot of eye contact comparatively is at bars and clubs. Typically girls are there to attention-***** and put up pics on Facebook, not meet men. I get digits but they invariably flake, and it's hard to sustain any real connection when dealing with all the nonsense that goes on in a lot of clubs (****blocks, loud music, drunk roid monkeys etc.)

Thus, I haven't had much success in the night game. And since I get a lot of eye contact throughout the day I'm thinking on working on my day game. I live in a college town with a bevy of young cuties so opportunities are ripe for the enterprising playa.

But I'd always thought day game was skeevy and that I'd be harassing busy women as they go about their day, but why not give it a go? Since I get extensive eye contact from girls as it is should I take this as an invitation to approach?

Something like "Hey, I know this is really random, but I saw you from over there and thought you were really cute, and I'd kick myself if I didn't come over and say Hi."

Bars and clubs are no longer good for meeting women. So how effective is day game really?
 

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Yes, go for it. Once you get a smile, you have a green light to approach.
Extensive eye-contact, not much, but the smiles fairly often.

I get these in the summer or when I wear tighter close to show off the body a bit. On the transit, they do check me out, but mostly when I am dressed well. I think my "babe face" is lacking a little - cant do much about it.

Being cute will always land you a number, a kiss, a hug, etc. but how many will actually go out with you? Still numbers game. I do it from time to time to practice -that's all.
 

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You're passing the initial looks test, so that's a plus. I was one of those type guys who stayed to himself and never really bothered anyone. I was getting a good little bit of female attention, and when I pimped my ride, it just skyrocketed! I ended up with a much better social life.

If you're remotely cute, you'll be viewed more positively and ladies will be more likely to let you in on near them. Consider yourself blessed. Now you just have to do some talking.

My pimped out ride helped me in nightclubs too. Turn on my neon kit, bump the sound, open the lamborghini doors, and just drive by the line of people trying to get in. It turned so many heads. Even when I went to the Bayou Classic in New Orleans, this happened after leaving the Superdome. Girls checking me out and I was getting more attention that what I otherwise would have gotten. And I was told how cute I was, etc. But I still had to talk and get the digits, and it worked!

Case closed.
 

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I have a 60s car and women find it cute somehow (pretty much everyone likes it: kids, guys, teens, grannies), but no woman will ride in it twice. he he pusssies. You can flirt at intersections, stop lights, etc. Pretty much everything works for you once you look good. You could pick up chix in a 1992 Mercury topaz if you were a sexy mofo.
 

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I almost exclusively get results from daygame (night too though). It's actually pretty easy. You don't HAVE to go direct like you mentioned, but if she is smiling back at you and giving you the vibe, just go for it! Initiate the convo and make plans, not get numbers. Much less likely to flake.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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Yes good looks do work, specially for short term commitments, long term it’s more of attitude, which will improve anyway when you looking good because everyone treating you differently effectively changing the way you act.

Bars and clubs are no longer good for meeting women. So how effective is day game really?
Yea I pretty much gave up night game, especially night clubs. Whenever I’m going to nightclubs I ‘m going out with mates to have a ball, not to get chicks, effectively having a good time gives out a good vibe and the chicks come anyway.

If you look good you probably will drop all your game!

Why?

Because the chicks will game you.


Like pook said, you don’t do anything, you just stand there (read “What every skinny guy should know” by Pook)

So at the end of the day the easiest way to get laid is to get in shape and look good.
True.
 

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56andre said:
If you look good you probably will drop all your game!

Why?

Because the chicks will game you.
Only if they are confident. Some Women will be very nervous about talking to you because their insecurities will overtake them.
 

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Only if they are confident. Some Women will be very nervous about talking to you because their insecurities will overtake them.
True, but they will make it a whole lot fvcking easier for you.

Even if you have to open because of her insecurities she will try and keep the chips in the game after the first initial contact, and even if she is still insecure to game you then, she will not resist your advances
 

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56andre said:
True, but they will make it a whole lot fvcking easier for you.

Even if you have to open because of her insecurities she will try and keep the chips in the game after the first initial contact, and even if she is still insecure to game you then, she will not resist your advances
Stop...so far this thread is just a blip in the encyclopedia of lies exhibited on this forum regarding looks. Let's keep it that way and let it get lost in oblivion where it belongs.
 

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We have a consensus here about the fact that good looks do make it easier for you. Where is the lie in that?

P.S. could not resist.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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PapiChulo said:
We have a consensus here about the fact that good looks do make it easier for you. Where is the lie in that?
Really? Where? Pook doesn't agree with that. The DJ Bible doesn't agree with that. David DeAngelo, Style, Mystery, Tyler Durden, Gunwitch, and all the other top gurus don't agree with that. Charles Darwin and 72 Nobel Prize winners don't agree with that. Where's this consensus? Are you talking about Rescue Mission and Falcon25? Come on, now.
 

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Umm, looks are HUGE. All the mating game really boils down to is reading non-verbals, projecting open body language, being a decent conversational, and having the best look you possibly can given what you've got. It's really simple.
 

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I might be wrong, but maybe, people check you out at work because you are younger.

If you are super good looking you will get a lot of stares at the club. Of course many people say that women aren´t there to meet men, but it´s just to make them feel better. 90% of men don´t meet even women standard of "average looking", that´s why it is so difficult for most to get girls... Of course if you have game, you will get girls but if you are not good looking, the relationship will not last, at least with a girl that is prettier than you, in most couples women are better looking.

I´ve seen it so many times, women in desperation for super good looking guys....behaving like the classical AFC. 6 months of hard work and good diet at the gym will do it much better than years of sosuave.
 

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Just a Shot Away said:
Stop...so far this thread is just a blip in the encyclopedia of lies exhibited on this forum regarding looks. Let's keep it that way and let it get lost in oblivion where it belongs.
Well then you must be 1 ugly fvcker
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Just a Shot Away said:
Really? Where? Pook doesn't agree with that. The DJ Bible doesn't agree with that. David DeAngelo, Style, Mystery, Tyler Durden, Gunwitch, and all the other top gurus don't agree with that. Charles Darwin and 72 Nobel Prize winners don't agree with that. Where's this consensus? Are you talking about Rescue Mission and Falcon25? Come on, now.
Smell that.......................smells like a load of BULLSH1T!!!

Not only you 1 ugly fvcker, you also smell like sh1t....

You need to get your facts right before you spin some sh1t like that
 

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I didn't read all the posts, but yes, if you're decent / good looking, you'll attract a lot of glances. When I'm in my happy zone, which I've been for the past 2 months, I attract a lot of attention. When I'm not there, I sleep badly, I look tired and grumpy/disgruntled during the day and the amount of attention I get drops.

I can walk into a party and immediately get opened by people, or just have to open them and they stick to me. I dress well, have a good looking haircut(and I make sure it's kept good looking) and have confidence. Last friday I had a party and within 30 minutes 2 seperate girls opened me, we danced, had good kino and great convos.

Don't get the looks catch on and become arrogant. Just stay in a good mood, relax and enjoy the attention. Don't turn into what you loathe: an attention wh*re.
 

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56andre said:
Well then you must be 1 ugly fvcker
My looks have no bearing on the science of sexual selection. However, I do have a profile picture so that you may judge for yourself. That's the beauty of being on the side of facts instead of theory, like you. I have nothing to hide.

You need to get your facts right before you spin some sh1t like that
No spin. Everything I said was true. You're welcome to try to prove otherwise, though.

SandHawk said:
I didn't read all the posts, but yes, if you're decent / good looking, you'll attract a lot of glances.
Sure, but the catch is that the glances don't translate to interest. They really have no bearing on whether or not a woman is attracted to you, so there's no point in stressing about it. The OP apparently was asleep when this was taught in Seduction 101. I get glances/stares/comments all day, every day and haven't been laid in 4 months. I've currently been working on a HB 6ish for 3+ weeks to no avail, who stares to the point of making me uncomfortable.
 

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Just a Shot Away said:
Sure, but the catch is that the glances don't translate to interest. They really have no bearing on whether or not a woman is attracted to you, so there's no point in stressing about it. The OP apparently was asleep when this was taught in Seduction 101. I get glances/stares/comments all day, every day and haven't been laid in 4 months. I've currently been working on a HB 6ish for 3+ weeks to no avail, who stares to the point of making me uncomfortable.
I wasn't implying that glances automatically mean interest. I'm a strong believer in that looks don't matter all that much for women. Looks provide you with a free audience, but you still have to get your foot between the door with proper game.
 

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SandHawk said:
I wasn't implying that glances automatically mean interest. I'm a strong believer in that looks don't matter all that much for women. Looks provide you with a free audience, but you still have to get your foot between the door with proper game.
That's fair. I can live with that.
 
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