To see multiple girls at once?

[TheTraveller]

Hey all,

I've been seeing this one girl for almost a month now... but I've also recently dated two other girls in the past week. This has been my breakthrough time! It's the first time I've actually been on dates and all three girls are great and willing to see me more!

My question is this: What are your views on dating multiple women? Lady X lives close to me whereas the other two live a bit farther, but in the same city. Any tips would be appreciated, as I'm assuming at some point I'd have to narrow my selection! But it's just too much fun with having a choice.

Thanks!
- t

 

[Ronin I]

Keep it up for as long as you can.

Hell, if you have the time add one more to the rotation.

 

[G_S]

What Ronin said. Girls are far more competitive than guys. If they know you're sought after by other girls their attraction to you will only increase.

 

[LaidbackCharmer]

Date as many as convenient for you...that is my philosophy

LBC

 

[duke007]

If they ask or find out should you deny it or just say something like, "Aren't you the inquisitive one?"

What happens if two of the girls you see are equally worth keeping for a long term relationship and you can't decide which to LJBF through regular dates?

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Try for more.. see what you can handle bro... I had to test myself at one point on my quest for DJ'ness.

One thing I learned was, be careful booking your time... I had two in one night, by accident. I had totally forgot I had booked one chic earlier that week. It was funny, and I thought it was a bit ****y of me to not cancel one of the two that night. Even though they were both late dates, I'm lucky the times were not the same. One was a date, the other was just a booty call.

Also, cellphone calls.... make sure you have it turned off. Nothing like trying to explain to them who was on the phone. Don't even ask them not to call you at a certain time, they don't care, or listen.

 

[The Edge]

Originally posted by TheTraveller
Hey all,
What are your views on dating multiple women?

Lie, ...Lie ........ Lie again........ and be phukken paranoid as hell.. Oh!,... and space out your visits to each one..

The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '

 

[princelydeeds]

Keep your cool. Go with the flow. Why lock yourself into anything when you can have your cake and eat it too. DOn't ask for any commitment but be sure to demand your space and respect. Without saying it overtly, having other women helps. It means you arent available all teh time. If they ask if you're seeing other peopel say all you are looking for is good friends and a nice time. Tell them making early commitments makes you nervous and puts too much pressure on new relationships. Try not to lie but only give as much info as you have to give. Focus on each when you are with them but when you are away from them be mysterious. make them be curious about what you do with your time away from them. Make them feel special when you are around but insignificant when you are out of sight.

There is a fine line but the line is clear. It is important not to be a sucker for love. You have to be able to like everyone a whole lot but love no one. Many guys don't have it in them, to screw a really pretty chick who is crazy cool nice and sweet yet not fall in love with her.

 

[MisterAl]

Congrats.. this is how it should be!

I'm in the same boat now, and for the first time in my life I have changing and growing set of choices. Here are the benefits I've noticed:

- With a full schedule, you're forced to put off contact with even the girls you like, rather than having to consciously withhold phone calls and contact just so you don't act like an AFC. Appropriate DJ behavior grows from necessity.

- When a girl suggests a date on a night you're busy with another girl, all you have to say is, "can't I'm busy," then counter. This raises IL in my experience. You don't and shouldn't even have to say you're seeing others.

- Confidence goes up because you're busy and happy.

- You no longer act desperate at the girl you _really_ like.

- It's way easier to next a flaker when you have options.

- It forces you to come up with less expensive dates, and you get more for the money. ;-)

The whole cycle is self-perpetuating. You act more attractive by necessity, and more women may be drawn to you. God I wish I understood this many years ago!

MisterAl

 

[The Edge]

You are wasting your time dude.... There is no set way of dating multiple girls.... Especially if they are classy beautiful women.. Unless the chykk was some crack fiend hooker, no woman in her right mind would let you fukk her knowing you are fukking 20 others... NO WAY IN HELL.... Believe me I have tried that shytt and I have two flat tyres and a hand print still embedded on the right side of my face to show for being honest with each of them...

Motto: If you are going to date multiple women with some ounce of self esteem, LEARN HOW TO LIE !! And cover your a$s!!

The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '

 

[InLawsHateMe]

.....and whether you will admit it or not, cover your wallet.

Dating multi-chics = $$$$$

 

[YoureSoSexy]

It's tough, but you can pull it off. A lot depends on the girls also. If they are the type that constantly need you around you might as well forget about dating other people. So, you just need to monitor your own situation. But as the other member said, cover your wallet because dating can be expensive if you're not careful.

 

[nw1512]

As InLaws said

Look out for your wallet $$ man if you can keep that under tabs you've got yourself a fu*king good time.

Keep up the good work mate

 

[TheTraveller]

Thanks...... it gets tricky if you then want to sleep with more than one of them (but not in the same bed, lol).

About that situation, I'd think that I'd refrain from going "all the way" with one of them if I'd think they would cling on to me after doing so. So I guess it is just judging personalities and trying not to hurt any of them, since the choice would be narrowed down eventually.

- t

 

[princelydeeds]

Sum of you guys are too sensitive. I date one woman right now. Im bonin at least 5, I think. Are you talking about dating, if so why do you wanna date that many women? Or are you talking about boning multiple women. The most I actually date is 1 or 2, the rest are just there to get fvcked when I feel like giving it to them.

 

[am4591]

Princelydeeds has the right attitude. Except for one thing--why spend money on somebody you're not bangin'?

 

[princelydeeds]

Originally posted by am4591
Princelydeeds has the right attitude. Except for one thing--why spend money on somebody you're not bangin'?

The one or two i date are the wifey type chicks. they are the ones i see LTR potential. Its funny the chick im really diggin is 27 hasnt had sex in 7 years, is in church 24/7 and nope havent boned her yet. I spend money on her but she spends more on me.

 

[bugsquish]

I started seeing this cute chick KB (7.5) on the rebound after a 4 year relationship (with an 8.5), then ended it after a month cuz I "wasnt ready for another committment".

Thing is, KB wanted to keep seeing me (ie having sex), even when i started seeing this other cutie, DD (7). I was straight with DD from the start about sleeping with KB and amazingly SHE put up with it too! So in the end i kinda had 2 girlfriends who knew about each other (but hated each other). They even slept over at my house together (but I could never get them in the same bed damn).

They were both 18 (I was 23 at the time) so I guess they were pretty naive. The amazing thing was I was an AFC and developed a bit of two-itis. Kinda kicked me into deep AFC sh*t when they had enough of me and got themselves real boyfriends. Then I started really pining over my original 4 year one-itis. That's why I needed this site...

It lasted for about 8 months! But two-itis sucks...

 

[Slickster]

You are at a fork in the road. Each girl is a different path to take.

If I were you I would try and stay at that fork for a long time.