To fight for her...more AFC or DJ?

[crotchrocket]

I've been wondering, is it more of an AFC behavior or more DJ, to fight off your competition for a woman that is in your 'sights', or just let her go, NEXT.

Lets say you have just met and are just getting to know a woman that is obviously interested in you, and you are in her. She is not yet your girlfriend or FB or..., then just as you are getting to that point another guy comes into the picture, and begins to steal her attention away from you.

Do you do whatever it takes to win her, or do you let her go? Now as simple as it may sound, think about it, for a minute. Does a true DJ care? can't a DJ just move onto his next conquest? But wait, isn't it a typical AFC characteristic to just give up and walk away defeated, and rejected?

Any thoughts?

 

[California Love]

If she's worth it, you should definitely invest some resources into her. It doesnt mean being clingy, rather "protecting your investments."


In the end, she should be standing up for herself and for the relationship as well (if shes a keeper).

 

[GirlCrazy]

desperation = bad

persistence = good

 

[rgeere]

I would only next a woman if there was a hugh risk in the investment that would cause irrepairable harm to myself or that she was a poor investment.

As far as fighting for the relationship, if you are by any means a keeper she will not want to lose you to someone else. You fight by keeping her hooked to you and. just like water off of a duck's back, ignoring everyone else's pathetic attempts to wreck your relationship.

 

[#1 P.I.M.P.]

Originally posted by crotchrocket
I've been wondering, is it more of an AFC behavior or more DJ, to fight off your competition for a woman that is in your 'sights', or just let her go, NEXT.

Lets say you have just met and are just getting to know a woman that is obviously interested in you, and you are in her. She is not yet your girlfriend or FB or..., then just as you are getting to that point another guy comes into the picture, and begins to steal her attention away from you.

Do you do whatever it takes to win her, or do you let her go? Now as simple as it may sound, think about it, for a minute. Does a true DJ care? can't a DJ just move onto his next conquest? But wait, isn't it a typical AFC characteristic to just give up and walk away defeated, and rejected?

Any thoughts?

It seems as if u have the upper hand my brother. if u were in there first and played yor cards right she should know u better and be more trusting and willing to go out with u. This guy is just trying to set his mre and get in the friendly (but not friend) zone. So keep doing what your doing and ignore him, u might even be able to make him jeolous, which would cause him to make AFC mistakes.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Re: Re: To fight for her...more AFC or DJ?

Originally posted by rgeere

...if you are by any means a keeper she will not want to lose you to someone else. You fight by keeping her hooked to you and. just like water off of a duck's back, ignoring everyone else's pathetic attempts to wreck your relationship.

exactly...
If you have your game up, you won't have to worry about other guys trying to swoop in and take her because she won't be interested in them. If someone does take her from ya, go back and think about what you could have done different. Fix your mistakes and move on. Chalk it up as a loss, HER loss...get it?

 

[crotchrocket]

Some good advice here, makes me think, some questions come to mind now.

The girl that inspired this thread, well she and I have been out 3 times already, at her birthday party-she hung around me the whole time even though there was 14 other guys and 4 girls, and she has already agreed to go with me to a wedding in 2 weeks. I'm thinking I'm going to lay low until the wedding, and just use what attracted her in the first place to make her forget this other guy even exists, and let it go where it will from there.

The questions now are; Is she worth any further investment, how do I know that she is? (Maybe the fact that I am questioning it at all is an answer in itself.) Did I not make a move when I should have, or was this other guy there all along and she was just keeping her other options (me) around while she waited? I don't know, and it would be nice to, because I have other options too (and yes this girl knows it).

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

This reminds me of something that happened, LMAO....

My friend was talking to this girl who already had a boyfriend, and she started liking him, so the boyfriend began stalking my friend and even followed him when he was driving his father around...Well one day my friend calls me and says to bring as many people as possible cause their might be a rumble...Well the girl didnt want the boyfriend anymore and went with my friend, and the boyfriend brought his friends and we were gonna rumble in a busy parking lot in front of a store....This dude was crying saying how much he loved her and that my friend was a snake cause he pretended to be their friend but he stole the girl...OMG it was hilarious...Well, the kid saw all of us and he calmed down and he didnt want to fight after that cause we had more people...What a clown...lol...

 

[NewMan]

Fight for her - just don't turn into a wussy. Fight DJ style.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

When you mow someone elses lawn you gotta be prepared to deal with the consequences. I was physically threatened by a girl's boyfriend for sniffing around the wrong tree. Not that I was too worried about it - I told him to go ahead and follow through on his threat 'I'm right here pal, take your best shot' and the guy chickened out.

Problem is, I knew alot of the same people as him and most of them took his side on the matter - so I'm pretty much persona non grata with that particular group of people now.

Then again, it's not totally my fault, as his girl was the one unbuckling my belt, what am I supposed to do, say no?

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by crotchrocket
I'm thinking I'm going to lay low until the wedding, and just use what attracted her in the first place

Now you're getting it...
If you have other options, work on them, stop concentrating so much on one girl.

 

[Celadus]

her birthday party-she hung around me the whole time even though there was 14 other guys and 4 girls

14 other guys and 4 girls

Seems like a big difference between the number of guys and girls for a birthday party. Is she a tom boy?

 

[crotchrocket]

To answer Celadus and biker_gixxer's questions. Call it a sign of how far I have come towards my DJ goal, but it seems its the most popular ones that seem to be attracted to me and vice versa, I can't help it.

As any guy that has experienced it knows, there is nothing quite like having a room full of guys as your competition while the little-blonde-bombshell-birthday girl ignores them and flirts with me! How could a guy not enjoy that, this whole thing has become somewhat of a sport to me now.

A rather enjoyable one I'd say!